Back to the office

[Sunshineraye]

So I went back to the office today after 2 weeks and there’s a couple that work on the same floor as me that’s are due their first baby in a few weeks. They are both really young and conceived within 2 weeks trying and haven’t been together too long. Anyway, I noticed on a huge white board a list of names and didn’t think anything of it. My bosses boss (knows I’ve been off due to ivf) comes over to me and says they are having a sweepstake to guess what their baby will be called. So every persons names was on this board ready for a name to go against it. We are not a small office and I felt so pressured to picking a name and I’m probably not the only one whose struggling with infertility in the office so I think maybe this shouldn’t be so “in your face”.. and I was quite annoyed my name had been placed on this board so I kinda had no choice to pick. I did as I didn’t want to make a fuss but I didn’t really want to

[Drives]

That must have been very hard for you on your first day back 😔

Having struggled to conceive or so long I am now very aware of how things like this and announcements can impact those who are struggling. I wish more people understood...

Sending you a big hug 💕 x x x x x

[PurpleLove19]

My mum said to me on the phone- people have a right to be happy and excited. We are all a box of chocolates, some are lucky and others aren’t. I said yes you’re right but that doesn’t make me feel any better.

Like you say two weeks of trying is 10% of the time I have. When you look back on your journey, two years of hope, disappointment and anger.

Angry that you can’t just get involved with baby conversations and be happy.

Well done you for being strong x

[LunaLovegood11]

Understandably difficult for you, sending hugs...

There’s such an expectation for us to get involved with others’ pregnancies but little understanding of our troubles.

More should be opt-in, rather than expected xx

[Kempton]

Maybe you should have a chat with your boss and let him/her know just how it made you feel on your first day back. I'm guessing you mean you were off for the 2ww? Your boss is supposed to be supportive and could have handled this a lot better. Making them aware of h I w you feel might stop them acting so tactlessly in the future.

Sorry you feel so rubbish. Hope you take some time to yourself to deal with all the emotions you must be going through.

[2-shades-of-hope]

This happened at my work too but for due dates and weights. I guessed 3 weeks overdue and the heaviest weight just to annoy them. Childish I know but it helped me. Hope you guessed a really awful name! Hope today is better xx

[Sunshineraye in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

Yes I picked the worse name on the list 😂 I’ve also just been invited to a lunch date for the office to say bye to her. I’ve declined going. So my bosses just asked why. I said since I’ve been back all I’ve seen is baby stuff and it’s really hard as I don’t know if my test will be positive next week following my transfer. I’ve just told my manager too that the company should be more that infertility effects a lot of people and it’s not fair for these people to see this stuff all the time. My manager agreed xx

[Drives in reply to Sunshineraye]

Well done you for sharing with your company how you were feeling 😉

Love the fact you picked the worst name too!! Haha x x

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Sunshineraye]

Brilliant, good for you ! 😂 That’s excellent that you said that to your manager, I completely agree with you. I think it’s something like 1 in 6 or 8 people that have infertility struggles so in most offices that’s at least 4/5 people x