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I hate waiting 😩😫😩

Hey ladies!

We had an appointment at the fertility clinic a few weeks ago following our recent miscarriage & they said that I would have to wait at least 3 months before doing FET & I would need to see what the consultant says at our appointment when discussing the autopsy results. So found out that there was nothing wrong with me or my twin boys I was just unlucky enough to get a bacterial infection in the womb. Life is so unfair!! But the consultant said that he suggests we wait 6 month so that would be March! But I don’t want to wait, we are so keen to try again and if we didn’t need IVF then we would try now. Hate it that someone can tell me I can’t 😢 ahh winds me up so much

Constantly wait for appointment and I’m not the most patient of people xx

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Your right life really is so unfair, I’m so sorry that you’ve suffered such heartbreak down to an infection. Is there a reason you have to wait 6 months? I’ve always started my FET’s after 2 periods, is there anyway you could talk to them and suggest just waiting the 3 months like originally suggested xx

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Hiya! Hope your okay I know you’ve also had a bad time recently & I’m so sorry for your loss.

The consultant I saw specialises with twins that’s the only reason I saw him to discuss the autopsy results & he didn’t say why I had to wait 6 months (well I don’t think he did) but I am hoping that he details this in the letter that he will be sending me. Do you think if I question it with the fertility clinic they might reconsider the wait? Xx

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Thank you, if your ready to start I think it’s definitely worth a try speaking to your fertility clinic. Last year after my MMC I was the same and couldn’t wait to start again so I totally understand your frustrations having to wait till March xx

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Hiya. I emailed the consultant back I got the reply “My letter explains that a short inter pregnancy interval is a risk factor for preterm labour” but why does everyone else only have to wait 3 months normally!

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Oh no sorry, maybe it’s to do with how far gone you were? I saw my consultant last week and he said I can’t start again either, this time I needed to wait longer than the 3 months which for me is okay as I’m not ready to but I can understand your frustrations xx

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Sorry to hear your news and what you have been through, can't imagine how you must be feeling right now but I do understand how hard it can be waiting for things to move forwards. I'm in the relatively 'early' stage of things, awaiting HSG, scans, blood tests etc (have had to have multiple things repeated due to results being lost or wrong tests being carried out!) and the wait between appointments is getting harder and harder. Life is very unfair at times. This is a good place to vent and get any feelings off your chest. My inbox is always open if you need a chat. Wishing you every success with your journey, sending you BIG hugs xxx

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Hi poppy, thank you for your message and support. I have waited so long like most of us on here then I get my dream & it’s snatch away again! Heartbroken 😔. Good luck with your journey & I hope you get your dream xx

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I am truly sorry for your loss, heartbreaking news and my thoughts are with you. It is a cruel journey at times. I really hope 2018 brings happiness to us all. Wishing you every success lovely BIG hugs xxx

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It’s three periods at my clinic too. We’ll be having pgs on our last two embies and I’m going to be (hopefully) having some tests done to see if there’s an underlying issue for why I’ve lost our two babies.. So we may be looking at March/April too at this rate and if I have another scratch that’s another month delay. Part of me, like you, wants to get on with it all asap, like tomorrow, but I must admit the other part is just looking forward to not being pumped full of drugs for a while, to drinking and letting it all go for Christmas.

I’m so sorry that you lost your twins xx

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Hey! Sorry for the loss of your 2 babies!

I really hope they don’t make me wait till March. We are so keen to try again & in a way I think it may help with the healing of the miscarriage xx

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it bloody sucks doesn't it all this waiting around when you want a baby so badly.

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Yep it bloody does Hun! We don’t ask for much xxx

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