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That awful news

After slight spotting this afternoon I paid for a private scan. I'm 15+5 and had the awful news that my little one has no heartbeat and looked liked it stopped growing between 13 and 14 weeks. My infertility is due to extremely low oestrogen levels. I took meds as advised for the first 12 weeks and was then told to stop taking them. Everything I now read says that low oestrogen = miscarage. Stopped the meds at 12 weeks, baby stops growing at 13! I'm absolutely heartbroken. Has anybody had an experience like this? Or has anyone needed to take the oestrogen meds throughout the whole of their pregnancy (and it's been successful)? x

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Oh my lovely, I'm really so sorry for what you've experienced. Such a heartbreaking time for you. Sending you lots of love and hugs. I'm sorry I have no experience of low oestrogen I'm sure someone will know something. Your logic makes perfect sense though hun does sound like stopping the meds caused this to happen. I'm so so sorry lovely. Be good yo yourself we're all here for you hun 😘💝💝

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Oh I'm so terribly sorry to read this. You must be heartbroken and the feeling of 'if only' must be excruciating. I'm aware that anything I write will just sound trite and only time will help ease the pain. Take each day as it comes and be kind to yourselves. You did all you could and all you were told. Wishing you some peace.

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Oh Ashlou. This journey. I’ve just no words for it. I can’t help with the low oestrogen but I can send so much love. Be kind with each other and remember we are all here for you xx

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I am so sorry to hear this. Did the hospital or clinic test you before coming off the medication or was you just told to stop. I was taking the meds for 12 weeks too but just told to stop. Again I'm so sorry xxx

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I was just told to stop. I'm convinced I've lost my baby because of this. It's so cruel. Finding out I was pregnant was the happiest day of my life. Now I'm left in bits.

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Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry and I have no words! Sending all my love!!xxxx

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Oh ashlou, I am very sorry to read this post and actually makes me well up as I have just gone through a MMC but at 9wks. My heart breaks for you.

If your clinic know your infertility is due to low oestrogen did they do blood tests before and after your came off the tablets?

It may be that your loss was not due to this, and you will be given the option of wanting your little one testing for chromosome issues. You may not want to think about all that at the mo but just wanted to let you know that option is there.

I wish I could take away your pain. Life is so cruel. Think of you for now and try to get through the next few weeks and then once your feeling in a different place you can then question with the clinic all the questions that you will have. Sending you such a huge hug of support xxx

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Oh dear, I feel so pained for what has happened to you. I have no experience of the oestrogen issue, I just want to wish you well and be strong as the coming days may come with both physical and emotional pain.

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I have no experience with low oestrogen but just wanted to say how sorry I am, thinking of you xx

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Ashlou my heart is breaking for you. There’s nothing can be said to take this pain away. Sending you all the love in the world that it might give you some comfort xx

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So sorry this happened to you hope you get the love and support you need x

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of love. Xx

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You poor girl, lm so sorry you are going through this. I’m sure the Drs will be able to answer your questions in time. For now, consider yourself well and truly hugged and loved. I hope you have good people in your life to support you.

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Oh I'm so so sorry. Xx

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my heart is breaking for you..there are no words..sending love xx

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This is just devastating to read. It’s what everyone of us fears if we are lucky to get a positive test. I’m so so sorry. My heart goes out to you, there are no words for what you must be feeling but know you’re not alone xx

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Very heartbreaking 😢

Sending you my love. Be strong xxx

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So very sorry xx

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So sorry to read this, utterly heartbreaking!! xx

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I’m so so sorry. Just so devastating. Thinking of you xx

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I can’t express how sorry I am x

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I am so sorry to read your post. I don’t know what to say except that I am sending lots of love to you both. It will be a really difficult time. There never seems to be much information on good levels of oestrogen or progesterone and every clinic seems to have different rules but seems like maybe they should have monitored yours more if you have low oestrogen. Take each day at a time just now and look after you. Big hugs again xxx

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I’m sorry I don’t have any experience in this but wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss xx

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There are no words I’m heartbroken for you. What a awful time in the pregnancy to lose your baby ( not that anytime is “good”) Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear your loss. xoxo

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I’m so sorry to hear this heartbreaking. You will be advised and maybe baby can have a post-mortem. Big hugs xxx

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I’m so sorry for your loss xxx

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Oh gosh I’m so sorry for your loss! Not sure what else to say but sending you a big cuddle right now xx

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Oh no, I’m so so sorry. I don’t have any advice but I’m broken hearted for you.

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I’m so so sorry to read of your loss. I cannot offer any advice but just wanted to send love and hugs - and wish you and your OH peace during this incredibly difficult time - life must feel awfully unfair at the moment xxxxx

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So sorry. Sending love ❤️

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Oh gosh ashlou86,

I’m so sorry to hear your news! We all think it’s over when we get the positive test result but the next 9 months are still full of worry!

I think I have slightly low oestrogen too (which is why I don’t ovulate) and obviously no progesterone.

I’m convinced my fresh cycle didn’t work because the pessaries and tablets esp for progesterone weren’t high enough as I bled so heavily 6dp5dt.

I asked them to keep testing me through this next frozen cycle but they look at you like you’re a hypochondriac although they did say they could test me...

I wish they would stop treating us like sausages on.a production line! We are all different and at the very least use test results to give us more clues.

I sincerely hope it isn’t the case for u, but I enocourage you to stick to your guns in future and push for answers when you are ready.

I’m so sorry for your loss but I will also now make sure I stand my ground too!

Take care xx

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I am so sorry of your loss. Sending lots of love xxx

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