Best friends and pregnancies 🙈

[PurpleLove19]

To some degree I understand why pregnant women may be so wrapped up in all of the happiness of being pregnant and may not want to listen to others’ problems or ask how you are because they are in their happy bubble!

If the day ever comes for me I will certainly do my best to not change- especially towards those I’m close to!

I feel so disappointed that one of my best friends is treating me like a one way street.

What’s happened to her? Yes it’s awkward with my struggles and she’s told me be honest and open and it’s fine but is there any need not to even ask “How are you?” “How are things going with treatment?”

One way bloody street at the moment and I’m bloody sick of it! She will probs think that me being distant with her is because I’m sad about her pregnancy when in actual fact your pregnancy has changed your brain!

Monday morning rant done ✅

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It’s such a difficult journey & we watched all our friends & family have babies it was so heartbreaking. Most fell so easily. 🙄I still a bit feel resentful for the difficult journey we had to endure to get our baby but I guess we will appreciate it that bit more.

Really hope your time is coming soon & this soon becomes a distant painful memory. Keep believing your time will come ,till then put yourself & your needs first xxx

[Sunshineraye]

I had the same issue with my sister so I stopped contacting her and yesterday she finally contacted me. I told her to watch ‘one more shot’ and she did and came back to me and said she didn't really know the extent of ivf and infertility and now has more understanding of it. Mentioning the programme to close ones is a good way of letting them see for themselves and how they should be mindful of others they know who don’t conceive so easily x

[Seha04]

Your post actually made my day coz I experienced the same thing. It’s hard for people to understand - they only know our situation from the surface, they’re unaware of all the struggles we’ve faced and are still facing.

[Annie1609 in reply to Seha04]

I could not have put this better myself!!

[looploopy709]

Hello Dace19

I totally understand how you are feeling at the moment. I had two friends announce they are pregnant in one week. The one announced in such an awful and awkward way to me. I cried for three days 😩 and the one did it so beautifully. They both know what I am going through and since they have been pregnant not one of them asks how things are going my side. I'm always asking how they are feeling etc. Its a proper one way street at the moment. It's sad but you do find out who your friends are when things like this happen. All my love your way hun xx

[Kempton]

Have you tried bringing it up with her? I don't mean saying you're hurt, but just discussing what stage you're at when she rambles on about her pregnancy?

[Wannabemammy]

We had another pregnancy announcement at work yesterday, that’s 2 pregnant, one on maternity leave and my next year at least full of baby chat in the staff room. I find that sometimes it’s best just to avoid the people (and places) concerned so you have distance from it all.

I hope your friend realises how it is for you and is more understanding. X