Having a major stress!

[Devj]

Sooo our blasto transfer (using our last two frozen ones from the same batch as my little miracle) is tomorrow and I’m having the biggest meltdown/stress/shakes ever. I wasn’t this bad last time, I took it in my stride and went in and left and was calm as anything. This time I am majoring freaking out. I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack 😢

I have no idea why I’m this bad. Maybe its because it is definitely our last go and my partner and myself really wanting a sibling for our little one.

I need to calm down or I’m going to drive myself mad and possibly jeopardise the treatment being so stressed and anxious.

Any coping techniques gratefully received.

Should get a call off embryologist first thing to let me know how they’ve done defrosting 😳

Good luck to everyone at various stages of this journey 🍀 xxxx

[kumkums]

Wishing you well with the transfer. I don't have any coping technique, I am sorry.

[Devj in reply to kumkums]

Thank you 😘 xx

[Smang]

Try doing meditation or breathing techniques to relax your body. Wishing you the best of luck xx

[Devj in reply to Smang]

Thank you! I downloaded a meditation/mindful app. It really helped at calming me down but I hardly slept xx

[Novice_knitter]

Just seen this - I hope you made it to morning? Mindfulness/breathing stuff is good, then keep using mindfulness technique to bring you back to the present when your mind wanders to ‘what if’/‘fears of not having a sibling for your little one’. Also, try to go easy on yourself for feeling this way, it’s ok that you do.

Wish you the best of luck for today.

C x

[Devj in reply to Novice_knitter]

Thank you for your reply and your advice!

Yes you’re right I need to let myself feel this way instead of questioning it and beating myself up about it.

Try to stay calm but really anxious this morning, hardly slept which hasn’t helped.

Thanks again xxx

[Novice_knitter in reply to Devj]

No worries, send you positive vibes for today x

[LegoBatgirl]

Fingers crossed it goes well for you. I have anxiety and used to have panic attacks so that bit I have some experience of. I started meditation and it has helped before bed but honestly I've found the best thing that helps me regulate my breathing, turn my brain off for a bit and releases some endorphins to make me happy is singing.

If you want to get to sleep, definitely meditation but if you're trying to prevent a panic attack during the day/in the car or wherever I'd recommend giving it a try. As music has a natural rhythm I find it helps me to slow down to that rhythm and having a specific song (it's called slow down) that I know calms me down means that it's like a short cut to de-stressing. It's a weird trick but it works for me.

Best of luck

[Devj in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Thank you for your reply and advice, I’ll honestly give anything a go at the min as I’m seriously freaking out.

Be glad when it’s over now.

Thanks again xxx

[LegoBatgirl in reply to Devj]

Good luck, I think the worst thing is people telling you to calm down (when in the history of the world has telling someone to calm down ever made them calm!).

I hope you find a method that works for you and if you ever want to talk about managing anxiety I'm always here x