4 days to go until pregnancy test. I’m quite a planner, so one thing I thought that might help me cope if it fails is if I have prepared a list of things I can do (that I’ve had to avoid for months).
This is my list so far:
1) share a bottle of crisp white wine with my husband (out of new wine glasses from John Lewis)
2) as above but a bottle of left over wedding fizz that we couldn’t drink on our anniversary
3) do park run
4) soak in a hot tub (maybe drink the wedding fizz in it)
5) eat Chinese takeaway (esp crispy duck pancakes and sesame prawn toasts)
6) drink pot of real tea, no decaf!
7) go on holiday to New Orleans
Interested to hear what would be on other people’s lists?
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I think this is a great idea and often do something similar! Usually revolving around food and the spa and getting my hair done 😂 fingers crossed you won’t need to do the list though xx
I've got two days to go but fairly sure it hasn't work since yesterday's spotting has progressed to bleeding and period like cramps today. I've been comforting myself today with thoughts of all the things I will do this weekend when I'll know for sure - I got DH to hide the pregnancy tests so I wouldn't test early...my list so far:
1. Chill and open the last bottle of elderflower fizz that's left from our wedding last year and didn't get to drink on our anniversary (ditto)
2. Have a glass of said fizz in a hot bubble bath.
3. Go paddle boarding properly without fear of falling in and possibly twisting enlarged ovary by having to scramble back on board - though that could still happen so better not go wild.
4. Book holiday to New Zealand for Christmas + New Year.
5. Choose a puppy. We've been looking for ages but holding off to see how this went.
6. Book a triathlon for next year since I had to cancel the one (my first) I was supposed to do this Saturday.
7. Begin to plan my return to running and walking mountains.
8. And have a real coffee, nearly forgot that one.
None of these will substitute for the sadness but I know we'll be OK.
Lots of love and good wishes to you, with the best will in the world I hope you don't get to do anything on your list anytime soon xo
Hey, I have a question here if you don't mind.... are you not allowed to take hot bath for now? I haven't heard of it. Is it just after the FET till the test or over the whole procedure? In fact, I have heard that lot's of women enjoy spa and massage sessions during the 2WW just to unwind all the stress. Oh and these days they have a pregnancy-specific massage as well as acupuncture as well. I'm not really a fan and does not even believe that with a real infertility issue just acupuncture or spa can do much help. A lot of women, however, find the rejuvenation it beings help imbibe optimism and hormonal balance but possibily nothing more than that. I wish you all the luck in the world to find sucess this time. Then you'll need to make new planings and get some mini-vacation to celebrate pregnancy too... that's a great idea trust me.
Hey, I was advised not to have baths after egg collection (in case of infection) and have heard not to after transfer because the embryo shouldn’t be too hot. And for men of course it’s bad for sperm, earlier in the process.
I had baths before egg collection, I don’t think that is a problem.
I do go to acupuncture as there is good scientific evidence linking better ivf success rates, but I don’t feel greatly different for it....it is nice though to lay down for a hour and listen to soothing music without my phone.
A mini vacation to celebrate sounds fantastic. Let’s hope.
Thanks for the information, that's definitely some new information added to my resources. I have heard this before tbh so had no idea about it. I guess I'll ask my doc to for reconfirmation if everyone needs it. I'm yet to start my IVF after having failed attempts at IUI though last year. So my doc recommends IVF as usual as the next step... it was expected I guess. We were supposed to start the IVF this summer was on a break to start again afresh and also to secure some funds for the IVF process as we've heard there are always additional costs. Well, we also wanted to accumulate some information on what should we do to improve our chances of success so didn't rush in. I recommended the vacation because I know from my own experience it helps.
This is a great list and some fab suggestions from others!! I’d definitely be pouring myself a lovely glass of fizz and enjoying it in a nice hot bubble bath x
I love your approach to life totally... that's the way to deal with oddities of life with an ongoing winner's spirit I'd say. Taking a break is the best one I'd say, it's something that always works be it celebration or unwind. Your planing however once again proves that we women are so damn strong and powerful emotions. The infertility journey is so cruel that we forget to find happiness in all of it. I think you should also make a counter list of all the things you'll do when your get a BFP. Don't get me wrong, I totally love your commitment to stay happy and that you took the extra measure to have a to-do-list but right now your focus shouldn't deviate from the success right now. Optimism is the key to put positive vibes and bring on positive outcomes in life. So till you get a reason to really not think about BFP better ponder on the BFP and let the happy vibe radiate.
I just love your list! I hope that you don't get to do any of it but I think you've got some cracking ideas there to cheer you up if you need it. I would add go out dancing to the list if it were mine, that always cheered me up pre-pregnancy. Best of luck lovely x
Love love love this! I would echo what others have said, it can be a list to do if it's bad news but also there should be a BFP to do list! Lifes too short and we should all try to remember to give ourselves some slack and have fun along the way. IVF is soooooo consuming mentally, physically and emotionally... and I'm a planner too, so have to have something on the go otherwise I'll self combust! 😂
Great list... champagne and a hot tub sounds perfect... and a trip, night out dancing with the girls or a weekend camping somewhere really remote and quiet in the lakes 😍
Today is my otd and sadly was negative. I think I knew deep down as started spotting yesterday and had literally no other symptoms. Your list has really cheered me up and inspired me to make the biggest cup of black coffee known to man. Tonight I will probably go all out with red wine and a slab of brie. It's only our first go and we have 1 in the freezer so will try again soon. Wishing you lots of luck xxx
But like you say, go all out, have those things you’ve had to deprive yourself of, give yourself a break, and then take the next chance that’s waiting for you in the freezer.
This is an amazing list and I have one too which sounds as if it would be starting the same day as yours.
Can I just check something though?? A couple of you have mentioned running? I've been running after FET last week!! Ahhhh! Is that a problem??? My clinic literally told me NOTHING. Just said "carry on as normal, good luck, bye"
My clinic told me no intensive exercise. For me, running is hard, so counts as intensive. If you are taking it more gently or are really used to it, i wouldn’t worry. The endorphins have got to be good at reducing cortisol levels too.
I did this between egg collection and test day. I think it’s good to have some specific plans for the days following the test so that you can focus. Maybe make them more detailed than above? Eg Monday - see family and get nails done, Tuesday - meal with X and start new book. Etc. Good luck xxx
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