When you’re having counselling right in the middle of 2 week wait and the counsellor asks you how the pregnancy is going 😤 [not a trained fertility counsellor but has been told how ivf works]
....and then later when you explain it’s the uncertainty that’s getting you down she thinks you mean you are worried how your life will change when you’ve got children. No. That’s not it!!
Well I went to a fertility counsellor and felt so much worse after coming out - she said I needed to come to terms with never having kids!!!!
I hadn't had any treatment at that stage.
Needless to say I never went back! 🤣
Xxx
Sheeesh 🤭 that’s awful
I agree that the waiting and being in limbo is the thing that drives you crazy. Hope you have someone more understanding to talk to xxx
I've never been to counselling but I've lost count of the number of times I've said to people that I'm really nervous about my pregnancy only for them to assume I mean how our lives will change when we have children. I'm like, seriously you don't know how wrong you are!! So many of us on here waiting so long for this!
That’s a bit useless. I hope the counsellor didn’t charge you hourly rate?
No it’s through my gp, on the whole it’s been good. Just today was a bit laughable really, how easy it is for someone to say the wrong thing!
Oh my! What a bloody idiot, she’s clearly not got an ounce of common sense! I have to say they aren’t all as useless as that, perhaps find a new counsellor! Xx
It’s been good on the whole, just frustrating today! I really thought I had explained it all well enough several sessions ago, how I won’t know until I’ve done the pregnancy test etc , feeling extra anxious during these 2 weeks, and somehow she assumes I’m pregnant already and worried about coping with children 🤦🏻♀️ never mind x
🙈🙈🙈 What a stupid thing to say.... It's amazing how many (mostly innocent) stupid comments people give about IVF when they have no idea. I find it's easiest to not let it bother you and remember it's them that are the ignorant ones, and if the table was turned thats the only real way they'd understand. Hope you're ok and try to do some nice things to look after yourself during your 2ww. I found (sad but true) jigsaws helped me clear my mind during my last 2ww.... I was having counselling at the time too. Worth a try! 😁 Best of luck Xx 🍀🍀🍀
Some of them haven’t got a clue. We saw a fertility counsellor after having a freeze all due to me developing OHSS and she told me that I was obviously very fertile!!! 🤔Erm yes obviously considering the fact I’d been diagnosed with infertility due to severe endometriosis and told it would be a miracle to get pregnant naturally! Xxx
Not helpful hon x
No she wasn’t! I think only people who have been through the 2ww can fully understand the anxieties and worries, the symptom spotting, testing early and constant googling. We’ve been there 3 times and the only thing that helped us was talking and supporting each other through it and keeping busy. Good luck! X
I have experienced something similar. Went for hypnotherapy to help with my low self esteem and worrying (all triggered by TTC) during my second session the lady said and I quote ‘the universe doesnt give a shit if you want a baby now, the universe will make it happen when the universe is ready’ and ‘do you honestly think you’d be a good mum if you got pregnant now? Pushy mother alert’
Safe to say i never went back. I just burst into tears. What is wrong with people?! xx
WTF?? That’s just awful, I’m shocked . how is that in any way ok to say?
That’s really awful, what a dreadful therapist.
That's awful!!! I hope you had an apology from her. Good luck and hugs x
I have been to see a fertility counsellor and found her really helpful but you are right sometimes they do sometimes say the wrong thing even though they are meant to be trained. She asked if I had considered IUI after telling her I had no fallopian tubes after 2 ectopic pregnancies so clearly IUI would not work for me! She did have the grace to look a bit embarrassed after she realised what she said! On the whole though counselling is a good outlet and it's encouraged my husband to open up about how he feels as the men do sometimes get lost in this process xx
Sounds like your counsellor needs a lot more education. Do they have a supervisor you can speak to? Or can you just change counsellor?
She’s not a trained fertility counsellor it’s just through my gp , so I can make allowances - I’m having to educate her as we go! I just feel like sometimes she doesn’t take in what I say. I guess it’s a lot for someone to take in when it’s all new. It probably wasn’t the wisest move to do it this way but I didn’t have a good experience with the one the hospital provides either.
As long as you are getting more positives than negatives from it x
Got you're all scaring me. Am waiting to see the fertility counsellor.
I’m sure you will be fine
xx
Feeling nervous. Test date tomorrow 
Talk to me... Dealing with fear & wander 😳😳😳
Fertility the mountain you never realised you had to climb. 
Nhs ivf - what happens to what is left over? 
Had a couple of drinks before FET
