Got a bit emotional yesterday!

[toally]

So I recently posted debating double or single transfer... we went in on Saturday and were told we had three blastocysts (one didn’t make it) and all three good quality. We decided to transfer two and freeze one so if the transfer doesn’t work we have a back up in the freezer since this is our last shot.

Anyway got a phone call yesterday morning from the clinic saying that the last embryo had been monitored overnight and wasn’t good enough quality to freeze ☹️ So we’ve lost him and now all hopes are pinned on the two guys in my belly.

I was fine at first but then we went for a dog walk and went to the pub, sitting by the fire my husband asked me what I wanted and I couldn’t answer - I’m so paranoid everything now I have to make all the right choices and anything I do could stop these guys from implanting and succeeding... I feel really negative and convinced it’s not going to work and then it’s all over. I know I have to be positive but I’m too used to failure , am overthinking everything I do, eat, walk, every cramp or pain etc... it’s maddening! I know in reality there is nothing I can do to guarantee success but any advice or tips for the 2ww would be greatly appreciated!

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Its easier said than done but try and rest up for a few days and then carry on as normal but just take it steady like no over exertion or heavy lifting. My first round I just carried on as normal and actually in hindsight probably did too much. My second round I gave myself loads of TLC, had a lot of rests, I still went to work (and that's a 4 hour round trip on trains/tubes into London) but made sure I worked shorter hours and had the odd day off. I also drank pomegranate juice which I read was good for you, but stopped stressing about the 300 other things I was supposed to eat or drink. I also highly recommend mindfulness IVF apps.. I did those every day on the way into work and they really helped me stay zen and calm.. masses of luck xx

[Cinderella5]

What an incredibly emotional day for you yesterday which Im sure took the shine away from your transfer. Im so sorry that you dont have any frosties, I cant sympathise with your disappointment....we thought we were going to have a frostie for one of our cycles and it wasnt good enough too. However you have 2 goodies on board so you still have a great chance! I cant offer any tips but in my 4 previous transfers I tried all of the gimicks going, eating pineapple etc and got BFNs. This time around I was of the opinion that its just luck and nothing we do (within reason) will change the outcome so try not to get too hung up on anything in particular. Lots of fresh air walks, boxsets, relaxing, no heavy lifting or hard physcial exercise and lots of sleep I think are the main things to do. Sending you positive vibes and wishing you luck for a BFP!xx

[Kempton]

I read somewhere that when you transfer more than one, they sort of encourage each other to inbed (not sure how exactly), so just try and be positive. Your odd are higher anyway due to the fact you've transferred two.

When I had my FET, I kept a diary and just wrote all my doubts and fears down so that I didn't dwell on the negative and could try and focus on the 'what if'. And it worked! If anything, it made the 2ww a lot easier.

Wishing you lots of luck and sending positive vibes. Keep yourself busy and distracted. Let your body do its work!

[TeenyTiny]

Just read all the reply’s the girls sent you and think there advice is spot on 👍 wishing you all the luck with your two embryos onboard ❤️ Lots and lots of baby dust to you xx

[Elynn]

Big hugs.

[Nodds]

There’s some great advice here, but please be kind to yourself. Everything is perfect and as it is meant to be, you’re doing a great job. Please try to be positive, I like to think that being positive will make a welcome and happy place for the embies to want to implant 😊

I really like the Mindful IVF app, it helps me be 🙏🏼

I also ‘treat’ myself with regular Reflexology and Reiki sessions that allow me to switch off completely and give myself a break from thinking. Fresh air, good food and laughs with friends and family are also great. My poor dog gets totally spoilt during the 2ww!! Good luck and don’t be so tough on yourself, you’re doing really well!xx