A brief story of my infertility journey so far

[Jemvcook]

I have suffered with infertility since I was 18 (32 now 😬) it started with pelvic inflammatory disease which caused damage to my Fallopian tubes. I had an operation which had apparently fixed this... fast forward a few years BD and I all of a sudden become very ill and am rushed to hospital. Whilst at the hospital I am congratulated by the nurse there as I was pregnant... it turned out that it was an ectopic pregnancy, so I then lost my Right Fallopian tube as well as my little bean. As I was still only in my early 20’s I just kind of thought that it would happen naturally even though I had only my Left Fallopian tube left! Fast forward a few years I then went back to the infertility specialist and it was decided that I would have a laporoscopy (lap and dye) to see if my tube was open and how my womb and ovaries were looking. It turned out that my remaining tube was blocked and my ovaries were slightly polycystic. I then was put on the waiting list for IVF. A couple more years go by and I finally hear the good news that i was eligible for two rounds of ivf. So I had the first round and everything seemed to have gone well but we ended up with a BFN! I wasn’t too worried as we had another round to go!! We never got the second go as Bournemouth ivf was shut down due to investigations we couldn’t afford at the time to go for ivf so I constantly researched online and eventually came across a doctor who unblocks Fallopian tubes (without surgery) - please do ask if you would like more info. Anyway the good news after this procedure was that my tube was successfully unblocked- (the blockage was at the womb end) Then fast forward another year or two and I split from the partner I had been with for ten years!! Luckily a year or so after the break up I met my soulmate! 🎉 I explained to him in the beginning about my fertility issues and we have NEVER used protection. So this brings us to the present day and we are married and so so want to complete our family with a child of our own. (He has a daughter) so we are therefore not entitled to IVF in the nhs which I feel is unfair as I don’t have any children myself!! I have been going through the mill with the nhs over the last year, paid for a HSG privately and was told that my remaining tube was now blocked at the end near the ovary and they have now booked me in for another lap and dye on 10th April 2018 but there is a ‘chance’ that they may be able to fix the ovary end of the Fallopian tube but if not they are going to take my tube out. Obviously then we will be going down the IVF route. All I know is that I don’t want to give up although every month the witch turns up I still feel like my whole world is shattered and the same nagging doubt Will this EVER happen for us!!??? I am here because I would like to share any knowledge I have learnt over the years (I should have a degree in fertility research!!) and also to help realise my dream of becoming a mummy 😢

[Tugsgirl]

Brave lady 💪🏻 xx

[Jemvcook in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you.... trying to stay brave!!! Xxx

[emu2016]

A degree infertility research as well?! You really are an IVF warrior!!! Lovely to have you share your journey xx

[Jemvcook in reply to emu2016]

Lol might as well have....I don’t know if google is a positive or negative 😂thanks sweetie.... I’m new here so just learning the ropes. Where are you at with everything? I have read about your egg situation... are you still able to use your own or are you looking at diner eggs? Xx

[Jemvcook in reply to Jemvcook]

Eeek I meant doner 🤦‍♀️

[emu2016 in reply to Jemvcook]

Totally missed the “should” have! In that case! I have a PhD! 😂😂😂

I like diner eggs! If I don’t like what I’ve ordered maybe I can send them back! I just said to my husband, we still haven’t chosen our new donor. Must do that. Just losing my positivity at the mo. So much going on I feel like it’s not worked already. Silly I know x

[Jemvcook]

Lol that is funny! Do you receive a list of potential Donor or something? I considered being an egg donor for reduced ivf and it’s something that I still feel niggling in the back of my head as I would love to help someone else. The thing I find difficult to get past is if I went through simultaneous cycles and I didn’t fall pregnant and the donor did, how I would feel about that. If I already had a child I would happily do that! Does that sound really selfish? Xx

[Penders]

Thanks for sharing. I wish you all the luck in the world for the next steps in your journey xx

[Jemvcook in reply to Penders]

Thank you sweetie x