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Thank you so much for your messages of support since I was having my meltdown in Friday with 'the faint positive' test. Xx

Anyway, I had brown spotting yesterday and then AF arrived with avengance last night. I did a clear blue this morning and those dreaded words 'not pregnant' appeared. Part of me is glad to have an answer. I'm obviously devistated that this hasn't worked for us. My husband has been amazing throughout this whole process, I didn't know that we could be brought closer together than we already were, but we have been through this incredibly emotional journey together. No idea what the future holds but just need some normality back in our lives whilst we try to process all of this.

I am absolutely rooting for each and every one of you on this journey. Sending you all the luck in the world xx

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Suz92

I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s devastating for you. And yet you still have the kindness to wish everyone else the best. Take time to recover with your husband and be kind to yourselves. And cry as much as you want to for as long as you want to.xx

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Starsandsunbeams in reply toSuz92

Thank you xx

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CatDV

Really sorry to read this Stars 😢

Sending my love to you and your husband.

Support each other at this difficult time x

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Starsandsunbeams in reply toCatDV

Thank you xx

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Leesara

Really sorry to hear this. Take one day and step at a time before deciding the next path for you both x

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Starsandsunbeams in reply toLeesara

Thanks xx

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Sarahmanc

Oh gosh. This happened with my first IVF. It’s just so disappointing to get that far and it not work out. Give yourself the time away from this whole stressful process to recover. Ps in the end I fell naturally around round 2 failed. I know it’s hard to think about that now but I wanted to give you hope xxx

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Starsandsunbeams in reply toSarahmanc

Thank you. Will try to keep the hope. That whole thought of 'how can you grieve for something you never had?' I think this process gives you so much hope, that you feel like you could almost be there... And then you are so far away again when it doesn't work out xx

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Sarahmanc in reply toStarsandsunbeams

But you did have it even if it was only for a few days. This whole process builds up your expectations and then to see that positive just gives you so much joy. It’s so cruel. So allow yourself the chance to grieve. Sending you love xxx

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Scarlett13

I’m so sorry to hear your news. It’s really really sad. I find the anxiety of not knowing leading up to the test worse than getting the result - now you’ve got the result you are of course sad but you can accept it, hug each other, deal with it and move on. This process has brought me and my partner closer together. All the little crap things we used to argue about now pale into insignificance - we need to be kind and loving and supportive to each other and together we can get through this and do anything x

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Cinderella5

So sorry to hear that! Hugs.xx

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Tugsgirl

I’m so sorry xx

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leanneski

Sorry it didn’t work out for you. Sending you both 💜 and hugs xx

I’m so very sorry for your loss, so heartbreaking for you. Not much anyone can say, but am thinking of you. Glad you have lots of support around you. Many of us have been in this situation & will understand the devastation you will be feeling xoxo

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Micsing

So sorry for your loss. Lot of hugs.

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry to hear this. It so sad and devastating. Take one day at a time and allow self to heal. Take time but hopefully it will happen for you🤞 big hugs xx

Sorry to hear ur sad news, take care and look after yourself and each other, I had a negative result last week so understand how u r feeling and the devastation when u get a negative. I wish u the best for the future & it helps to focus on other things I am looking to book a holiday & we have lots of things planned with each other and friends in April this helps with getting some nomality back. Also I have spent the last few days stuffing myself with chocolate and bad food so that has made me feel better. Xx

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