Natural FET - Outcome

[JB1988]

Hi Ladies,

So, this wasnt the post I wanted to be writing I said I would come and update though so, unfortunately my natural FET didnt work out and I started bleeding on Monday.

I am feeling so broken right now and not sure what else we need to do! It was a 5AA- and the one before that we had a chemical with was a 4AA! Why cant I hold onto these little embabies

Losing hope over here and just want to stay locked away on my own but I know I cant do this, so ive come to work today (I had yesterday off)

There isnt anything anyone can really say but I promised the update xxx

[Kcrochet]

I'm so sorry to read this. Please don't blame yourself in any way. Hope you can take some time for yourself and do nice things. Take some more time off work if you need to. Sending hugs to you xx

[JB1988 in reply to Kcrochet]

Thanks hun, Ive got Friday off as that was my OTD and Im not sure ill cope ok being at work!

Im not blaming myself as such but do want to explore the option that maybe I need more support. Ive got one embie left in the freezer and dont want to go into it until Im 100% sure we are in the right place and getting all the assistance we need xx

[Kcrochet in reply to JB1988]

Yes totally get you want to adjust things for the next go to, hopefully your clinic will come up with some good options. Glad you've got Friday booked off, hope you can do something nice for yourself. So sorry this one didn't work but that's great you have another frostie waiting in the freezer for you. Sending love and hugs xx

[JB1988 in reply to Kcrochet]

I hope so hun, I am going armed with questions.

Thanks xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi JB. So sorry to hear this, and I hope you've got plenty of support around you just now. If only we had got some magic sticky stuff to keep our little embies in place! Nothing I can say really, but sending you hugs, and I am thinking of you. Diane xx

[JB1988 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane, its much appreciated xx

[Strawberrychaos]

I’m so sorry to hear this hun, I really thought it had worked for you. I wish there was something I could say except sorry. Xx

[JB1988 in reply to Strawberrychaos]

Thanks hun, its appreciated xx

[Cinderella5]

Sorry to hear it hasnt worked out! Its so hard wondering why those lovely embryos dont stick, I often wonder why we've had no luck so far at all! Ive come to the conclusion its just bad luck. Its all so draining, big hugs.xx

[JB1988 in reply to Cinderella5]

100% its very draining - I just really feel its something my body isnt doing for that latter stages as everything has always been so good prior to transfer.

Maybe I am wrong, I dont know, I am not a DR but this is my gut feeling and we are going to talk it over with the DR and see whats next xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to JB1988]

Well if you get any info from the Dr with any theories I would love to hear.....we've also had 4 failed transfers so far with excellent blastocysts and its so hard to take! I hope you have some nice things planned meantime.xx

[JB1988 in reply to Cinderella5]

I will report back after my meeting - I doubt armed with much more info but if anything may be helpful, I will let you know!

I am just focusing on christmas now, will have a good time and then back to it in 2019 - hopefully that will be a better year! xx

[Lou7744]

Hi there, I’m so sorry to read this, it’s truly rubbish getting a bfn ☹️

Gotta keep those resilience levels up... chocolate and being kind to yourself helps a little 💕 xx

[JB1988 in reply to Lou7744]

Thanks hun x

[Hidden]

Hi,

I'm so sorry to hear this. I've just completed our first round of IVF and found out last week it wasn't a success. Nothing anyone can say could possibly take away the pain you're feeling. But know that you're not on your own, however isolated you might feel.

Its so easy to say, but take time for yourself and allow yourself to feel this pain and sorrow. I've not quite come out of the darkness, but don't give up hope. Look forward to Christmas and hopefully 2019 will be your year. wishing you all the luck in the world. x

[JB1988 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks hun. I know I’ll be ok, I always am but this one seems to be hitting me harder xx

[Core]

So sorry to read this, thinking of you and hope you have lovely people around supporting you xx

[JB1988 in reply to Core]

Thanks hun, yes, lots of support luckily xx

[Tugsgirl]

I’m sorry. My “perfect, top grade, hatching” embryo didn’t take either yet the lower graded (but still good quality) I’ve had better success with. Sod’s law isn’t it? Sometimes I think it’s all just down to plain old luck, or lack of it xx

[JB1988 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks hun. Hopefully our early blastocyst will be the one! Maybe it was always meant to be 🤷🏼‍♀️ Xx

[MrsAdzee]

Sorry to read this. Take some time to heal & recharge the batteries. I can totally relate to how you are feeling as can many others on this forum so your not alone xxx

[JB1988 in reply to MrsAdzee]

Thanks hun, I know it’s so tough. So many of us going through hard times, it’s so tough xx

[Kari55]

I’m sorry to hear about your BFN. I’m in a similar situation and have recently failed a 2nd cycle with AA embryo. My consultant said that the reason why the embryo doesn’t implant is usually the fact that it’s abnormal although majority of top quality embryos are normal. The 2nd reason is the lining and progesteron levels and mine were very good. The 3rd reason, still controversial are autoimmune issues. He said that I could consider doing the NK killer cells test - blood and uterine biopsy. I’m planning the FET in January but haven’t still decided whether to do tests or not. I would love to hear what your consultant says. Xx

[JB1988 in reply to Kari55]

These are the points I want to bring up with them, NK cells are expensive to go through testing on aren’t they? Any comments people have on this appreciated xx

[Kari55 in reply to JB1988]

Yes, £1400 at my clinic so not sure if to do this or not. Also, if they came back bad the only option is to take steroid and intralipids and I’m worried about side effects of those too. xx

[JB1988 in reply to Kari55]

Mmm, it’s a tough one! I don’t even know if my clinic offer it so I’ll have to find out first.

I think if they really thought that could be affecting our outcome is be inclined to do the steroids etc but that’s me xx

[Kari55 in reply to JB1988]

Not sure, when I asked about the risks they clearly told me what they are. I know that we take many risks already when doing the treatment but the line keeps moving and moving. When is your follow up?

[JB1988 in reply to Kari55]

That’s true, this journey is so tough isn’t it! Our follow up is 17th Dec x

[Kari55 in reply to JB1988]

It is. So many difficult decisions to make. Good luck with the follow up x

[JB1988 in reply to Kari55]

Thanks hun xx

[Jenjen84]

So sorry to hear this.. Sending a hug xxx

[JB1988 in reply to Jenjen84]

Thanks hun, appreciated xx