Bitter sweet day

[MrsTM13]

What a strange day this has been. Today I'm 10 +5 weeks pregnant, this was the day that I found out in our last pregnancy our baby no longer had a heartbeat. I haven't allowed myself thus far, other than the initial reaction to BFP, to let myself feel happy as I'm so nervous that we would have heartache again. We havent told our families yet in a bid to protect them and also i dont feel like last time they understood our grief.

I feel as if I'm in limbo. We want the 12 week scan ( appointment arrived today) but walking into that room is going to be something else altogether. I still expect something to go wrong and this week the bloat that I've had seemed to have reduced which happened last time. I can't say I feel pregnant this time which is also freaking me out.

For anyone that has experienced the same or similar were you ever truly able to enjoy the pregnant after a miscarriage?

X

[Jo_Se]

I never got that far along but I'm sorry this has happened to you and I'm certain I will feel nervous as hell! Hopefully you'll feel better after you leave the danger weeks. Next time I get there I'm going to do everything to try not to put stress on it. Not lifting anything. Not running about. Stepping away if work winds me up. Sorry if none of this is helpful. Try to stay calm. X

[E8989]

Morning sorry for you loss congratulations on your pregnancy 😊. I feel the same and I am 28 weeks on Monday i suffered 3 ectopic pregnancies in the space of a year and this little miracle has been conceived through IVF. I just want to say after a loss I think it is sooo normal to the doubts to try to protect ourselves from being to happy or actually enjoying the pregnancy and it's so horrible and unfair to feel like it trust me you are not alone wishing you all the best with your 12 weeks scan xxx

[MrsTM13 in reply to E8989]

Thank you. Sorry to hear about what you've gone through but delighted to hear you are now 28 weeks- not long now x

[City74]

I am very sorry for your loss. It is very hard to enjoy a pregnancy after miscarriage. I felt like I spent the whole of mine holding my breath waiting for something to go wrong. However after a chemical pregnancy and 2 miscarriages I was lucky enough to have my son who I am so grateful for.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I want to wish you all the very best. I hope you are able to relax a bit more after your 12 week scan. Take care of yourself xx

[Missmmc]

What your feeling is normal. I had a total of 4 transfers 2 fresh 2 frozen. CP, BFN, MMC @7 weeks then healthy BFP which resulted in my daughter. Throughout I just assumed the worse and would often think “it’s too good to be true” we told nobody until after the 12 week scan and didn’t officially announce it at work until 20 week scan. As I’m older classed as high risk so was offered more scans. So I didn’t buy any baby related items until after my 28 week scan.

My pregnancy was healthy and normal only issues was constant nausea throughout which I put down to my brain and body letting me know all was ok with the bean as I lost all my symptoms before my MMC that’s how I knew it was all over. But the most important thing is that after a miscarriage a healthy pregnancy is normal and can and as you see from the replies does happy.

Try and enjoy it x