Where do I start.....
* I’m 33 and have known since I was 17 that I was unable to conceive a baby naturally and that my only chances where egg donation
* 1 fail, 1 miscarriage and then 3rd time lucky in October 2016 I gave birth to a baby boy who is now 2 and a half
* 2018 I tried again frozen embryo transfer but miscarried 😢
* so where am I up to now it’s 2019 my brother has just had a baby girl in March and today my sister has just given birth to a baby girl as I type this. And 3 weeks ago I had to put my dog to sleep who has been in my life for 14 years like having another child.
* I don’t have periods and I use to go on the pill to help me bleed and help the blood flow to the womb. I was told by my doctor that there is a new law that you have to have a BMI of 30 or below to go on the pill and I can’t try IVF until I’ve been on the pill for a couple of months. Which is frustrating because I wasn’t a BMI of 30 or below when I was on the pill last time or when I done IVF the last 4 times (I paid because of my weight)
* so as it stands I’ve got people getting pregnant and giving birth, I have to lose weight, go on the pill for several months and then try IVF which means I’m looking at the end of 2019 early 2020 before I can try again
* I ask myself am I being selfish and greedy because I’ve already got this amazing boy who makes me smile everyday, I say to my mum and husband that if my son is my only child then that is amazing and I’m lucky but I have 3 embryos there I’m getting older I want to at least say I tried to give him a little brother and sister
* I feel awful because there is people out there struggling to still have there first. I have my mum saying to me that I’m coming across like my son is not enough for me because I am wanting more which makes me feel awful because that’s not the case. I have my husband saying to stop worrying we will try again one day it will be our time again in the future.
Neither understand that its not a case of wanting a baby right this second it’s the heartbreak and constant reminder of everything you have to go through to try to have a baby from losing weight, to raising the money to pay private, to the medication, the scans, the appointments, the embryo transfer, the two week wait and then to do all that it might not work you see that BFN or you get a BFP and you get excited and then miscarry. No one in my family understands, makes me feel alone sometimes.
You have to be strong to do this journey, and you are all amazing x x