So after a really shit few days of crying, not eating and rubbish broken sleep me and my boyfriend have pulled ourselves up and started looking to the future. In all honesty, nothing could have prepared us for the heartache a failed cycle caused. We’ve always thought of ourselves as very empathetic people and that we can imagine the pain someone else is feeling but we couldn’t have prepared ourselves for how sad it made us to realise that our little moon had gone to sleep. We honestly thought we’d never feel happy again. Luckily our clinic is absolutely amazing and after a follow up appointment on Thursday we can see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel 😊
Yes, it is going to cost a shitload of money, and yes, staying positive this time round is going to be a lot more difficult but f*ck it, if this is what we have to go through to get our miracle baby then so be it!
We talked through our options and we’ve settled on a plan. We’re going for a ‘package deal’ this time (3 rounds of ICSI and 50% of the money back if it doesn’t work out) and a slight change in medication (I’ll be on Lubion injections as well as pessaries after egg transfer this time as I bled quite early first time) but apart from that it’s onwards and upwards with lots of hope, as much positivity as we can muster and maybe a little bit of alternative therapy 💕
So here are my questions:
1. Has anyone here had Lubion before? What’s it like? Did it help?
2. Acupuncture - yay or nay?
3. How have I never watched Bake Off before? It’s now my favourite programme EVER!
Anyway, hope all of you are doing well 💕 To everyone at the start of their journey, it’s tough but you’ll find the strength. To everyone who has had sad news- cry, scream, shout but be kind to yourself. And to everyone who has had a successful cycle, congratulations, I’m genuinely happy for you!
Sending love and positivity to all, try to find your smiles 😊💕 xxx
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I’m so glad that you got positivity from your clinic appointment. I always find as soon as I have a plan then I can be so much more positive and now you have one!
No idea about questions 1 or 2 but I used to love bake off with Mary Berry... I no longer watch it under protest that she’s not in it anymore 😐 xx
Aww, thank you 😊💕 Yeah, definitely easier when you know what the next steps are!
Hehe! It’s the first series I’ve watched so I haven’t got a comparison!xxx
Good for you! Things seem so much brighter when there's a plan in place and something to work towards. It sounds as though you are with a great clinic too. I look forward to your updates and hope everything works out this time xx
I definitely started to feel better once I knew IVF was imminent. The 6 months between my last IUI and starting my cycle were pretty bleak and stressful.
Its so hard to actually feel positive after a heartache and feels like there is nothing positive left, im so happy to read your post it has actually made me feel more positive too. I really hope everything goes well for you and you continue to stay positive and look after each other, can i ask about your package deal? What it cost and what’s involved? Im not sure if im allowed to ask on the forum? 😐 thank you xxx
This is so lovely to read and so glad you are feeling so much more positive now. And you are right we have to dig deep but eventually we do find the strength to get back on that rollercoaster ride! Having a plan I think helps tremendously, all the very best to you X
We went for the ‘package deal’ too after our first failed ICSI round. Felt like a hell of a lot of money but we wanted less pressure on us if the next one didn’t work. Almost feels like we have 2 more back ups so hoping that will help with the heartache should it fail. Just had our embryo transfer yesterday so back on the dreaded 2ww...best of luck hon xxx
Yeah, it’s awful that we have to think about the costs but it definitely feels like less pressure to know it’s all covered. Aww, good luck with your 2ww sweetheart, I have everything crossed for you 😊💕
No one can prepare you for the heartache of a failed cycle but I’m so happy to hear you’ve found your smiles again and have a plan - onwards and upwards! To answer your questions:
1 - I bled at 8dp on my 1st cycle. My second cycle (which I’m in now and had a bfp on Friday) I used/am using lubion. I find them quite painful but they’ve done their job!
2 - I didn’t have acupuncture on my 1st cycle but I did this one and I actually enjoyed it. I only had 3 sessions so it didn’t cost the earth. The lady I went to was so understanding and it was nice to speak to someone about how I was feeling who didn’t know me.
3 - Bake off never fails to make you smile! Who doesn’t love a good old soggy bottom!!
Oh my gosh, our stories are so similar, I bled on day 8 too. It’s really good to hear that the things I’m planning in my next cycle have worked well for you 😊💕 Massive congratulations on your BFP and thank you so much for your reply 😊💕 xxx
Sorry to hear of your failed cycle - glad your clinic have been supportive.
I’ve just been on lubion during my 2ww, it was fine just expensive and I had to use it twice a day and pay private. Unfortunately my embie didn’t stick but I’ll be taking it again for next cycle or if I manage to conceive with my ovulation induction. I’m also a great believer in Accupuncture too. I had it pre and post embryo transfer and weekly pre IVF. My first IVF worked but I had a missed miscarriage later on. I definitely think it helped. It also helped me in other ways too eg lowering my FSH.
Sorry to hear it didn’t work out for you this time sweetheart 😢 Thank you so much for your reply though, it’s good to hear about lots of different experiences and I’m glad that you feel acupuncture has helped. Good luck for your next cycle 💕 xxx
So glad to hear you’re in a better place BFN’s hit you like a tone of bricks, I completely fell apart after my second failed transfer so you’re not alone! I too bleed early on my first cycle and was switched to lubion injections. They worked and I didn’t bleed early. They are not the most pleasant of injections so I’d advise give them in your tummy. Pinch your skin and rub the injection site hard after injecting, the rubbing helped me a lot! Best of luck with everything I’m about to have a natural FET transfer with no medication which I can’t help but find alarming! And yes Bake off is the best, I think it’s on Netflix so you can bake off binge to your hearts content! Xxx
Yeah, the doctor mentioned that they can be quite painful so thank you so much for your advice Oh gosh, a cycle without medication would feel very strange! Wishing you so much luck with it though OMG! I know what I'm doing with my weekend now #bakeoffbinge xxx
I had the lubion injections rather than using the pessaries on my last two cycles (because I absolutely hated the pessaries rather than for any medical reason). I got pregnant both cycles, miscarried the first but am currently 24 weeks pregnant after the second 🤪 ...& still can’t quite believe it!
The injections are fine, I had to inject twice a day. If it’s successful you can struggle to find non-bruised belly space towards the end of the process (I was injecting for 14 weeks in total) and wearing anything with a waist band can make you want to cry as a result but a teeny price to pay 😁
Good luck on the next round lady. Will have absolutely everything crossed for you! Xxx
I know what you mean, it's definitely a small price to pay, I feel like if they said I had to inject myself with a javelin I wouldn't mind!
Thank you so much, good luck to you with the rest of your pregnancy too xxx
Such a nice post to read, I absolutely love your honesty and positivity. I had a chemical pregnancy in March so we are just in the middle of our first fet treatment. I decided to give acupuncture a try this time as I have a cash plan at work so managed to get 4 appointments for free - I absolutely love it. I was quite sceptical at first but after two appointments I feel so much better. I'm sleeping well, a lot more calm and just feel back in control if that makes sense? Oh and I love Bake off too, I always get so inspired and then end up baking nothing, ha! xxx
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Oh gosh, a cycle without medication would feel very strange! Wishing you so much luck with it though 
Everything crossed for our 2WW!! 🌈🤞🤞🤞🌈
Starting our next cycle
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5th transfer - unlucky :-(
Struggling - delayed transfer 
