Hoping to spread a bit of hope..

[Georgina78]

Hello everyone, it’s been quite some time since I last posted here..I thought I’d pop on and hopefully give a little hope to those that are in the depths of despair, sadness and frustration that is infertility. It’s not as if it’s all over for me, absolutely not. But I am in a much better place than I was in recent years, when TTC, investigations, treatments, ivf cycles, losses, pokings and prodding’s and practically living at the fertility clinic took over my life.

Today my nephew turns one. When I found out he was to join us in the world earlier last year, my first thought was a deep, deep sadness for me and my hubby, why could his mum get pregnant and not me? The happiness came much later if I’m honest. I found it hard to hear their pregnancy updates and dreaded how we’d react when we first met him and worried that the envy of their life would overtake any love we felt for him.

That didn’t happen though, the first time we met him (at the hospital, which we’d tried to avoid but couldn’t in the end, because he was poorly and kept in for a while) we fell in love and have continued falling since. We both have a truly lovely relationship with this beautiful boy and have him frequently for overnight stays and days out. He’s brought so much to our lives, and even though he’s not ours, there is a deep bond there.

We are also on the adoption path now, I’ve needed time to grieve, and that isn’t fully over, but we’re feeling ready and hopefully strong enough to pursue this route to a family now. Not how we thought it would pan out but such is life huh, we have to make the best of what we’re given.

Another positive is my relationship with my hubby is stronger than ever, infertility and ivf can test the strongest of couples beyond belief but I think if you keep communicating and try to prioritise nice things together, hopefully you can get through it.

Please don’t think I have it all figured out, quite the opposite! I still have bad days and at times it feels unfair. But I just wanted to give a little hope that life can look brighter than it does if you’re in the depths of infertility and treatments. Those days when you cry in the toilet at work, or in the car after leaving your friend who’s just told you she’s pregnant, it does get easier. Wishing all you warriors the best of luck wherever you’re up to. It’s really tough xx

[AS100]

Oh gosh what a lovely message 😍😭 made me well up! Thank you for sharing some hope 🙏 I’m pleased to hear that you and your husband are going strong, it’s so so tough on relationships. I wish you all the very best with the adoption path ❤️💙❤️ xxxx

[Georgina78 in reply to AS100]

Thanks hun, sorry to make you blub! It’s really tough, I feel lucky we got through it without falling apart, I can understand how it does that to people.

Thanks for your wishes, we know adoption won’t be easy, or the process itself, but we feel it’s right for us. Good luck wherever you’re up to xx

[AnnieAnnie]

Thank you for sharing! I too have a niece who has just turned 1 and a few of my friends' children look to us like we are family so like you we are very blessed to have great relationships and bonds with other peoples children. For me, when I spend time with them, I actually forget about my struggles with infertility and I concentrate on having fun with them and it is amazing how much love they show to me in return. Its not always easy but children are good distractions. All children are a blessing whether they are your own or they come into your life some other way. Wishing you all the best and good luck with your adoption journey xx

[Lyn84]

Love this post 😊

[runsoncuddles]

Thank you so much for sharing, it is heavy going at times. ✨

[hannahkc]

Thank you for sharing this Georgina! It brought a tear to my eye 💕X

[Kempton]

What a lovely message. I am so happy that you are so well on your journey and that you have such a great relationship with your nephew. My hubby and I were always so close to our niece, despite our infertility, so your message was really relatable. I'm so lucky to have a baby if my own now and my niece is the.most darling cousin in the world, showering him with so much love.

Good luck on your journey to parenthood. Whatever children you have will be lucky to have you as parents!

[Ap98]

Thanks for this amazing post. This is very positive and helpful honestly!

I’m so happy for you that you are in a better place and for the adoption process.

Hoping 2019 will bring you lots of good news then!

Xx

[NDE1987]

Hi Georgina, I remember you from the last few years as we had cycles together. I am so happy for you and your adoption process your post made me have a tear in my eye. I can honestly relate with the feelings that you feel about your newphew as my neice was born during our struggles but I can honestly say she is so close to us! Best wishes for the future xxx

[Tugsgirl]

♥️ This xx

[Dunla]

This is such a lovely post. Thank you so much for sharing. My husband and I are also lucky to have lots of beautiful nieces and nephews with whom we spend lots of time with. We have lots of love to give and are grateful to be able to share it with them. Very best of luck to you both for the future xx

[vic77]

thank you so so much for sharing. sometimes it is helpful to hear stories where people have not continued on the treatment treadmill yet life is still fulfilling in other ways. I am so pleased you have such a great bond with your nephew and you are pursuing adoption route.that is something my husband and I are considering to.I wish you all the very best xxx

[Jenjen84]

Thank you for sharing, absolutely love this post.. ❤️ Xxx

[hifer]

What a lovely, heartfelt message. Thanks so much for sharing your story. Xx

[Georgina78]

Thanks everyone, I’m really glad it’s helped some of you. Life during treatment is so all consuming and such a roller coaster, you wonder if you’ll ever be happy afterwards. I hope that no matter what happens, you all are xx

[TerryNaples]

Thanks for your message ❤️