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Kizza07
Kizza07

So as some of u may or may not know ive had one failed round of ivf after that i couldnt bare anymore lossing my furbabie to cancer then my dad dying suddenly after that i fell pregnant naturally three times in two years which were all ectopic and resulted in well now i have another positive and i cant even get excited with the last three being a loss anyone else in a similar position just needing a chat with someone who knows how i feel xx

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DianeArnold
DianeArnoldAdministrator

Hi Kizza. Oh dear, you’ve certainly had more than your fair share of losses. I’m sure someone will pop on here who knows how you feel. Just keeping everything crossed that this is your time. Love and hugs. Diane

Kizza07
Kizza07 in reply to DianeArnold

Thank you 💗

Im so sorry for all of your losses, so sad! To lose your dad on top and your fur baby must be devastating. Its really hard to muster any kind of excitement for a pregnancy when you've had losses. We had 4 negatives then a BFP but lost it at 6 weeks and we had a miscarriage/CP on our next transfer. Im about to start my next cycle and its so scary....the prospect of another BFN is bad enough but a positive and suffering another loss is gonna be the tough bit. Lots of us have been in such similar situations so we're all here for you! Hugs.....congrats on that BFP though.xx

Kizza07
Kizza07 in reply to Cinderella5

Hey im sorry for ur losses too hun😢 life just isnt fair is it ive had bad news after bad news i dont really have anyone to talk to that knows how it feels so i like to come on here to speak with other woman on the same or similar boat really hope u get there too 💗

Cinderella5
Cinderella5 in reply to Kizza07

Thank you!! Life feels pretty cruel sometimes. I'm very lucky in some ways, my life is enriched by the people in my life but some of the things I've experienced, not so much!😕 You're definitely not alone, I've been on here for 4ish years and the support I have been given is amazing & to give it back along with sharing is healing too. Have you thought about counselling at all? It's not for everyone but perhaps a thought?!xx

Firstly I feel your pain I’ve had miscarriages and I had an ectopic 3 months ago and unfortunately I lost my tube and my baby. I’ve got stage 4 endo and my chances are even less. I’m 30 years old and I’m exhausted feel like giving up. My body just doesn’t want to let me carry. I had surgery 5 weeks ago and I have been told my other tube is okay but I still fear losing that other tube. I think if I ever get pregnant it will be in the tube or il miscarry. What’s your reason for infertility.? Don’t stress yourself your obviously very fertile to be pregnant so many times just seems like your body wants to wait while baby is safe and this time it could be it our bodies are very clever. Have you had any symptoms this pregnancy xxxx

I had pid the somewhat fixed my tubes 😢 im sorry for ur losses too its just so unfair im 31 and i just feel im never gonna get there i was only two days late when i took a test yesterday i just knew plus sore boobs but i dont dare get my hopes up i seem to miss cary always around 8weeks 😪 i hope u get ur little miracle one day 💗

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to Kizza07

The people that wait the longest make the better parents...just keep resting and try not to stress I know it’s hard but I believe our body allows it when it’s best for our miracle to grow...your a very brave woman never forget that I wish you all the luck in the world I will keep an eye out for your posts and always here if you want to talk..sending baby dust your way...xxxx

Kizza07
Kizza07 in reply to Faith103

Thank u soo much ur msg means alot xxx

I’m sorry for all you have been through. It is so difficult. I had an ectopic last year and have had one round of failed ivf. I had a laparoscopy in July and was diagnosed with stage 4 endo. We are now trying naturally before embarking on another round of IVF in the new year. It’s so so hard. Stay positive xxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

You are in the same boat as me I had an ectopic 3 months ago I’ve just had my lap 5 weeks ago to clear up stage 4 endo.wish you all the luck xxxx

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

I was thinking the same thing! Are you going for IVF or trying naturally again? Xxxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

My gynaecologist has told us best chances are between now and 9 months so we are going to try naturally and he’s put us forward for ivf he said if 9 months doesn’t work go to ivf. What about you? Xxxx

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

Yes we are trying until Feb then I think we are back to IVF. I’m 33 and my AMH is 10, so I’m anxious about this. We are going to try the NHS this time. Fingers crossed. I’m in my 2 week now. Ovulated a few days ago! Having regular acupuncture too 😊 xxxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

My first period after my lap is due to arrive anytime. I’ve had some brown spotting but I’m not coming on so I don’t know what is going on. I’ve bought ovulation tests but no point in testing until I’ve had my period because I don’t know where I am in my cycle. Awwww that’s amazing have to keep busy the next few days 😃 I had acupuncture in the past it wasn’t something that worked for me. I am currently meditating I find this really good. Different things work for different people. How long have you begin trying to conceive since the op xxxx I’m scared I won’t ovulate again it’s a fear after the operation I think

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

3 months now 😬 but I think the first month everything was settling down. I am SO terrified of having another ectopic but not as terrified as not having children so I just want to keep making progress. I’m using ovulation sticks. I ovulated really late in my first cycle so watch out from that. I panicked that I had stopped ovulating! But it was fine. I’ve had 3 acupuncture sessions. I think I’ll keep going for a little while yet. Have you had IVF? Xxxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

This period that I’m started is more painful that I expected it to be. I thought with all the endo removed well at least for a little while I would get a few periods without pain but doesn’t seem like that’s the case. It’s quite scary really how a baby can even be safe inside there with this pain. I’m so scared il never be a mum I really am. I’m usually pretty regular with my ovulation that’s one thing I can thank my body for. What day do your normally ovulate. I’m scared about ectopic as well I had such a bad experience had to ring the ambulance and I’m so lucky to be alive but I have my babies ashes on the mantle piece with a candle that I light every night xxxx

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

Aw bless you. It’s so hard isn’t it?

They didn’t manage to remove all my endo. My first few periods were really painful but the last one was absolutely fine. So I hope they get easier for you too.

I normally ovulate day 11/12 but that first cycle i ovulated day 17. I’m now back no normal though 😁 I’m the same, I do ovulate regularly too. What is your AMH? Xxxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

I’m not sure what it is but on my ivf cycle I got 9 eggs. Ended up with 5 blastocyst I think my AMH is pretty average. I haven’t had that tested tho since my last ivf which was 4 years ago. How do I find this out? What does it need to be to be good. Il keep an eye out on my ovulation I’ve got the clear blue ovulation kit. Yes I hope my periods become less painful it’s my first one so I’m hoping this is just a bad run. I want to get going with things really with only having one tube my chances are less plus stage 4 endo. Xxxx I was amazed I got pregnant with my ectopic naturally tbh. So horrible how having a child to some people falls so easily but we go through hell xxx

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

Yeh I fell pregnant after 3 months of trying then found I had an ectopic. Then got diagnosed with endometriosis. It was pretty tough.

So have you got some frozen embryos?

It is SOO frustrating when everyone is getting pregnant, and so easily! I get so annoyed. It’s very unfair. I find just concentrating on my issues helps. It is so difficult though! ☹️ xxxx

Faith103
Faith103 in reply to kitscat

What’s the situation with us only having one tube? How does it work for conceiving. No I don’t have any embryos in the freezer.where did you do your ivf? Which nhs are you going to go with this time xxxx

kitscat
kitscat in reply to Faith103

One tube reduces fertility to 70% my gynaecologist said. Apparently the fallopian can move across and pick up eggs off the opposite ovary! Clever! I am in South Wales so had my IVF here. Xxxx

I am so sorry for your losses. Congratulations on your positive test.

We are all IVF warriors and it’s amazing how strong we are. Stay strong and take each day at a time. Xxx

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