I have tried 5 IUI’s, 2 IVF’s and now a DE which is a frozen transfer. All failed! So devastating to say the least. At donor success rates I was sure it was happening, only to be devastated! I have a phobia of needles and I took the suppositories progesterone instead of the intermuscular injection. My doctor said it may give me a lesser chance. I have done a lot of research and they all say that there is NOT much of a difference in the two. We paid out of pocket for the DE process and now to our limit. The doctor says to try again but with the shots. But still not guaranteed! This whole process between the blood work, shots and meds is so stressful, I’m amazed that any women can get prego with this process. I know what guaranteed if I do it again, more stress and torture to my body. Can anyone give me advice? Did anyone have a similar situation? My hubby says enough is enough!! Thankfully I have a 4 year old happy and healthy girl at home, she was conceived naturally and was a great surprise! But we wanted to give her a sibling to grow up with. 😪😪 but I guess it’s not meant to be😪😪😪😪 so devastated! Please tell me if you had success in DE, and how many times before it took????
Sincerely Sad!😪😪😪
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There are lots of ladies that have had success with DE on here, some first time around and others 2nd time.....some are still stuggling after many failed cycles, as you say there are no guarantees. Ive never heard of injections being better, I would think so long as you're not bleeing then there is no concern that the pessaries arent working. My private clinic just upped my dose to 2x400 of cyclogest compared to my NHS clinic. Im one of those ladies that has failed our first DE transfer but we are preparing for our second transfer for around end of July. We got 6 top quality blastocysts from our donor (which we were hugely grateful for) so we still have 2 go's left. It is hard having lots of failures but if you can then hang on in there!xx
Hey thanks for your response. My Doctor told me that he feels that using the intermuscular oil would give me a greater chance. I really didn’t believe it since I have researched and all the medical articles tell me that there is really no difference, with either suppositories or injections. Why put my body through intermuscular injections when I have heard through my girlfriend that have done the process, that it really hurts and it’s sometimes you can’t sit or walk after all these injections. We are debating to do another cycle because we have 2 more normal eggs frozen but, I just don’t want to go through it again and it’s not guaranteed. My doctor says the only difference this time is to do the intermuscular shot, if I was to do the procedure again. Omg that really stresses me! What do you think ??? I know there are many success stories with DE out there, but I would love to know what meds and their different type of process then mine?? My doctor had me on crinone 8% 2x a day. And lovenox subcutaneous injections daily and estrogen pills 3 x a day. To get a negative result 😪😪😪, I’m so devastated!! It’s hard a process.... I hope you have lots of success xoxoxo 😘😘
All that I can tell you meds wise is Im starting on estrogen 2mg x 4 per day. Clexane 40mg, cyclogest 400mg x 2 per day. My estrogen tablets will be monitored and put up if necessary depending on how my lining went. I had crinone in my NHS cycles and it didnt do anything to stop me bleeding 7dp5dt (my OE cycles) so hence on a bigger dose this time. My clinic said no need for the injections, they're painful etc and I guess they were right as I didnt bleed. I just didnt get implantation so that is my problem, never been pregnant ever even although I had transferred a hatching blastocyst and a fully hatched blastocyst. I think a lot of it is down to luck and some of the ladies that Ive followed for a long time had failures first time around with good embryos and had success with poorer embryos.....I guess its just the luck of the draw really and if you think you can handle it then go for it. Perhaps a little time out of it to treat yourselves and do some normal stuff would be beneficial too!xx
I guess you may be right. It’s just pure luck. Like winning lotto lol. When I had my daughter naturally we were not even trying. Thank god she is happy and healthy! I was 41 at the time. Now she’s 4 years old and we really wanted to give her a sibling to grow and play with. But when your trying it doesn’t happen. I feel like your body is so stressed trying g so hard that it just doesn’t happen. Could it be my body is rejecting all the meds??? We took all kinds of test for my uterus and my doctor says it was perfect and ready for a baby!!! So this is just so devastating. What more can I do after a young donor egg does not work??? I feel it’s the end of the road for me 😪😪😪😪 I really am praying for you in hopes you have a happy ending!❤️❤️
Plus the crinone 8% they had me on, when I received the meds, the suppositories didn’t look like any gel was in the tube!!??? I was worried and told my doctor but he assured me it was ok , I even brought one in to show him....... how do you move on from this devestating trauma???? 😪😪😪😪
I don't know about moving on really....Im still living life in limbo hoping that one of our frozen embryos will give us our baby! Will keep trying for a while yet as we're not ready yo throw the towel in yet! I really just think it is luck, as you say winning the lottery! Time in between helps, and planning a few nice things to do together to try to be "normal" helps too. Just do whatever makes you feel a little better, everyone is different!
Those crinone things sounds like what I had on my first cycle buy as I said if you didn't bleed before OTD (as I did) then I can't see any reason to change to injections.xx
Thank you Cinderella5! Thanks for replying and sharing your story with me.❤️ I hope all goes well for you ❤️ I am definitely taking time off and just focusing on my daughter and getting back to normal routine! Not sure if we will be doing another procedure as it is very costly! The last one we paid out of pocket. I’m in NY and it’s very expensive ugh! But knowing I still have 2 embryos frozen and normal after PGS testing. It makes me anxious. So my hubby says to move on from this we must discard them 😪😪😪😪
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