Ivf first cycle failed

[Molly21kaci]

Hi, I have just completed my first cycle of fresh ivf and received a negative pregnancy test. This has really knocked me and I'm so scared about doing a FET for that to fail along with trying to be happy in myself. Sometimes it feels as though this has consumed me over the last 2 years, our tests have been ok so what went wrong. My partner had lower sperm mobility, but it seems this was effected by use of a hot tub on a weekly basis, to which we have stopped usage off. Maybe I van get pregnant naturally but the hope is gone. How can I clear my head of such negative thoughts. Sorry if this is rambling.

[IchigoKeikaku]

Hi Molly21kaci

I’m so sorry to hear the cycle failed. I am not sure what to give for advice, but just wanted to send you a big hug. X

[Habibi87]

Hi Molly, really sorry for the negative result. It’s normal to feel really upset and lost. It’s not a easy journey, however the first attempt often doesn’t work as IVF it’s always a bit of trial and error. Sending you lots of luck for your FET xx

[Molly21kaci in reply to Habibi87]

Thank you for your kind words x

[Keepingfaith85]

Hi Molly, it’s really common to get a negative result on first transfer unfortunately. Even when everything has gone right there’s still a 50/50 chance. The truth is the only way to get that positive is to keep going. It will happen, even though it feels impossible right now and when it does it will all be worth it.

Your clinic will give you a follow up and see if anything needs to chance. FET is lots simpler and kinder to your body so you wil be feeling better too.

Sorry for your heartache ❤️

[Molly21kaci in reply to Keepingfaith85]

Thank you, I'm getting there as the days go on. I'm awaiting the clinic to get in touch with regards to a follow up and hoping that will make me feel better for the next round x

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Molly21kaci]

Yes I think you will feel better when you know next steps. It’s exhausting to go through physically and mentally so make sure you take time to look after yourself before jumping back to it xx

[Patel01]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I went through exactly the same a few months ago. The negative test was such a heart break as everything had gone well so I completely understand how you feel. Take the next few months to heal from this, it's great you have the option for FET and wishing you all the best with it.

It's important to take some time to let your body and mind recover from it all and get the strength to try again. Xxx

[ttcsolomummytobe]

This happened to me exactly a week ago, I had done 3 IUIs prior and they all failed so I feel like I went into IVF more prepared that it is just an unknown in that 2ww and the outcome but it can still be hard to deal with. Don't think the fact that the IVF meds give you pregnancy symptoms helps.

I know after my 3 IUIs I was broken and that's because I didn't take the time to deal with each one as it happened, just kept moving on to the next. Take the time you may need, don't rush into another as if that didn't work you will just worry if you rushed.

Send hugs x

[HollyT7]

Nothing is to say your second shot won’t work. We had a chemical from our first then two successful pregnancies after that. We only had three embryos fertilise after having 29 follicles. I thought that we had no chance. Although so much of this is science, a lot of it is luck as well ❤️ all the best xxx

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry, our first transfer didn’t work either but it’s really good news you have at least one embryo frozen? It was a FET that worked for us a couple of transfers later. Form what I can tell on here it’s really not that common for the first transfer to work but our expectations are so high that it feels like a bump back down to earth when it doesn’t 😢 BUT lots of hope for future transfers and you already have it in the freezer so the hardest part is done 🤗💜 good luck for your next go xx

[Molly21kaci in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you for your kind words xx

[Weareback2]

Sorry to hear it didn't work. There is no gaurantee with ivf i am afaid and it really just comes down to luck. FET worked for us and i read somewhere the success rate can be skightly higher with a frozen as it needs to go through being frozen/ thawed so already proven to be a wee fighter....but again no gaurantee. Wishing you all the luck.

[SpanielsFamily]

Hi Molly, very sorry to hear the this news.

I have a similar journey to you. My husband has a low sperm count and my recent first treatment failed. Unfortunately sometimes these things happens there is no reason. Just if you were to fall pregnant naturally it doesn't always work.

With IVF it's different in the sense that you are hyper aware of everything compared if you conceived naturally.

For me I try to hold on to the positives. E.g they found no reason why it didn't work. I have another opportunity in September for a FET.

It is normal to feel sad. Try to find the positive on each day . This could be anything like the sun is shining, I got out of bed, I went to work rather than holding the the negatives as there is nothing you can to to change the past, but you can control the present. Where I found it consuming I started making plans to have something to look forward to which previously I put on hold. It gets easier with time.

I hope this helps but I would also suggest seeking counselling and talking to a professional who can help you process your feelings and help you manage these. X

[Molly21kaci in reply to SpanielsFamily]

Thank you, and wishing you all the best for your FET in September xx

[Springbaby]

I’m so sorry to hear. I went through a heartbreak too last week. My 2nd cycle both failed. Got BFP after our FET 5dt and pregnant 7weeks then I missed miscarriage. We have a follow up consultation with my doctor next week then decide for the next step. I only have 1 frozen embryo left and hopefully this will be our rainbow 🌈👶.

Such a cruel journey. Just take time for yourself, try and get your head around with everything. Be kind to yourself. xx

[Molly21kaci in reply to Springbaby]

It really is a difficult journey, I'm sorry to hear you had a miscarriage that is awful. I wish you the best for your last embryo xx

[Tilly8135]

Hi Molly, Sorry to hear your first cycle of IVF wasn’t successful, I was consumed by IVF for 4 years, it’s such an awful procedure to go through physically and mentally. I went through 3 IVF cycles which all failed. The doctor said he felt there was little chance of me falling pregnant, although they never had an answer as to why i wasn’t getting pregnant and it was all unexplained. We decided as we wernt having much luck in the U.K. to try for a 4th round at a hospital in Cyprus, however to my astonishment i found out i was Pregnant naturally 4 days before we were due to fly. I think i spent about £50 in pregnancy tests as i couldn’t believe it. I now have a beautiful little boy who is running me off my feet but i wouldn’t have it any other way. Please do not loose hope, amazing and unexpected things can happen at any time and i am proof of this. Sending lots of baby dust to you xx

[Molly21kaci in reply to Tilly8135]

Thank you so much, that is amazing that you conceived naturally ❤️ x

[MariaHdz]

It is very difficult. If it helps, I had to go thru 6 iui and 5 transfers (FET, fresh ones were never an option for me because I have PCOS and I had OHSS) before I had a positive.Sometimes nothing went really wrong, and it is just bad luck. Even IVF does not have 100% chance of working the first time. It is closer to a 30% depending on your age and issue... and sometimes it can be as low as a 10%

For a normally fertile couple, it can take 1.5 years of trying with no treatment (like 18 cycles), to get pregnant. So in IVF it can also take a while. If it falls one or two times more, maybe you can try to look for another clinic.

It is very difficult but don't struggle against your feelings, embrace them, and maybe take a break. Whatever you are feeling, it is normal, as this is not easy.

[Lolalules]

Hi Molly,

Sorry to hear it didn’t work. I remember for our first round we were so positive it would work… we’d fixed some issues (blocked tube), we’d got a good number of embryos etc. i was devastated when it didn’t work. But it truly is the case that the first is more of a trial round where they see how you react to the meds and how they can optimise things for. We were successful on our third transfer (2nd collection) and following two chemicals (1 IVF 1 natural). I had several moments where j thought it would never happen, but keep positive and I’ll have my fingers crossed for you. Also recommend it starts with an egg (the book) if that helps! X

[Sunny39]

Just wanted to say I’m sorry, I know how heart breaking it is too. I had three fails and almost stoped, but decided to try for a last time, and it worked! Keep going x x x