Male infertility

[Giraffe33]

Hi! I’ve never written on a forum or anything before so please do forgive me if I make some mistakes. It’s rather a long story - my boyfriend was divorced by his ex wife as he in infertile and has only 3 sperm per ejaculation (I know it seems ridiculously low but that’s our situation) we have tried for children for the last two years but doctors insist I get checked first (which I have done and I’m fine) and so I was wondering if anyone knew any doctors that won’t make me go through the whole process over and over again? We have all the paperwork and test results which show where the infertility lies but have yet to find a specialist who doesn’t automatically think “it’s the ovaries!” It is also really upsetting him, he’s got terrible stress (he talks in his sleep about it) and I’ve not mentioned it for 6+ months now and I keep trying to gently push him to see a counsellor or someone to help him through what is a very challenging time

[emu2016]

Hello Giraffe. Welcome to the forum. What a difficult situation you seem to be in. Have you been referred to a fertility clinic at one of your local hospitals? It seems from your post you’ve been to a few clinics? Are you being seen under the nhs or privately? I do know that when you move from clinic to clinic they do want to do their own tests. What is it that keeps moving you on? x

[Kaylon]

Hi Giraffe33, we have male factor as well. Low morphology. I got tested and everything came back fine. We went private as NHS were utterly useless and my clinic accepted all my previous test results. They did want to push for a few more tests but I refused as they were more or less the same. I think as long as your results are recent they'll be ok for whoever you go to. Good luck x

[Giraffe33 in reply to Kaylon]

Thank you so much for responding, it really means a lot. Good luck on your journey. I hope you and your partner get the baby that is so longed for xxx

[Kaylon in reply to Giraffe33]

Thank you so much. Sending you lots of baby dust as well. It's a tough journey but there are so many success stories out there and science has come such a long way. Good luck with your journey as well x

[Kyell2]

Hi, I think more and more ladies on here are having fertility issues because of male issues.

I suppose the good news is that your boyfriend has some sperm in his samples (we have none) so this should mean that you can progress with ICSI.

We moved hospitals and they did accept our results as long as they were less than one year old (as a year is a long time I guess in fertility life) and I only had to have one new test.

Wishing you all the best x

[penny24]

Hi giraffe33, my consultant recommended condensyl as a vitamin supplement to help increase sperm count /quality so it might be worth a try? U can buy it online xx

[Newyeae]

Hi Giraffe33 as others have mentioned I would try to enquire about having IVF using the ICSI process which is where they select an individual sperm and inject it directly into a mature egg, which has been collected from you after you have taken hormones etc during IVF. My husband had low motility and we had ICSI to increase our chances of fertilisation. We were advised that our chances of getting pregnant naturally were low despite me being perfectly fertile due to my husbands sperm. It worked for us on our first round and I am now 18 weeks pregnant. It frustrates me that doctors automatically think its the woman's side when the male factor is equally important!

Also to add it is good that you are being sensitive to your husbands feelings on it all. I know that my husband felt guilty for me having to go through IVF as the issue was on his side. I kept reassuring him that we are in this together and I do not resent him. I wanted a family with him because of who he is and I love him deeply and would never want a child with someone else. Fingers crossed for you both xx

[Annmarieh32]

My boyfriend and I are having similar issues expect they are satin his low sperm activity is due to him smoking weed, he's really struggling to quit which has caused so much stress on our relationship that we looking at separating because of his addiction, how did you guys get on with your testing ? What treatment did you partner get ?

[Giraffe33]

We separated due to his sleeping with his secretary a week after we found out my father was terminally ill.

My advice would be to encourage yours to seek help for his addiction. If he won’t, then maybe you could speak to one too to see if it would be better to embark on that journey with someone else I wish you the best of luck! Xxx