Feeling terrible today.

[KirstyC90]

Hi everyone,

I've just had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy, and the state of my tubes and ovaries were worrying and also my bowel. My bowel was actually stuck to my ovaries. The doctor told me that natural conception is now highly unlikely, and could also be dangerous for me. To tell the truth, I feel terrified. I'm terrified of what's happened to me, there was no warning of my internal issues despite fertility investigations, I feel like I am going into myself because I am so anxious. Like I am getting quieter the more I think about the consequences of my surgery. Please, if anyone knows of a helpline, or has any advice on how to get over this emotional ordeal, I would appreciate any help right now. Thanks xx

[emu2016]

Hello Kirsty. You are going through a really tough time right now. Many of us will relate to only parts of your sadness. Do not be afraid of being honest with people about how you feel. Do talk to people. Have sofa days; have shopping days; have crying days; have weird days and don’t feel guilty for days you laugh.

Do ask you consultant to refer you for counselling if that’s something you can do. Call you nurses today perhaps and see if they can support you today with advice.

And don’t feel your behaviour isn’t normal. Sending you big hugs xx

[lianm8]

Hi Kirsty. So sorry to hear what you have been through.

I have not been through an ectopic myself but wanted to offer my support to you. You have been through a lot so being anxious and nervous will be expected.

I think making sure you are talking to your partner/friends/family will help a big deal, don’t bottle anything up.

Xxxx

[E8989]

I’m sorry you feeling so low and anxious I totally understand having been through it myself I reached out to the ectopic pregnancy Trust ectopic.org.uk/ they really helped me when I was struggling. You can post or just call and have someone to speak to xxx

[KirstyC90 in reply to E8989]

Thank you. I just have so many feelings I have no idea what to do with. Thank you for giving me that information xxx

[E8989 in reply to KirstyC90]

Your welcome hope you feel better soon and they are of some help c

[E8989 in reply to E8989]

Xx

[Krushby89]

Hi Kirsty !! I had a hsg which discovered that both of my Fallopian tubes were blocked, I was told they needed to be removed. When they went in, they found that my tubes were worse than they thought but also but bowel was stuck to my ovaries and my ovaries to the side of my uterus- so very similar to yourself.

Obviously my tubes were removed so I’m now infertile. At first it was hard to even think it never mind say it aloud or talk about, but as time went by, I pushed myself to open up about it. Don’t bottle it all up, however crazy you sound/feel - it’s all natural and understandable so let it out. Also, pretending your ok when your not can be dangerous. In the beginning I made out I was ok to a friend and she said “oh good cause I thought you was gonna be all sensitive and touchy” I wasn’t ok. This was a bit of an awful thing I hear! If you pretend your ok, your setting yourself and your friends up for a fall.

I’ve also dealt with anxiety and depression in the past year .... but just take it one day at a time. My way of dealing with it is simple and not particularly magical, but ....I just tell myself - it is what is is. I can’t change it. All I can do is makesure it doesn’t take anymore of my life or my choices. Get up brush yourself down and fight on! 💪🏾 My husband bought me a bangle that says “let it hurt, let it heal, let it go” my words to live by! X if you ever need a chat, send me a message if you like x x

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

You could try either Tommy’s or the Miscarriage Association. You can find their details online. Miscarriage association have a helpline 9-4 mon to Friday xxxx