Hoping for inspiration

[JosephineW]

Hello everyone. I have just joined this forum (first post), and am hoping someone out there can share a happy story with me!

We have just had our second FET today. Last one was negative. Our first fresh cycle was positive but, devastatingly, we lost our twins at 16 weeks. So a small part of me was relieved when last time didn’t work, as I think I’ll be super anxious for the whole pregnancy when it works (when, not if - I WILL be positive).

So.... am hoping someone out there will have had a similar journey to me, but can share a happy ending to inspire me that this does work for some. 🤞🏼

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Hi

I have never got as far as that but last time I had two transfered and got to 8 weeks with two empty sacs. It is so very hard. I wish you all the best with your next round.

Did they give you any reason why?

Big hugs xxx

[JosephineW in reply to Hidden]

I’m so sorry to hear that Camillage. I’ve had two friends have a similar (but non IVF) experience to you, and they were both crushed. I don’t think it matters at what point you lose them - the loss is still the same, and is beyond horrid.

In terms of a reason.... sort of. They did a bunch of tests, with the exception of an autopsy, as we couldn’t bare the idea of them cutting into our wee ones. All of the tests came back clear/normal. So that suggests it was a twin specific difficulty, most likely twin to twin transfusion syndrome, but they don’t know for sure.

The medical professionals keep telling me that’s it’s “really positive” that we got to 16 weeks, as means that I can hold a pregnancy, and if it had been a single pregnancy we would probably have a baby now (twins being riskier than singles). But.... I actually find that particular phrase/reassurance really unhelpful, as it was the worst thing I have ever experienced. And we don’t have a baby now. So what does it matter if I carried them to 16 weeks - they’re still not here. Does that make sense? Sorry for the essay response!

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I'm sorry to read about the loss of your twins Hun. I can't begin to imagine how awful that must have been. I really hope you get a BFP from this FET. My own story for a bit different but I wanted to share it anyway. I had 2 natural pregnancies after being told I'd never concieve naturally. Sadly I had missed miscarriages both times. I was hoping to have another miracle but didn't concieve again so we decided to have IVF as at 41 time was running out! I'm lucky & am now 27 weeks pregnant. I have been extremely anxious throughout & have really struggled but find it easier now baby moves a lot. I still hate scans ( have regular growth scans now ) & when the midwife listens for his heartbeat if he is quiet before I go into see her... It's like sometimes I can't quite believe my luck & expect it to go wrong. I also have many good days too though when I'm so happy & excited. Pregnancy after losses is scary but you will get through it, even if it's taking small steps. Wishing you a happy ending 😘 xx

[JosephineW in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Gracie, and 🤞🏼Yours continues to go well. Did the anxiety reduce after you reached the 24 week mark?

[genten]

Hi and welcome 😊

I've not been pregnant or suffered a loss so I can only imagine the heartache that you have been through, I don't have advice on how to get through it but hopefully others here will.

I just wanted to wish you lots of luck. Xx

[Tugsgirl]

Welcome. I’m so sorry for the loss of your twins. That must have been dreadful. I’m still working on my rainbow baby but there are lots of women on here who have rainbows 🌈

Good luck for your test day xx