Fed up of feeling so low

[Dogzilla]

Hi all,

Sorry in advance for being so gloomy. I have just found myself really down lately with the cycle of hope, hope, hope- then disappointment. We have been ttc for 3 years and diagnosed unexplained infertility (which I know is a huge positive). We're in the waiting list for Ivf next year. In the meantime we're trying clomid and may be we will try IUIs. I am trying not to be *that* person and let this takeover our lives. But that is how it feels at the mo. What have you all found helps you to cope with the monthly waiting to test/ disappointment?

[CBOO1]

Hey,

I’m so sorry I don’t have any tips or tricks on how to cope with this, but your post caught my eye & that’s exactly how I’m feeling right now!! I’ve had enough ☹️

My boss is pregnant so day in day out it’s in my face, people talking about it, asking me if I’m excited, it’s hell! I just had a client who knows what I’m going through shout across me to her & say ooooh look how youre growing, that’s popped out since I last saw you!! I’m sitting there meanwhile dying inside thinking are you f**king kidding me?!!! I live for home time every day 😢

Big hugs xx

[Dogzilla in reply to CBOO1]

Sometimes it just helps to share, thanks for that. I can totally relate to your work situation- last year i had four different colleagues fall pregnant or their partners were expecting- all due within weeks of each other. None of them knew my situation, and feeling the whole ' happy for you but sad for me' as they announced and the guilt that comes with it. Its not personal it's just so hard having the reminder in your face all day. I have taken to just assuming that everyone I meet is pregnant until proven otherwise...stay strong xxx

[LegoBatgirl]

Long story short we had 18months of trying and testing and the constant negatives were breaking my heart. We got the tests done and I have PCO and my husband has low count so it's ICSI or nothing for us. The good news however had been that I actually feel better now though, there's nothing more I can do other than diet/exercising/supplements that I'm already doing and putting it in the hands of medical professionals has actually helped me to destress as I know I've got the experts on side now.

I also have counselling and have taken up a new hobby to give me some headspace.

Best of luck x

[Hidden]

Hi there,

I'm so sorry your feeling so sad. Your post also caught my eye because I'm on here this evening as I'm also feeling so sad and alone. TTC 19 months, looks like heading to an unexplained infertility...also was misdiagnosed with a hyrdosalphinx, haven't been referred for IVF yet...My doctor has suggested 3 more months of Clomid, even though I ovulate regularly...

You are right, the loop of trying, hoping, then disappointment, etc etc, is draining. I don't know how your are doing it, 3 years is incredible, well done for being so strong.

I watch super comforting tv shows and I do drawing, I'm trying to do more exercise, which is a real discipline. Silly stuff, I did a bounce class last week (aerobics on mini trampolines) draw nearer to friends without children. I'm doing an evening class, and hope to make some new friends, fresh starts, make small but safe changes to break up the cycle of trying, hoping and disappointment.

Good luck with the IVF!