Breakdown

[Ajplus1]

My OH is still in hospital it’s been 4 days and they’re thinking MAYBE mid next week he will be able to come home, maybe.

When visiting him tonight I broke down. I think it’s a combination of stress and worry about him and possibly the FSH injections but I just broke down. I felt awful because he’s the one in a hospital bed on a drop and here I am bawling my eyes out beside him. He keeps apologising about not being with me for injections and blood tests/ultrasounds and I think he’s stressing that he won’t be there for insemination day. I am trying to take it one day at a time and I just wanted to be there for him and support him but instead I was the one that broke :(.

I’ll try and get some rest tonight and hopefully I’ll be a better visitor tomorrow!

[Tugsgirl]

Sorry to hear he’s still in hospital. I really hope he’s home by this time next week. When they get ill it sure is a worry and tends to take it out of them more than when it’s us. And I don’t mean because they’re men either lol, but because of their sci’s. You must be missing him terribly xx

[Ajplus1 in reply to Tugsgirl]

So do I, I definitely do miss him. Snuggles in our own bed would surely help his recovery. I know what you mean, it definitely does give you a worry and you feel helpless. Crossing fingers he will be out soon xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Ajplus1]

I’m sure he will be. They’re tough these guys. Not Disabled, Abled xx

[Ajplus1 in reply to Tugsgirl]

They definitely are very abled xx

[Cinderella5]

Ahhhh Im sorry to hear about your OH being in hospital and that he cant be with you! I do think the meds make us more emotional about everything but can completely understand why you want him around! My husband couldnt come with me for my last embryo transfer and felt awful and although I would have liked him there I think it was actually harder for him than me! Big hugs.xx

[Ajplus1 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you. Hopefully we will have some answers and a proper plan in the next day or so. Xx

[genten]

Aww bless you. I really feel for you and OH. I hope he is able to come home very soon.

I think there had been so much stress on both sides and I'm not surprised you had a breakdown. I'm sure he will understand.

I think a good rest is what you need, IVF is stressful enough without a loved one in hospital.

Sending you lots of love. Xxx

[Ajplus1 in reply to genten]

Thank you, me too I’m hoping the doctors change their plans. But I know sometimes it’s the best place for him to get the care he needs; the care I can’t give.

He does understand but I still feel bad xx

[genten in reply to Ajplus1]

Aww. He is definitely in the best place for medical care. Doctors won't keep him any longer than necessary.

I can imagine. When I was stimming I was ok thankfully but it was after the trigger that made me emotional, literally for 2 weeks I was a monster.

Don't be so hard on yourself xxx

[Ajplus1 in reply to genten]

Thank you, me too I’m hoping the doctors change their plans. But I know sometimes it’s the best place for him to get the care he needs; the care I can’t give.

He does understand but I still feel bad xx

[Hidden]

Oh what a worry for you. What's worse is that all the drugs make you so much more emotional. Big hugs xx

[Ajplus1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I didn’t know if the drugs were contributing, I literally had to google it tonight . Today has been a write off and I feel so sorry for my OH and kind of selfish for breaking Xx

[Hidden in reply to Ajplus1]

Please don't feel selfish. It's only natural to feel how you do. Xx

[Ajplus1 in reply to Hidden]

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