How to carry on

[Abaco]

Hello,

This is my first time posting. My husband and I have been having fertility treatment abroad. Our first fet transfer ended in a bfn. Our second has recently ended in a chemical pregnancy. We are going over next week to have alloimmune tests and blood clotting tests. we have 4 top grade embryos left. I am really struggling to carry on at the moment, just keep breaking down. I don't know why my body is letting me down. Any advice or help will be most appreciated, thank you for reading x

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Please don’t think it’s your body as I did! I had bfn abroad and then 3 chemical pregnancies which are devastating as you have the crazy happy high of a bfp only to find out a few days later that hcg has dropped and it’s game over. It took me 5 miscarriages before they finally tested me for blood clotting and there was the problem! This pregnancy has probably been successful because 5 days pre transfer I was prescribed Clexane 40 (now increased to 60) and my thyroid was out of wack which can also cause miscarriage. Just have all the tests and go again. Chemical pregnancy demonstrates you CAN get pregnant but something went wrong in the implantation process, usually abnormal embryo or unreceptive lining. Don’t give up hope!! You will get there and you have 4 precious embryos waiting which is amazing! Best of luck xxx

[Abaco in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for replying and for your kind words. We are going back over to the clinic soon for more tests including blood clotting and alloimmune tests for me and my husband. The clinic are doing everything they possibly can to make it work for us, just so hard to pick ourselves back up again. People like you are a big inspiration to me to keep going and to not give up so thank you x

[Hidden in reply to Abaco]

Believe me I know how hard this is but you will get there! I’m glad you have faith in your clinic and I pray they get you there ASAP 🙏🏼. Thinking of you xxx

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Try and keep positive even tho it feels so hard!! Keep strong xxx

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Try to focus on the 4 top grade frozen embryos if you can. This is an amazing set to have waiting for you.

Great that you are doing the other tests too.

Sending you hugs. Xxx

[Abaco]

Thank you so much everyone for all your kind words and thoughts, they mean a lot to me. I hope in time this will work for us x