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2day is my OTD which is BFN . Two days early was 2lines ... I all ready call my clinic which I spoke with one of the nurses and had a call from a doctor.

She said to repeat test on Sunday... doctor told me that I havenโ€™t done anything wrong . There is always 50/50 .

They recommend just one to put in because I had positive outcome last time and that was top grade embryo.

We had grade A+ embryo we use embryo glue and single injection to help Lh . I keeps my feet warm ...drunk 3L water a day..trying to relax when I had a chance ....

Now Iโ€™m thinking maybe I should go with 2 to put in ? Then I think what if I will loose those 2 ...

Maybe this time that cycle was to much to take on for my body ....

Start on 27jan was longer then should due to my lining was to thick ...due to cyst after being drain refill again when I was on injections...so they drain with EC.

After EC I was in pain for few days ...bloated my stomach muscles hurt ...it wasnโ€™t smooth like last cycle. I gained weight I was craving double amount of sweets then normal... my body change so much. Maybe my body wasnโ€™t ready..maybe need to finally have period after 2 months ...maybe need to take โ€œdeep breath โ€œ...recover loose all this sweets ... and feel enough good to be ready for next step.

Doctor said that I need 2 bleeding so we can start FET.

I cry all morning ...my hubby is confused and sad ๐Ÿ˜”..

On top of that my hubby told me that one of his Cusin wife had her first scan 12 weeks ....and there was no heart beat...๐Ÿ˜” I feel so sorry for her and I will support her in that hard time ....but there is no one who can do the same for me because no one knows that we go through ivf ...๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜” Iโ€™m sorry for such a long post. Xx

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CatDV

Olivia, my darling, Iโ€™m so so sorry ๐Ÿ˜ข

The second line is still there, I think, just very light.

It was just bad luck, please donโ€™t think youโ€™ve done anything wrong!

Itโ€™s crushing after such a promising start.

Sending you all my love x

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toCatDV

Thank u hun . How r u ? When is first scan ? Xx

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CatDVโ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

I am ok lovely, thanks for asking โค๏ธ

Scan booked for next Saturday. So scared...

Hope you are doing a little better, but maybe itโ€™s still too early. Be kind to yourself.

I too didnโ€™t share my journey with anyone, so when things went wrong on my first 3 cycles my hubbyโ€™s support was so important . Really hoping that you can too support each other, get through this together and come back even stronger as a couple ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toCatDV

That great hun donโ€™t be scared itโ€™s gonna be ok and u will see your little one ๐Ÿ™

My hubby is really supportive...he is keep calling from work to check how I feel bless him ๐Ÿ˜” xx

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Sarah_37

Iโ€™m so sorry to hear this... thereโ€™s always lots of what ifs but Iโ€™m certain itโ€™s nothing you or anyone has done.

I hope u find some comfort... thinking of u xx

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Lindt83

I'm so so sorry to hear about this Olivia ๐Ÿ˜ฅ. I really don't know what to say. I've been thinking about you all day but was too scared to ask. Try and stay positive, you've still got some embies waiting for you when you're ready. Thinking of you xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toLindt83

Itโ€™s ok hun ๐Ÿ˜” I cry all morning...no much tears left now . Iโ€™m gonna finish the progesterone and just do one more test on Sunday...but I donโ€™t know if that change anything.

Hun u gonna be just fine 2morrow ๐Ÿ™xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toLindt83

Hi hun how r u ? Iโ€™m sorry to bother u ...and if u donโ€™t mind me asking ...how did your test went ? I being thinking and looking here to read good news . Xx

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Lindt83โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

Hi Olivia. No, it's ok. I tested yesterday but I got inconclusive results. Some read positive but two of them had a very very faint line (I might have even imagined it) which looked like a negative to me? The one from the clinic read negative ๐Ÿ˜”. I'm not sure yet so I'm going to call the clinic tomorrow when they open xx

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Lindt83โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

How are you feeling? Hope you're starting to feel better? Xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toLindt83

Hi hun I was thinking about u all day yesterday looking forward for good news . If u sow faith line call them 2morrow they may say to test in couple days time . Is strange that I was ahead of u 2days and my OTD was only day before yours. Donโ€™t loose the hope yet hun .

Iโ€™m feeling bit better . My hubby meant to go to London with his brother but he decided to stay with me ..so we gonna take us little baby girl to cinema to see Peppapig and go for late lunch . Xx

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Lindt83โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

Yeah I'll call them tomorrow, so let's see what they say. I'll test again with EMU.

I'm glad you're feeling better and enjoying your time with your hubby and daughter. Hope you had a lovely time today. Where are you from? Xx

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Kitcat12

Oh no ๐Ÿ˜ž I'm so sorry darling x

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2-shades-of-hope

Really sorry to hear this xx

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hannahding

I am really sorry to hear this. I can understand how hard this all must be for you and your family. This journey at times can be really hard to go through. One has to be confident and strong. I would suggest asking a doctor that is experienced for the suggestion. Its always better to get a second opinion. Just dont lose hope! Sending baby dust your way.

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply tohannahding

Thank u hun . Hard thing is that no one knows what we went through over this 5 years ๐Ÿ˜” xx

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Hope76

Olivia, I still see a faint second line, I was always told a line is a line. My clinic OTD is 15dpt just to be sure. I would test again and I really hope itโ€™s a bit clearer then. Thinking of you x

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toHope76

Thank u hun . How u holding on ? Xx

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Hope76โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

Hey am ok time is helping. Feeling bit stronger, hoping to start meds May. We are insisting on gonal f this time ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿคž๐Ÿผ Thinking of going back to basics, no extra supplements just multi vitamin plus folic acid. I am worried taking dhea and Ubiquinol had a bad affect on me. My FSH is 5.9 and I think you are only supposed to take DHEA if diminished ovarian reserve. Actually maybe Ubiquinol will be worth a shot again ?

It is so hard to know what to do and my clinic will not support their use. All I know is when I got my BFP first time I was unhealthiest ever been and knew nothing.

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toHope76

Time is what we got left now and hope that will work next time.

We got 4 frostie so I will definitely go for 2 on board...

I said before that this was my last fresh cycle....I cannot go through that process again hun.

I noticed that my body change after having a baby. This round was really tough...took over 2months ...I being bloated I had a cyst which after being drain refill again when I was on injections and again drain on EC. I didnโ€™t felt well after EC .

I need now to putt all sweet in a bin , have my coffee each day , look for some exercises classes twice a week and focus on my little one 2nd birthday In may .

Doctor told me I need to have a 2 bleeding to start FET and last time I had my period 2 months ago ..

Next time Iโ€™m not gonna use any extra single injection just without like before... xx

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Hollibob

I can still see two lines on the tests from today, so I will keep everything crossed x

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Gemz29

I know exactly how you feel I had this same experience in December, itโ€™s truly heartbreaking... itโ€™s put me off ever testing early again, take some time๐Ÿ’• xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toGemz29

Iโ€™m sorry hun to hear that? What is your next step ? Xx

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Gemz29โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

I was taking clomid, conceived month 1 but it then had an adverse effect on my lining. So Iโ€™m not waiting on a laparoscopy and hysterocopy before I start a different medication called letrozole x

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Blondie_81

Iโ€™m so sorry Olivia - there is still a second line some would regard this as a positive if they hadnโ€™t done a test before OTD.. so maybe not all is lost? This is such a cruel unfair process. Thinking of you. Iโ€™m not hopeful for my OTD tomorrow had a tiny bit more spotting today 11dp5dt.. take care xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toBlondie_81

Hi hun thank u . Donโ€™t worry for 2morrow ...u got double trouble on board ๐Ÿ˜‰ I believe we gonna see BFP ๐Ÿ™ xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toBlondie_81

Hi hun I being thinking of u and looking here to see good news . how your test went ? Xx

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Blondie_81โ€ข in reply toOlivia1980xxx

We got a negative - I knew as had started spotting and then bleeding yesterday so knew before they rang with blood test results. Feeling very sad and just havenโ€™t had the heart to post properly on here yet. Hope youโ€™re ok xx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toBlondie_81

Oh no hun Iโ€™m so sorry ๐Ÿ˜” After my negative I was looking forward to hear good news from u . ๐Ÿ˜” how u feeling? Xxx

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Binky1983

Sorry to hear this. X

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Tyeuri

So sorry. It was a BFN for me today, too. I also have to continue meds and test again on Sunday but have no hope whatsoever. Hugs. Xxxx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toTyeuri

Iโ€™m really sorry hun ๐Ÿ˜” Hopefully we will make it next time ๐Ÿ™

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toTyeuri

I donโ€™t have a hope either . My body want to finally bleed...every time I wipe pink is very pink ....๐Ÿ˜” Lots of hugs for u to hun xxx

Was that FMU? I was always told a line is a line.. try again tomorrow or after a 4 hour hold

Crossing everything for you xx

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Cinderella5

Oh Olivia, bfns are crap....must be even worse to see a positive turn negative! I don't believe for one minute that you've done anything wrong, it's just luck. I've had more bfns than I want to think about but it never gets any easier. Sending hugs.xxx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toCinderella5

Thank u hun xx

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Ajplus1

Oh hun Iโ€™m so sorry to read this post. Please donโ€™t blame yourself as you said after transfer itโ€™s a 50/50 chance. Take care of yourself and hubby during this time. Sending lots of love and hugs xx

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Novice_knitter

Hey hun, Iโ€™m really sorry the line is changing and so hoping things are better again next time you test.

Thereโ€™s nothing more you could have done - youโ€™ve done everything you should have. Have everything crossed for you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™ xxx

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CardiBaby

So sorry to hear this. IVF can be so lonely and people just donโ€™t understand unless they have gone through it. You and your hubby must look after each other. Unfortunately IVF is a numbers game, keep going, IT WILL happen for you one day. Recover now and look after yourself xxxx

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Lynnr54

Sorry to hear this. Chemical pregnancies are awful. You get your hopes built up only to have them crushed. It would be so much easier just to get a BFN. When I had mine my consultant reassured me that itโ€™s nothing that you have done to cause it and thereโ€™s nothing you could have done to stop it from happening. Sometimes these things just happen and an embryo isnโ€™t able to develop properly even though it initially implanted. The majority of ladies go on to have successful pregnancies after a chemical pregnancy so take it as a positive sign that you now know you can get pregnant. I know thatโ€™s easier said than done at the moment so do take the time to grieve properly and look after yourself x

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toLynnr54

Thank u hun xx I will start from throwing all sweets in a bin , having my mornings coffees, and doing some exercises...specially to concentrate on my baby girl 2nd birthday coming out in may . Is just sad seeing her laying her head down on my tummy saying...baby mummy....but there is no baby ๐Ÿ˜” xx

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Scarlett13

So sorry to read this Olivia, I hope the line gets stronger but if it doesnโ€™t then I guess it looks like it was a chemical - so maybe the embryo implanted but was not chromosomally right? Iโ€™m glad you can go again xxxx

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Olivia1980xxxโ€ข in reply toScarlett13

Thank u hun xx

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