Transfer complete but we lost the back ups😕

[LKT1]

I know I should be really grateful. Today I had a transfer of a good quality blastocyst and I know I’m so lucky to get to this point but on Saturday and again on Monday they told us we would likely have some spares to Freeze. We said this was going to be our last cycle so we were really pleased we would have some to freeze so we would have another chance if this one doesn’t work out. Even this morning when I went in for the transfer they said the next best one had also got to a blastocyst stage and looking good for the freezer. They called later this afternoon to say that it seems like the back up has stopped developing and won’t survive the future thaw.

I know if I was talking to someone else I would say ‘it only takes one’ but I think I let myself get carried away and expected to have the back ups. I was so positive about the transfer this morning but now I feel a bit shaken and lost my confidence with it.

Any advice or tips on how to boost my positivity so I can get through the two week wait? Thanks.

Xx

[Leanne1402]

Try to stay positive I only had one blastocyst embryo and it was of medium quality, and we were told its 50 50 if it works, we had frosties and this was our final chance and I am now 13.5weeks so think positive, it only takes one. Xx

[LKT1 in reply to Leanne1402]

Congratulations. Thanks It’s always good to hear a success story xx

[Leanne1402 in reply to LKT1]

Thank you. Also I meant we had no frosties. Have faith it can happen. Good luck for you're 2ww. Xx

[Hopeful26]

I don’t really know what to say, but sending you love and positive vibes xxxx

[LKT1 in reply to Hopeful26]

Thank you xx

[Kiedy84]

Oh hun I know how you feel, we had 7 embroys beautifully developing but on a day of a transfer we were told only one survived till day 5 and we have nothing to freeze. I was so sad, but then one lady on this forum said to me, focus on your little fighter inside of you and guess what...I am now 12 weeks pregnant and it's a boy!

Focus on your little fighter inside you🥰🥰🥰🥰

[LKT1 in reply to Kiedy84]

Congratulations! Hope I’m just as lucky as you. I’m sure I’ll be brighter about it tomorrow x

[crisps88]

Thinking of you in the 2Ww and i know it must’ve been disappointing for you especially thinking you had ones to freeze cxxx

[Sazzysah]

I wish you all the best, I was very fortunate that I my first cycle worked and I am now 35 wks pregnant. I only had one good quality 5 day blastocyst transferred. I hope your little one sticks and you get a good outcome.

[MontsJ]

It’s normal to have this feeling of sadness and disappointment, and to feel your chances have reduced. If things are successful with this transfer, you will look back with less regret and be more able to focus on your success. I only had two embryos at day 3 and they recommended transferring both. My final embryo was of poor quality at day 5 and 6. I tried to look at things from the viewpoint that I might have ended up with nothing at all to transfer, and tried to focus on the positive that at least I had two good quality embryos to transfer. Let yourself feel the emotions that you are feeling, it all moves in waves x

[Hope76]

Hi sorry that must’ve been a terrible blow but yes you must focus on that little strong embie inside you now. Take it easy at least first couple days, binge on Netflix /icecream/pineapple just remember the cosey socks.

Do you mind me asking if you had embryo glue for your transfer? Despite fact I have had 2 failed FET’s my clinic always say no need for me to have and not enough evidence etc etc. Am stimming just now and thinking of insisting on the glue this time. Some clinics seem to give every transfer others not.....

[LKT1 in reply to Hope76]

Thank you. Yes plenty of pineapple and cosy socks and slippers. No glue on transfer but hopefully all that pineapple Iv been munching through will be enough 🤞🏻 I tried Brazil nuts 😝but they weren’t my thing but they are supposed to be good to. Best of luck with your transfer xx