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First IVF cycle - Unsuccessful

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Unfortunately my first IVF cycle has come to an end . I spotted a bit on Sunday (8dpt) and my period was meant to come on Tuesday and like clockwork .. yesterday evening it showed up . I thought it was just a light bleed but through the night and this morning it’s clearly my period . I was on the short cycle with the problem apparently being my husbands extremely low mortality. We do not have any frozen eggs and so for now that’s it . I called the nurses and was told to continue with the pessaries and still test on Sunday ( which I think is pointless) but will do it anyway . I know my husband will be ready to go private now but I think I want to give it sometime .. in the meantime I absolutely wish the rest of you the best of luck!!! I have a friend who is due this week and I’m excited and will focus on her joy for now ... I wish you all the best wherever you are in your journey and hopefully we will all get what we want someday ❤️❤️❤️ #positivevibes

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Aww bless you, I'm so sorry to hear this. I was so shocked the first time as I presumed it would work. Onwards and upwards xx

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I know.. I’ve always thought it would all be a walk in the park- getting pregnant - and it was a major shock when we got the news about the husband ..I had started suspecting something could be wrong as I was ovulating normally and we were having ALOT of sex so the results just solidified it . But then I thought being 30 and apparently fit and healthy and everything working then if we can get over the hurdle of the swimmers we may be okay - but then there were genetic concerns and all and I thought well let’s see what happens anyway . I think I was semi prepared that it might fail tbh but it’s still a bit sad when it does .. oh well .. I will book some holidays and enjoy the next few months here and there before ready to give it a second go .. fingers crossed for you on your journey ❤️

Im so sorry to hear this i was looking forward to reading a positive post, i hope you are able to keep going and heres a big hug xxxxxxx

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Steph254 in reply to TRYING2016

Thanks I’m sure that there will be some positive news coming soon .. and some from you too!!! ❤️❤️

I am so sorry to read this. Sending big hugs. Whilst you may not feel like it, you do sound so strong and i am sure one day you will have your dream xx

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Steph254 in reply to Camillage

Thanks a lot! I am quite surprised how well I am taking it but I do take things in strides and just think okay so what’s the way forward ? I avoid dwelling too much on negative moments .. I’m sure it will happen some day 😊

I’m so sorry to hear this. Gutted for you. Definitely think having a break is a good idea. Trying / having treatment can really take it’s toll on you. Enjoy time off 🙂Lots of private clinics offer free open evenings so you can vet them out & see which one is right for you. Most nhs clinics also offer private too. All the best xoxo

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Thanks for your comment 😊.. luckily we had booked a small holiday at the end of this month to Berlin and I’ve never been so I’m looking forward to that . We will most likely go private at the same hospital we have been at ( nhs ) but we will see how it goes .. thanks and all the best to you too! ❤️

How brave of you to focus on your friend. Your strength is amazing. X

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Steph254 in reply to Melissa11

Her water broke this afternoon! We had started trying to get pregnant together and she knew about our diagnosis and our process and I didn’t have the heart to tell her this morning that things had gone south for me as she was so close to her time .. didn’t think it would be today ( her due date was Monday) I did have the thought that this could have been both our due dates if we had both gotten pregnant at the same time but I think that things happen differently for everyone and there’s sometimes a reason although we don’t always see it .. I really try to compartmentalise my emotions and in all things and I guess it helps 😊.. it will all be fine for us all however things go you know? Only we are responsible for our joy and we should Ispend our lives trying to create more joyful moments even when we don’t feel like we should .. such is life ❤️❤️ all the best in your journey! ❤️❤️

So so sorry to hear this, sending hugs. This journey is the hardest of any especially because it takes so much already to get to the 2ww and then it’s out of our control. I admire how strong and positive you are being. Sending extra positive vibes to you and really hope it works next time xx

So sorry to read this. Wish you all the best for the future x x

Sorry to read this - you sound fairly positive so well done.

Best of Luck with the next steps whatever they may be.


So sorry to read this, thinking of you. Your positivity is inspiring and a break is probably what you need to try and focus on you and your partner before deciding when/what path to take next. When my first fresh cycle failed we took a break from treatment; had long weekends away and focussed on us and put everything behind us for the time being. We returned to treatment and the outcome was the best ever. Wishing you all the best 💞 xxxx

I've just had my first failed transfer so know how you feel. I'm taking a break before next one and going on holiday and enjoying some time out. Make the most of it as this process is so gruelling! Wishing you all the best on your journey and your next steps xx

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Steph254 in reply to HollieW

Tight hugs Hollie and do enjoy the break... wishing you the best on your next steps too ..❤️❤️

Sorry to hear this just at least you know you gave it a shot, and I read so many times of it working second and third times so you just need to be confident you are doing everything you can then you can't have any regrets. It's a cruel journey and it sounds like your able to be able friends and their joy (which is something I've struggled with) which is amazing. Good luck, if there's anything to spend a ridiculous money on, I think this is good thing so good luck for next time and enjoy Berlin. Xx

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Steph254 in reply to Box01

Aww, I will and thanks !! All the best in your journey too ❤️❤️

I'm so sorry to hear it. I have just had a failed first IVF too and it's devastating. Hats off to you that you are being positive. Sending lots of hugs your way x

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Awwww tight hugs my dear!! It will be well with us ❤️❤️

I'm so sorry- your positive attitude and love for your friend is truly inspiring. You will get your bfp one day! Enjoy your holiday and take care of yourself Xx

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Steph254 in reply to CC2018

Thanks so much !! I believe it will happen too ..someday 😊❤️❤️

So sorry to hear this. My first FET was unsuccessful too. Just tested on Tuesday and although deep down you are “prepared” for a negative I can’t explain how I felt when I saw the “not pregnant” flash up. It’s such a heartbreaking journey. Glad you are feeling positive 💕 xxx

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Steph254 in reply to Marietay

Tight tight hugs...yes , I’ll be doing my test on Sunday and while I already know it will be a negative , I look forward to a time when it will be positive ! It will happen for us someday .. do stay positive ❤️❤️

Sorry to read this 😢 sending lots of love x

I just completed my 2 weeks wait and got a bfn, It feels like death. Cant understand why cause Doc said egg quality and Uterus lining was perfect. Starting my next cycle in 21 days don't know if is the right thing to do?

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