How to stay positive when pregnant after miscarriages

I'm almost 5 weeks pregnant after our first IVF cycle. I didn't expect it to work so was shocked & over the moon when the test was positive. I've experienced 2 mmc in the last 18 months where the babies stopped growing around 6 weeks. I was thinking positive to start with this time but now am becoming very anxious. I tell myself the Dr has given me medication to help with what he thinks may have caused the other miscarriages & I'm also on progesterone which may help but I'm so scared!!!! I know cramping is normal but today they feel stronger & I still have tiny brown flecks on the applicator after inserting my progesterone gel. I know what will be will be so am not super stressed but wish the worry would ease up a little. I only have my 2 failed pregnancies to go on & this one feels exactly the same. Any ideas on how to banish the negative thoughts? Xxxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I don’t know but if you do find a way then I would like to know too- I’m also on my third pregnancy after two miscarriages and I’m basically on knickerwatch. 😟 I’m doing the same as you, telling myself all the reasons why it might be ok this time but I’m struggling to make myself believe it sometimes. I just hope that after scans I will feel more confident.

[Autumnmoon]

It must be very difficult but like you say there is a lot more support for this little one so hopefully this time all will be well really hoping so x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi summerrainbow. You're far off having your first scan, so look forward to that, as it will reassure you, once you meet your little "bean". I would also feel more reassured that you are now on some progesterone too to support your own. Don't worry about the flecks, as that is old blood, or even bits of residue from the pessary/gel. Try and keep busy while you wait for your scan. Thinking of you. Diane

[Hidden in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane. X

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

This is the hardest thing ever I feel, I had three losses in a row before this one and one didn't come away naturally (which in my opinion is the worst as at least bleeding gets you prepared for what's to possibly come) all I can advice is to say to yourself I'm pregnant each day then every little milestone you acheive is a huge positive that's getting you closer to holding your, baby, my last three losses were all 6 weeks never got past now I'm ten WK 4 days and I'm so scared to have my scan in Friday as my symptoms are starting to ease. If Friday brings good news it will be another milestone and I'll be on cloud 9 and then I'll probably start worrying again but I'll try keep the faith. All you can do is take it day by day milestone by milestone truthfully the worry is always there just don't let it consume you. I really hope this is your time hun. Keep us updated big hugs 😘💗

[Hidden in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thank you so much for your reply. I am going to try really hard & take your advice , taking each day at a time with small milestones. Have you done anything different with this pregnancy? I hope your scan goes well on Friday , I'll be thinking of you. Hopefully we will both be holding our longed for babies very soon 🤞 😘

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Hidden]

Hi hun,

I'm under the miscarriage clinic and they found that I have a hereditary blood clotting disorder that puts me at High risk of miscarriage, I'm doing a clinical trial called Alife2 to see if heparin helps others like me not to miscarry, so I do an injection every day through my pregnancy iv also upped my antioxidants continued with high strength vit d and folic acid. Thank you hun. I'll be looking forward to your updates if you ever want to chat hun just inbox me 💖😘

[Hidden in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

That's interesting. I'm waiting for an appointment at Hammersmith hospital to see if I have a hereditary blood vessel disorder called HHT. I'm not sure if HHT makes miscarriages more likely but I do wonder. Ideally I would have found out beforehand but it the appointment is still quite a way off. X

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Hidden]

Hoping you haven't got it hun and your pregnancy is succesful this time, will look out for your updates 💖😘

[Orla9298 in reply to Hidden]

Hi, I’ve just seen your post and was wondering how your hht investigations have gone? My husband has not long ago been diagnosed and has had 2 brain procedures relating to the hht. We have also had 3 early miscarriages, so wondering if there is any link xx