Just want to thank all you ladies who have been so supportive with your messages. Unfortunately my blood results have shown that it was a chemical pregnancy & it’s all over now.
We don’t have the energy, the will or the finances to continue with IVF anymore. I’ve shed some tears but mostly I just feel Angry & pointless, at times even numb.
Am trying not to feel angry as I know it’s not productive but I am angry for so many reasons. I’m angry at society for telling me to wait until I was older, i’m Angry at my ex-husband who married me knowing how much I wanted children then announced 7 years later he didn’t want them, I’m angry at the fertility specialists who haven’t carried out all of the tests we should have had & have completely failed us. I’m angry at having spent nearly £30k on fertility for nothing. I’m angry that the news is full of the new baby prince on the day that it’s confirmed I’m no longer pregnant.
Sorry for the above rant, I appreciate you ladies being there over the last few years & for listening/offering advice, etc.
We are now going to be concentrating on the adoption process rather than ttc - I had to have a plan in place or I would actually break.
Wishing all of you good luck & hoping you all achieve your dreams. I am going to take a break from the forum for my own sanity but will check in when I feel a bit better.
First of all, I am deeply and sincerely sorry. I wished with all my heart It would have been different.
And second, don't apologize for feeling like that because YOU ARE RIGHT. It is unfair and you have all the reasons to be angry with society, with your exhusband with the docs.
And even more than I wish It had been different, I wish you find your happiness soon. It won't be easy, but you are prepared for much more now. Don't let those doctors that didn't care enough, that patner that wasn't honest or the people that told you It wasn't the right moment or that you were too young (probably the same ones telling others they are old), take out your strenght or your joy for life. You will be happy for yourself and for that kid/s you will be giving a second brilliant chance in life. Everything else equals to 💩. We don't have control over so many things, but of those we do, we go till the end.
Lots of love xxx
My heart literally breaks for you I’m so sorry. It’s such a truly heartbreaking experience; I had a chemical pregnancy last year and I know how devastating it is; people think because it’s so early it hurts less but it doesn’t. Let yourselves grieve this loss and make some decisions when it’s less raw. Right now you’re too upset to make difficult choices. Be kind to yourselves. I do wish you the very best with whatever choice you make and hope it brings you happiness 💕💕💕 xoxo
I’m so sorry your journey of ttc has ended this way. I wish you so much luck and happiness with the adoption process. Please keep us all updated on that xx
Absolutely heartbroken for you hun, I'm really sorry for how your journey has turned out, big hugs and lots of love. Good luck with adopting hun wishing you all the best 💝💝😘
So sorry lovely. I understand every part of your anger. Good luck with your route forward and be kind to you. Big hugs xxx
Oh Hun I'm really sorry it's just heartbreaking. I get angry too and it's good to let these emotions out or they eat us up inside. I hope that in time you are able to move past the anger and not let it define you. Good luck with the adoption process. Sending love and hugs xxx
Feel devastated for you. It's all so unfair. You don't deserve this. Really thinking about you and want to wish you all the best as you embark upon the adoption process. Can I just mention that a friend of mine went through a few IVF cycles without any success. She abandoned all hope and resigned herself along with her husband that they would never have children of their own. A few years passed and guess what?! They very surprisingly and unexpectedly conceived naturally and are expecting their miracle baby in a few months time. What I mean to say is... miracles can happen. My friend is no exemption. It could happen to you too. Trusting that things work out for you. Take care. Sending you a hug.xo
Hello I'm so so sorry to hear your news. It's just heartbreaking. You need to allow yourself time to grieve for your loss. Any IVF transfer is a little life and all the hopes, dreams and wishes you had for your baby are sadly now gone. Be kind to yourself. Sending lots of love x x x
I’m so sorry, what a devastating end. I can absolutely understand your anger, bottling up will be worse than allowingbyourself to go through this grieving process. Thinking of you and wishing you luck in your journey, whatever path that takes x
I am so sorry to read your post and can I just say you have a right to be ANGRY.
I also feel that way too and this journey is so hard and for some of us has been very long.
I also understand the need to have a focus to help with the process of moving forward. I want to wish you all the very best with the adoption route that you are looking into.
I am not sure what we will do next and waiting to hear from the consultants but I am so tired of it all.
I'm so sorry to read this. It is perfectly natural to feel all of those emotions. Take time to grieve before you proceed with the next steps. I wish you all the best xx
I recognise all those angry feelings. I’m so sorry it hasn’t worked out differently for you right now but I hope that the way it works out eventually brings you happiness. Xxxxx
I understand your pain. Everything you have said makes sense. Your anger is justified. I am sorry and tonight I will pray for you. I know how feeble that sounds but I want to help you in some way and it’s the only thing I can do. Xxxx
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’ve every right to be angry! I really hope the adoption route brings you your longed for family. Sending love xxx
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
It's really end of the journey for me....
The importance of getting your progesterone levels checked for IVF success....
Three of a kind- thank you all for your support *sensitive post*
No baby and now maybe now husband
Did/do your school have an IVF policy for teachers? If not, what would you have liked to have seen in the policy?
