Of course I know that alcohol and caffeine are an IVF no no and on the whole I have been very disciplined. However when you have been TTC for over 2.5 years and you've just had your 3rd failed transfer its a little hard to sustain!!
I just looked at the NICE IVF guidelines and there it is written as clear as day
'If you or your partner drink more than 1 unit of alcohol a day this will lessen your chance of success through IVF. For women, drinking caffeinated drinks also lessens your chance of success through IVF'.
So now I'm sat here in tears because I have my second fresh cycle around the corner and I've been drinking tea and having the odd drink well a bit more than that at the weekend because I was on holiday.
I just feel that on this journey you constantly feel like a failure because, you can't conceive naturally, IVF fails, you can't stop yourself from being stressed and you don't have the bloody will power to stay away from tea and booze in between cycles!
I feel like if this next cycle doesn't work then it's my fault.
Does anyone else lapse in between cycles?
Ah bless you, I'm so sorry your feeling upset but please don't be too hard on yourself, the guilt will just make you feel worse. I've only had 1 cycle of IVF so can't comment on lapsing between cycles but I imagine most people would struggle to avoid things like caffeine & alcohol completely. Going slightly off course but I know so many people ( sometimes seen it when working at the hospital) who have drink & drug problems or constantly eat crap or smoke who knock out child after child with no issues at all. Infertility is beyond cruel & I often felt like a failure which made me look for reasons to blame myself for miscarriages etc but hopefully you will get your much wanted baby. Wishing you lots of luck. Xx
Thank you xxxx its so hard at times not to give yourself a hard time and hold yourself responsible! I'm just going to be 'good' (whatever the frig that means!!) from now on and give myself one less thing to worry about. Lots of luck to you too whatever stage you are at xxx