I’m freaking out

[Hands2015]

Going to see my 6 month pregnant friend today and I’m freaking out. I know that makes me a bad friend and I can’t avoid pregnant people forever

It doesn’t help that I’m supposed to be ovulating at the moment and I’m just not even more highlighting that I can’t get pregnant

Luckily it’s just going to the cinema so not much talking but i feel horrible and then feel horrible for feeling like this

[Shil11]

I totally understand.... can’t help the green eyed monster either lol lol

[Hands2015 in reply to Shil11]

Lol no wish I could put that monster in a cupboard somewhere lol

[Hidden]

Let yourself feel what you are feeling and don't feel bad. It is totally justified.

Good it is the cinema

Xxx

[Cinderella5]

Dont feel bad, you just feel how you feel! You just want that to be you, its not like you dont want her to have a baby! I think we all feel like this around pregnant people now and then and its hard when its in your face with someone like a friend. Hope you get on ok!xx

[Tugsgirl]

I think you’re being very brave and selfless going to see your friend. Both of my two bffs have new (ish) babies and I only saw them at the beginning of their pregnancies because I was pregnant too. One was due in January and I was due April, two weeks behind the other friend. Then I miscarried and I just couldn’t face them. I had to face seeing them at a funeral when they were both heavily pregnant and I felt so awful for crying over my lost babies instead of solely focusing on the person who’s funeral it had been, but it just seemed to bring my grief to the fore again, especially being with my two friends. I’ve still not met their babies. The baby born in January had a naming ceremony last weekend and although I was grateful to be invited I couldn’t face such a baby orientated occasion and politely declined. Both friends and their babies were attending. As well as many other babies and toddlers. I’ve promised both friends I will meet their babies soon. Whether I’m ready or not, I can’t avoid it forever. Anyway I just wanted to say that your feelings are completely normal, it’s self preservation. Only ever do what you’re ok with doing. Sometimes you have to be a bit selfish if it stops you from getting hurt xx

[Hands2015 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you for your reply it’s really helped to get so much support. I’m sorry to hear your loss and your so right about just needing to do things right for yourself x x

[Tugsgirl in reply to Hands2015]

Sadly I had another miscarriage in the September so it’s probably added to why I’m struggling to see them and their babies so much. I think it’s bloody hard when you haven’t had a miscarriage, just dealing with infertility is hard enough xx

[Drives]

Aww I can completely relate to those feelings. My sister and best friend have just had babies and i've had to be a little selfish and take a step back as was really struggling. Feeling so much stronger having done that now though.

I hope it went ok and you managed to enjoy the catch up with your friend. Please just remember not to be too hard on yourself 😘

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Does she know about your difficulties? I found it much easier to tell people, but everyone is different. Most people showed great understanding and empathy and it helped me to know they knew why I might not be all excited about their pregnancy.