2ww...losing hope

[Kcrochet]

Hi everyone,

I'm currently 8dp5dt and feeling more miserable with each passing day. Last night I had spotting for the first time since transfer and it has carried on today, maybe even light flow rather than spotting, and strong AF type cramps. I'm so upset that this could be the end for this round and I haven't even got to OTD. Usually my cycles are at least 28-30 days so I hadn't prepared for early bleeding.

I had a horrible fight with my husband last night while we were on the way to a friend's house for dinner. He was really supportive around embryo transfer and just after, but this week he has been so distant and wrapped up in work. Last night I ended up crying on the bus (the second time I have done that this cycle !?!) and he abandoned me to go home (!!!) but immediately felt bad and got on the next bus to come and find me. This was after a stressful day at work. And the bleeding started shortly after and I'm now wondering if I've ruined our chances by not protecting myself from stress more.

So this is really just a rant and to ask for support from you lovely ladies who all understand so well what this is like.

I'm still going to test on Sunday but I'm not feeling very hopeful.

[CC2018]

Sorry to hear about your stress. I highly recommend yoga, the ivf mindfulness app and even ivf hypnotherapy dvds I found on Amazon. I had spotting before tests date and even after testing positive I had a sudden sharp pain that disappeared as quickly as it came with some fresh blood annd clots but it turned out to be an irritation of my lining when I had the viability scan. I'm currently 20 plus 3 xx

[Kcrochet in reply to CC2018]

Thank you for sharing some hopeful news and congrats. Yes I will do some yoga mediation when I get home from work xx

[ashalez]

Love you honey plz keep positive your self you have to be strong and i don't have this experience to tell you

Keep praying and i will do for you

😍😍😍😚😙😚😙😚😙

[Kcrochet in reply to ashalez]

Thanks I really appreciate that xx

[Kitcat12]

Oh bless you lovely, it’s such a stressful time, try to be kind to yourself and give yourself a break! Stay positive as much as you can, it’s not over! I’ve got everything crossed for you x

[Kcrochet in reply to Kitcat12]

Thank you xx

[Cinderella5]

The 2ww just wrecks your head doesnt it?! Ive been there a few times now and it doesnt get any easier. Im hoping your cramps and spotting are signs of implantation so will keep my fingers crossed for you. If you can try to get out for some fresh air, sometimes helps to clear the head and stops me from constantly googling every twinge....or anything else I can think of!! Good luck for OTD.xx

[Kcrochet in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks cinderella, yes some fresh air is a good idea. I've mostly managed to avoid google but it doesn't stop my imagination running wild :-S xx

[Foodie23]

I’m really sorry to hear you’ve had such a stressful time. IVF is certainly stressful all on its own. I’ve seen many posts and responses on here from women who experienced bleeding and went on to get their BFP. Please don’t lose hope and know we’re here for you. 🤗 xx

[Kcrochet in reply to Foodie23]

Thank you dear, it really does help to come on here for support. xx

[Strawberrychaos]

Please don’t give up hope, the 2ww is awful I experienced the same and googling didn’t help at all it made me worse. Everyone online said red blood and cramps = bad, but in my case it wasn’t. I joined this group and it helped a lot realising that other women had my symptoms and had a bfp. I then had my bfp in official test day and now have a 4 month old little miracle. My first failed cycle I had nothing at all no cramps or bleeding before test day so was shocked when it actually failed. Xx

[Kcrochet in reply to Strawberrychaos]

Thank you that's really good to hear! I'm so glad you have your baby xx

[Autumnmoon]

Sorry you are having so much stress it sounds like hubby is too hoping as others have said that you can still have a good outcome x

[Kcrochet in reply to Autumnmoon]

Thank you xx

[Kloulou83]

Hi there

Hubby and I had a huge row the day of transfer (second time). He had a work party (booked well in advance) and promised to be sensible. He wasn’t and I felt so hurt that on such a momentous day he couldn’t be more considerate of my feelings.

This went on for about the first week of my 2ww and I was adamant the stress and upset would have ruined our chances, making me even more stressed and upset 🙄

I had a Acupuncture throughout the whole process which definately helped me de-stress and also did Headspace which is a meditating app.

We got our BFP and now have 8 month old twin girls 🎉❤️❤️ try not to worry. Your body is an amazing thing! Xx

[Kcrochet in reply to Kloulou83]

Thank you so much for sharing your story - it does help to know. I've got an acupuncture session tomorrow, feel like I need a lot of pins! Congratulations on your twins, how wonderful xx

[Hidden]

So sorry that you are going through such a stressful time on top of the 2ww. It is stressful for everyone and sometimes I guess the other partner doesn't realise or really know what to do to help. Therefore they get more stressed and perhaps don't appear to be there for you. It's just a big pile of stress with more stress on top for a little more fun!

Please do try as everyone above has said. Have a good cuddle tonight just the two of you and some naughty food - a take away or something. Try to visualise your little one snuggling in, do some breathing exercises and settle down for the remaining wait time.

Good luck, you know we are all here behind you xxx

[Kcrochet in reply to Hidden]

Sorry my message below was meant to be a reply to you 🙈 xx

[Kcrochet]

Thanks so much for your words of comfort Camillage, I am feeling very supported through this forum. Yes it does feel like stress on top of stress at the moment! I spoke to a nice nurse at my clinic and she said to monitor the bleeding but try not to worry. Yes I will def do some breathing and visualisation tonight. Thank you xx

[Dunla]

2ww is just the absolute pits! My heart goes out to you. Sending you a massive hug and best of luck for Sunday xx

[Kcrochet in reply to Dunla]

Thank you for your kindness 😊 xx