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Hello all,

Today we had our second scan at 8 weeks and there was no heartbeat, and it looks as though the baby had stopped growing a couple of days ago. We are beside ourselves. I don't know what to do with myself, I feel hopeless. We've got another scan on Monday at our EPU to confirm and discuss our options, but right now all I want is our little baby to be ok, and I know that won't be the case. I think the worse thing is we had all the dramas before, and bleeding and all was fine, and now I've had no bleeding, no cramps, no nothing so it just doesn't feel real xxx

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Sprinkles86 profile image
Sprinkles86

Oh no I'm so sorry lovely, this is just heartbreaking. Brings back a lot of bad memories for me. Please know we will all be thinking of you and we are here for you whenever you need us. Sending you the biggest hug xxxxxxx

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Aleelilook in reply to Sprinkles86

Thank you so much, I just can't believe it xxxxx

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Busybee88

My heart goes out to you - it's not something I've been through but am very aware that it may be in my near future on this difficult journey. Lots of love to you and your OH at this time, I hope you have a strong network of friends and family to give you tlc x

So, so sorry to read this. I wish i could say something to make you feel better but there are no words. Sending a big hug & love to you & your OH at this time xxxxxx

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WeeMrsH

Oh no Aleelilook, I am so sorry!! Please know I am thinking of you xxx

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Hope_4_2017x

So sorry xx thinking of you

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Rainbow_86

This is such sad news..... I'm so sorry I can't even imagine how you are feeling. Sending you the strength to get through xx

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Raglee

Oh I'm just so so sad to read this 💚💚, it's just devastating as I can empathise and it just saddens me so much that you are going through this after the rough ride you have it. I think life is so cruel the way you think you have made it, you start to hope and get excited but then it's just ripped all away. Please take time to process this all and surround yourself with loved ones. I am just so very very sorry xxx

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Aleelilook in reply to Raglee

Thank you all so much, I'm just broken, utterly shocked and in disbelief of how awful life can be sometimes. I really appreciate all of your support, you're all so kind xxxxx

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Raglee in reply to Aleelilook

It's like we work so bloody hard to get our positive can we not just have the rest straight forward, it's just so cruel to be put through this, I'm just so very sorry X

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Tugsgirl in reply to Raglee

Yes it's hard enough that we have to deal with Infertility and then we have to somehow cope with miscarriage too 😞 X

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Georgina78

Oh no I'm so sorry, heartbreaking 😢 There's probably no words right now so sending big hugs xxx

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pm27

I'm so sorry, it's such a horrible thong to happen. Thinking of you.

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_MrsC

I'm so sorry. How utterly awful for you. You are in my thoughts. x

I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. Thinking of you xx

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misswinky34

😭 really sorry to hear that ❤️

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bibi_16

Hey sweetheart just heartbroken to hear this sad news words cant describe how u must be feeeling.thinking of you.massive hugs and kisses.xxxx

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emma-jane-30

Oh lovely I'm soooo sorry to be reading this!! There is no words in the world that can be said to help you only that I'm thinking of you and sending you a massive hug. Xxxx

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katya38

So so sorry take care of yourself xx

So sorry to hear this, look after your self's sending u massive hugs xx

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Tara2016

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's awful, this happened to me last year. We had our first scan and embryo hadn't developed properly. I really hope your little bean stays on board and hangs in there. Remain hopeful! Xx

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Aleelilook in reply to Tara2016

When we had our scan this morning there was clearly no heartbeat, unfortunately hope has gone out of the window this time xx

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Tara2016 in reply to Aleelilook

That's such a shame. Did they say how this could happen? It just seems so odd that u had heartbeat and then didn't. I didn't get to heartbeat stage. They knew pretty early it wasn't going to develop further. Really sorry to hear this x

Aleelilook profile image
Aleelilook in reply to Tara2016

It's a missed miscarriage, unfortunately the baby wasn't viable, so couldn't progress, but my body still thinks it's pregnant

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Tara2016 in reply to Aleelilook

Gosh life can be so cruel! I remember I didn't officially miscarry until about 7 weeks after my second scan. I was so annoyed with being "pregnant" but not actually pregnant. Then eventually it all happened naturally. Such a difficult time to go through though. Perhaps take some time out for yourself if you haven't already? I would of liked to have gone away for a short break just to recoup. Really hope you are okay x

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Tugsgirl in reply to Tara2016

I hadn't realised it could take that long. I'm glad I opted for a D and C x

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Tara2016 in reply to Tugsgirl

Nor did I. I was still testing pregnant for ages, was such a kick in the teeth. At least with DC you can have peace of mind and get on with your life. Hope it all goes well x

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Tugsgirl in reply to Tara2016

I had one three weeks ago. Still tested positive for a week after but not now. Waiting for my period to return 🤞 X

So so sorry to hear this after all you have been through, life is so cruel💔💔💔 look after yourself and know we are all here for you xxx

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Aleelilook in reply to

Thank you xxx

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Lucylu_88

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending love and strength to you xx

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emu2016

Lots of love and hugs x

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Tugsgirl

Omg Aleelilook . That's exactly what happened to me! I'm so so sorry that it's happened to you too. I know exactly how you feel. Please send me a pm if you need to chat, anytime. I'm thinking of you and your OH. So sorry xx

Vicky

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Aleelilook in reply to Tugsgirl

Thank you Vicky xx It is just so horrific xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to Aleelilook

I know 😞 Here if you need me xx

Oh no. I'm so sad for you. I'm sending you so much sympathy.

Xxxxx

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Hollibob

Such sad news. Sorry that you have to experience this.

You'll cry, feel numb, feel angry and like it can't be happening to you...just take each hour as it comes and be there for each other x

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Kyell2

Such heartbreaking news, I'm so sorry. Look after yourself x

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Nesfin

I'm so sorry to read this, it is heartbreaking. I've no words to comfort you but know that we are all here xoxo

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Oakey80

Oh no, how horrible! 😢 So sorry to hear this...thinking of u [hugs] xx

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tiger-cub

So so sorry about what happened.

Plz take care of urself . It's one of d most cruelest thing ever to go through all this . As it is we have so many hurdles. Xx

I am so so sorry to read your post. I cant even begin to imagine the emptyness and pain you must be experiencing right now.

I have no words that could help in anyway but I am thinking of you and your partner and hoping that you both come through this awful time.

Take care of yourselves and hold on to your love xx

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CountryCat

I was so very sad to read this...where is the justice in it all?? As many other ladies have written, for such joy to be followed by such sorrow is cruel beyond belief.

Sending much love to you both...you will get through this xx

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ChristinaS

Very sorry to read this. This process is such a roller coaster of emotion, and we have so little control. Hugs xx

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Beanme

Sending you big hugs, this is very traumatic for you both. Be kind to yourself and take things day by day xxx

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ch319

I literally don't know what to say as this is my ultimate fear. I Am so sorry for you you must be heartbroken. Big hugs xx

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Linda78

So very sorry to hear this news - can totally empathise with how you are feeling - look after yourselves xxx

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vic77

My heart bleeds for you..sending loads of love..this journey is just too cruel xxx

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Jaky76

Sending you massive hugs... Xxxxx

I genuinely don't have the words to express how devastated I am for you. I want to give you a lovely nugget of inspiring words but there are none at this time. But I am sure you will take a little comfort from the out pouring of love and support for you. The biggest hug from me. Xxx

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Missy_22

Oh no, I'm sending you a massive hug. Life is so cruel and this happens to me on my first round. Thinking of you. I'm speechless for you darling xxxxx

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Leesalou

So sorry to read this , bug hugs 🤗 xx

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Sunshine09

So sorry thinking of you❤💋

So so sorry

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Kelly-03

So so sorry to hear this, hopefully the epu find a heartbeat x miracles do happen x we recently went through similar circumstances and it's so difficult, keep strong with your other half and talk to each other, your in this together x

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Aleelilook in reply to Kelly-03

Thank you xx We are both clinging onto that slither of hope, silly really. I'm sorry to hear that you have been through this, life can be so bloody hard xx

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