A message of hope

[Sarahmanc]

This time last year we were told that another round of IVF had failed. Both of us were in a pretty dark place and trying to work out if we could bear to put ourselves through another round. What a difference a year makes! All babies are special but he feels that much more so because of the battle to have him. In the end I fell pregnant naturally after 3 years of heartache. I hope this gives hope to you ladies, especially those with unexplained infertility. Sending baby dust to you all xxx

[sammejayne]

I have unexplained infertility, my 4th round of clomid is just failing can feel period coming, so upset today just don’t know what to do anymore! Is that three years ttc in total or ttc with just ivf for three years? Congratulations xxx

[Sarahmanc in reply to sammejayne]

I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling. 3 years in total of ttc. Things that I think might have helped: acupuncture, yoga, a healthier diet (me and him), dropping hours at work. We were also thinking of changing clinic - ours was very old fashioned. It’s so bloody frustrating when they can’t actually find anything wrong - I’m keeping fingers and toes crossed that you get your BFP xxx

[sammejayne in reply to Sarahmanc]

I’ve been tt for nearly two years, I’m torn between carrying on naturally until I’m married (April 2019) or go for ivf after xmas, I just don’t know what to do! Unexplained is the worst isn’t it? How did you cope!! X

[Sarahmanc in reply to sammejayne]

Do you mind me asking how old you are? I was 33 when I started IVF and probably rushed into it because of my age (although that was pressure I put on myself - the doctors weren’t concerned). I think if you have a wedding to plan and might be stressed, I wouldn’t add in the stress of IVF too. We went to counselling, had a few holidays, had enforced time when we weren’t allowed to talk about anything to do with babies... It’s still tough though xx

[sammejayne in reply to Sarahmanc]

I’m 28, I just feel like I’m getting on, on one hand I don’t wanto have the stress whilst planning a wedding but on the other hand I don’t wanto keep leaving it because I believe it won’t happen on its own.. viscous circle x

[Sarahmanc in reply to sammejayne]

It’s a cliche but it finally happened for me when I was focused on other things so that might be what does it for you xx

[sammejayne in reply to Sarahmanc]

Yeah it’s just hard because it’s always there isn’t it x

[Sarahmanc in reply to sammejayne]

Yeah and I always wanted to punch well meaningpeople who told me to ‘just relax’ 😡

[sammejayne in reply to Sarahmanc]

That’s the worst I find it so offensive x

[sammejayne in reply to Sarahmanc]

That’s the worst I find it so offensive x

[bluewanderlust in reply to sammejayne]

Hi, just wanted to say try not to worry about your age. I am now 27 week pregnant with my first at 44 with my own eggs. It really can happen and I feel incredibly blessed. Don't give up xxx

[sammejayne in reply to bluewanderlust]

Aw thanks Hun, was that nAtural?xx

[bluewanderlust in reply to sammejayne]

No I had icsi with my partner having surgical sperm retrieval xx

[Missy_22]

That’s amazing congratulations xxxx💙

[Tezzabell86]

That’s amazing congratulations xxx

[Positive2022]

Massive congratulations xxx

[Leo2017]

Thank you go sharing & congratulations on your gorgeous little bundle!! gives me hope - we’ve been ttc just over 2 years now - unexplained and had 1 failed fresh round in Sept. currently on meds for slightly under active thyroid but starting frozen round n Jan!!

It’s such a cruel journey so stories such as yours gives hope when I wonder if we can keep going!! 😕 xx

[Sarahmanc in reply to Leo2017]

There were so many times I felt like giving up. You just have to remember to keep living - date nights, holidays, nice meals etc xx

[Leo2017 in reply to Sarahmanc]

Thank you!! I know you’re right as sometimes it’s just feels like life is just on hold and passing me by!! It’s my 40th n Feb and that’s hanging over like a dark cloud.... but know I should live life and plan something fun even if right now if feels like last thing I want to do!! 😕

Congrats again and I hope you have a magical Xmas this year with your wee bundle of joy!! 🎄🎅🏼xx

[Sarahmanc in reply to Leo2017]

I was the same. The desire to have a baby just takes over. In the end, we decided to take a break for the sake of our marriage. I really hope you get your little miracle xx

[Amanda86]

I remember when you announced your news of falling naturally! Congratulations 🙂 xxx

[TTCs]

Congratulations, beautiful baby boy xx

[Benjaminy14]

What a lovely post . Thank you so much for sharing this it made me smile so much . What a beautiful boy you have

Merry Christmas to you and your family . And thank you hope is a wonderful gift to give

Big hugs

Nikki x

[Sarahmanc in reply to Benjaminy14]

Thanks Nikki. I remember absolutely dreading Christmas this time last year so I wanted to give hope to others xx

[Benjaminy14 in reply to Sarahmanc]

Feeling like that myself but Christmas brings miracles too ! Thank you for a inspiration story really cheered me up xx

[Jaky76]

Huge congratulations 🎊 xxx

[City74]

Congratulations. He is lovely! xx

[Elynn]

I love reading encouraging posts. ..thank you for taking time to update us and CONGRATULATIONS. your little miracle is stunning. I'm sure you are enjoying him 😊

[allieb21]

As congrats hun! I posted on here a couple weeks ago a similar message. One failed ivf and then natural pregnancy. I took failed a year ago ans was so down at this time last year.

My little boy is nearly 3 weeks. What date was your little guy born x

[Sarahmanc in reply to allieb21]

He is 6 weeks today! I can’t help thinking that if i’d just let things happen, I could’ve saved myself a lot of stress but it’s easier said than done when all you want is a baby. Congrats on your little man! Xx

[allieb21 in reply to Sarahmanc]

I know what you mean. We were told husband had 0% morphology but it improved. Really couldn't believe it when fell naturally but was best surprise. Have an amazing Christmas hun and congrats again x

[Bubz2017]

That's so lovely. It can be hard to stay positive when the future feels so uncertain. But you are proof that anything can happen ❤️ your little one is beautiful by the way xx

[Sarahmanc in reply to Bubz2017]

Thank you very much. I spend a lot of time just looking at him! Infertility is such a difficult thing and all consuming but I’m proof that anything can happen! Xx

[Cinderella5]

Congratulations!xx

[Hidden]

he is beautiful and it does give me hope so thank you. Congratulations! xxxx

[Nessi39]

Big congratulations he is gorgeous!! I too has a miracle baby boy when I was aged 42 , naturally after 12yrs ttc and several rounds of unsucessful fertility treatment and miscarriages Good luck to everyone on their journey long or short never give up xx