New here

[Charleexn2]

Hi all,

I’m new to the group. Had an HSG in June and have one blocked tube. I’m 34 and me and my husband have been ttc for ten years. I have another apt next week to go onto the waiting list for IVF. My area is roughly a 6 month wait which is amazing. We have continued to try since June but have had no joy. Every month I come on I sob for days. I’m obsessed with ovulation charts and taking my temp etc. Last month I was five days late probably due to stress but then came on. I feel all over the place emotionally. I want a baby more than anything and worry that while I’m this stressed it’s never going to happen. My husbands sperm count/mobility is above what is considered to be normal, he is desperate to be a father and I feel so guilty that I can’t make that happen naturally. I feel such a failure.

[TinklyWinky]

When you get your IVF appointment you’ll have your AMH tested which gives an idea of your ovarian reserve...plus they’ll look at the number of follicles. If your AMH/follicle numbers are low you may want to take some extra vitamins - beyond a Pregnacare conception vitamin with folic acid. There is a book called It starts with the egg by Rebecca Fett that reviews the scientific evidence behind each supplement that’s worth reading.

You need to take the vits for 3 months for them to influence egg quality so it may be worth starting while you wait for your appointment as once you’ve had that, things should move along quite quickly. They’re not going to harm your efforts.

Try not to get confused by all the info though. Pick 3 or 4 things that you think might work for you. Otherwise you’ll drive yourself crazy. Stay positive. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Xx

[E_05]

You’re definitely not a failure! Everything you’re describing sounds perfectly ‘normal’ to me for being on this journey. I really hope you don’t have to wait to long, for me that’s always the hardest bit. Once you get going with treatment it seems to go quicker, lots of luck xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to E_05]

Totally agree with E_05 x

[Charleexn2]

Thanks lovely. xx

[Hidden]

I totally understand about the obsession . I think we can all relate to that. One thing that I see everywhere is "relax" aarŕrrgggghhh. But seriously this year I have been trying to focus on reducing stress and dealing with past issues (counselling), I have also done mindfulness which is amazing.

Wishing you all the best and hopefully you will start your ivf journey soon xxx

[LegoBatgirl]

Hi welcome to the forum and best of luck with your treatment. I'm glad you're here to share and everyone here supports you and understands what it's like, this forum has been a life saver for me and hope it helps you too x

[genten]

Hi and welcome

As others have said, you're not a failure, in fact far from it.

Until you've had all of tests available to you, you won't know what's causing this and that's if there is a known reason.

I know just what it's like to chart everything and having a family never leaves your mind.

I just wanted to say that you're not alone and that you have come to the right place.

We're all here to support one another.

Xx