Lost my IVF mojo

[Mrsgled1982]

Hope you are all well

Does anyone else sometimes think about giving up on the IVF. We still have 2 prepaid cycles left and am not sure if I want to anymore.

I've still got to lose weight but am still shovelling the Christmas goodies down my neck.

Me and the hubby seem to be pushing away from each other too, our relationship seems to be no existent at the moment. He does his own thing I do mine.

I've not even booked an appointment with the clinic yet for all the paper work and initial blood tests done.

I've never been like this before, I've always pushed on for the next treatment.

What the heck is wrong with me

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Hi Mrsgled 1982 ,It's very normal to feel the way you do. Ivf is not easy and the strain it puts on a relationship doesn't make it easy either. Please try to talk to the hubby and reconnect so that you support each other while doing the Ivf.once things are good on the home front it will help get your Ivf mojo back.dont give up hope. Keep fighting and hoping that this year brings you the good news you have been longing for.

😊

[2-shades-of-hope]

I think it’s really normal to feel like that. When you’ve been there before and had your eyes opened to the brutal reality of IVF that doesn’t end with a baby it is hard to throw yourself back in it.

[Saya85]

Absolutely ..... It took me almost 6 months to gear up for this latest cycle

Usually when you've had repeated BFNs it's difficult to put yourself through it again feeling like it wont happen and you're going through the motions for nothing

However I worked on our relationship at the time and had to put my trust in the new protocol so threw everything at it.

And we finally got a bfp! It all felt worth it in the end so I know now it's worth pushing for.

Sadly we miscarried but it's made me stronger for next time.

Take some time out to repair your relationship where you can. Try to forget about the IVF for a bit and just focus on you two and having fun. It will do wonders for you both when the pressure is off.

Even after this miscarriage we made and effort to be ourselves again and it's been lovely. We now know whatever happens we are stronger together x

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Hey

I think about it all the time especially at my age and all the BFN that I have having to pay for each and every let down.

As far a relationships go.... it takes its toll as well as sex life also.

I am attempting to gear up for one last try this summer and after that it’s game over....

This is a hard and unexplainable road for those of us that have to endure this pain and heartbreak no one will ever understand it until they have walked a few steps in our shoes.

Hang in there hun I wish you well x

[_MrsC]

Nothing is wrong. You’re tired. That’s fair enough. It’s hard, so so hard. We stopped after 2 fresh cycles. I couldn’t carry on. We have been away from it for 18 months and it was the best decision for us. I rediscovered who I was as a person and this made a big impact on our relationship. My poor hubby I think was despairing. From his point of view his life as he knew it was slipping away. Children were looking unlikely and his wife was changing in front of his eyes becoming a defeated miserable mess. Whilst children naturally are still very unlikely, we are back to who we were before but stronger and more understanding. It’s a huge decision to stop but it worked for us. We are now discussing adoption. He’s mulling it over and we’ll move forward from there. I hope you manage to find a way through that suits you both. Wishing you all the best. x