Depression and ivf

[Natalie1307]

Today I have finally gone to the doctors not being happy I have now been given anti depressants and would be shortly starting IVF but I now know that it may not be possible till I am mentally well does anybody else experienced this situation and have any knowledge what ivf clinics will do

[destiny121]

Hi natalie, does the depression come from infertility?

[Natalie1307 in reply to destiny121]

Hi the depression has come from a number of things that has happened over the last few years changes and challenges at work, loss of my grandma, nearly the loss of my step dad and then being unable to concieve not talking and I have took too much on to deal on my own

[destiny121 in reply to Natalie1307]

Ahhhh bless you sweetheart... seems as if you have been through a lot. I highly commend you for seeking help which is a start and my advise will be to take a day at a time and try your best not to over think life. It may be wise to speak to a councillor and also talk more to your partner about the way you feel and also yiur family. Dont bottle up things inside you and get it off your chest. Wishing you all the best xx

[Jenjen84]

Hello Natalie,

I’m very sorry to hear this. The journey to parenthood for many of us is such a rollercoaster of emotions.

I’ve recently referred myself to get some professional help as I know only too well the depression and anxiety that comes with this journey. After suffering infertility for 2.5 years and one failed IVF in Feb this year, I decided enough is enough so self referred through the NHS to a local clinic to have some CBT sessions. I’m not sure if you have access to this kind of treatment in your area? Also, most IVF clinics offer counselling sessions too.

I just wanted to let you know that your not alone. It’s such a tough journey and I think seeking help from the Drs is only going to make you stronger and more able to fight the fight.. I really hope your feeling more positive soon.. Best of wishes to you xxx

[Natalie1307 in reply to Jenjen84]

Thank you for the best wishes and words xx

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well done Natalie for getting some help for yourself- it’s such an important first step. You don’t “have” to do anything and mental health is not about telling yourself not to feel a certain way- because that does not work. If I told someone not to think of an elephant- what do they think of. Accepting that you are not feeling yourself and being kind to yourself without any judgement are so important right now. Therapy with antidepressants is very helpful and helps us to develop coping mechanisms. Often the counselling with the IVF clinic is only a few sessions so may be better to get some through your GP for a longer course- when you are ready to talk (which may be a bit later once the medication is starting to work).Re IVF- it’s a completely personal choice. If you have severe depression/anxiety then the clinic may suggest themselves to postpone your cycle. It’s up to you whether you go for the first appointment or whether you just hold off from it now and focus on yourself. It’s rare that depression has a single reason.

Wishing you all the best for your journey- I hope you have a supportive GP. There’s a lovely book called “radical acceptance” which is all about being more compassionate to yourself. Xxx

[Natalie1307]

Thank you for the best wishes, words and luck

[Natalie1307]

Thank you for your words of postivity and I will look into getting that book xx