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Feeling like I am not meant to be a mum again

hi everyone,

for some reason I'm starting to feel like I'm not going to be a mum again. I've got a 15 year old daughter, but she doesn't live with me as she was forcibly adopted back in 2003 when she was between 6 and 8 months old.

myself and my fiance have been trying to conceive for over 3 & a half years now. We were referred to the Assisted Reproductive Unit at our local hospital, but we were unable to attend any of the appointments we were given for two reasons one was because we couldn't afford the bus fares and two is because our local job centre kept on putting us on courses,so that stopped us from attending them too.

I'm 35 and my fiance is 33.

we can't even ask our GP to refer us back to the Assisted Reproductive Unit at our local hospital at the moment as we are in the middle of packing to move into our new home.

am I going to be a mum again as I feel like I'm not. :'(

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I can’t tell you if you’re going to be a Mum again but just to say if you get re-referred eventually then maybe your local hospital has a volunteer driver service that might get you to the hospital for free?


I never thought of that hun. I think there's a shuttle bus service to the hospital, but I don't know if they charge for using the service or not or where we would have to go to catch the shuttle bus to the hospital.


Google it! Or ring the hospital?


that's a good idea hun. I'll Google it in a bit


Really sorry to read this, and I hope, like with any couple that are hoping for a baby that you get your dream in the end. However, and I don’t mean for this to sound rude but if you can’t afford bus fares to your local hospital how are going to be able to afford to bring a child into the world and care for it?


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