Another Negative

[JMNE]

I’m getting so so tired. We’ve got another BFN. This is the third one in a row now, 2 FETs and this most recent a fresh. This is our 8th round in total. The first didn’t work, the second was positive but I lost the pregnancy at 7 weeks, third BFN, 4th produced our amazing, beautiful, healthy, perfect little girl who is now 4 and desperate for a brother or sister (well, she has specified “sister” haha). 5th cycle was March 2017 and was positive but we lost the baby at almost 13 weeks which was and is still heartbreaking. Then our last 3 BFNs.

I’m so frustrated still at losing the baby last year - we should have an 8 month old with us now, my daughter should have the sibling she wants and it kills me that I can’t give it to her!! It makes the BFNs even more frustrating - why aren’t they working!?!?

I know there are no answers, I’m just so so tired of trying. I just want this chapter of our lives to be over and done with. We have 2 frozen embryos left so it’s ‘dust yourself off’ time and we’ll just have to try again. I’m just terrified at the thought of neither of them working.

I know so many of you are in the same boat so I’m sorry for just having a massive whinge. I’m having a day feeling very sorry for myself. I just want it to work!!!

[Cinderella5]

Im sorry you've had another negitive! I can relate to this so much, we have now had 4 negatives in a row (never been pregnant) and feel like Im getting to the end of my tether. We still have 3 frozen embryos left but as you say its getting tiring. Hopefully there is a positive test out there somewhere for us, you're defo not alone!xx

[JMNE in reply to Cinderella5]

I’m so sorry you’ve had negatives too. It’s so disheartening isn’t it. It’s so hard to keep picking yourself up and preparing to start again. I keep telling myself it will work eventually but it’s so much to put yourself through. Are you transferring singles? I’m considering doing both of my frozen ones together next time. X

[Cinderella5 in reply to JMNE]

It really is disheartening, I actually dont know if I fully believe that it will work for us or if Im just protecting myself now.....kind of just going through the motions until we have none left now! Ive done a double, then single with OE, then double, then single transfer with DE and getting nowhere fast! My clinic do believe that double transfers have a better success rate but some others out there dont. Im certainly pushing for a double myself next time. Best of luck with what you decide!xx

[JMNE in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you so much. I really really hope you get there too. Xx

[Hidden]

Wow u are a warrior!! You’ve been through so much I hope the next is your time u deserve it xxx

[JMNE in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. I know we are all fighting our own IVF battles xx

[genten]

So so sorry for your news. xx

[LegoBatgirl]

I'm sorry you've been through so much and I just wanted to say I think it's great of you to share and I hope you know that everyone here supports you and understands x

[JMNE in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Thank you so much. It is nice to be able to share with people who do genuinely understand. Xx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to JMNE]

If you ever need support we're all here for you. This community has been a life saver for me and I hope it can be here for you too x

[JMNE in reply to LegoBatgirl]

I’m genuinely grateful that people have even bothered to reply to me. We’re all going through so much. X

[LegoBatgirl in reply to JMNE]

One good thing on the forum is stories of hope, it can really help to remember that IVF really can bring miracles x

[JMNE in reply to LegoBatgirl]

It really can. Xx

[Billywhizz10]

You shouldn't see this as the 8th round at all.

It took you 4 rounds to get a perfect baby.

Its taking a little longer for your second, but its worked before, so don't give up hope!

Speak to your consultant if there's anything that you can try a bit different, for example baby asprin.

Best of luck xxxx

[JMNE in reply to Billywhizz10]

What is baby aspirin??

I know I need to think more positively. Normally I do but yesterday was a tough day and I was feeling rather sorry for myself haha it’s always hard when you find out it hasn’t worked isn’t it. I am feeling better about things today after allowing myself to spend a day home alone just being sad yesterday.

Definitely not giving up hope, I know I will get there eventually. Thank you for replying to me!Xx

[Billywhizz10]

Hi

Glad you're feeling better, this site really helped me and my wife in our darkest days with IVF.

Baby Asprin is sometimes prescribed for m/c or 'sticking' issues. There are so many factors, but we got our best result so far when my wife switched to taking baby asprin (its normal asprin but designed for kids so a much lower dose), you can get it over the counter at any pharmacy but speak to your consultant.

Here's some info, best of luck, and in your darkest days just look at your beautiful child for hope xx

[JMNE]

Wow I’ve not heard of that, I’m going to speak to my clinic about it - thank you for the info!x

[Billywhizz10 in reply to JMNE]

Sorry, I forgot to post the link! But its best to just to discuss with your doctor rather than giving you stuff from dr google !!!

I'm positive your little one will have a little brother and sister soon! xx

[Billywhizz10 in reply to Billywhizz10]

You can search on here too, lots of mums and mums to be have discussed it! When our consultant suggested it, reading about women's experiences of using it convinced us it was worth a try. xxx

[JMNE in reply to Billywhizz10]

Thank you so much x