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So despite a 2nd try of medical management and another 3 lots of tablets my body doesn’t seem to want to let go of our little angel.

Just seen the doctor who said they think surgery is the best option due to risk of infection, I really didn’t want this option but I’m not sure I can stand any more waiting. They’ve said I can be put on the emergency waiting list so hopefully it’ll be this week.

I am well and truly exhausted 😭

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Tugsgirl profile image
Tugsgirl

I hope all goes well. I had the surgery with the first one. It does have its advantages.. Thinking of you xx

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E_05 in reply toTugsgirl

Thank you, I know think it’s just me getting my head around having it tbh. Hope your doing okay xx

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eblam in reply toTugsgirl

ci dont understand wats happened here....can u please explain. so i can give my sorry

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E_05 in reply toeblam

I found out 2 weeks ago my baby’s heart had stopped, I’ve since had 2 lots of medical management which haven’t worked so il now be having a D&C.

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eblam in reply toE_05

oh im so sorry to hear that

I feel so sorry for you my heart goes out to you I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Big hugs xxx

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you xx

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Shanks_21

Thinking of you sweet so sorry your having to go through this xxxx sending big hugs xxx

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E_05 in reply toShanks_21

Thank you xx

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Fredaflintstone

Oh no. So sorry to hear this - I know it’s not what you wanted. I hope you get your appt soon xxxxx

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E_05 in reply toFredaflintstone

Thank you, they think it’ll be Tuesday or Wednesday xx

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Fredaflintstone in reply toE_05

Not too long to go. Be thinking of you xxxx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Awww bless you hun. So sorry it isn't what you wanted, it's for your best interest hun. Sending you massive hugs 💗🤗😘

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E_05 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you, I know think that’s the main bit I need to get my head around but it’s what’s right for my body xx

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Scarlett13

So sorry, hope the surgery goes well, thinking if you, you're very brave and stronger than you know. Lots of love ❤️

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E_05 in reply toScarlett13

Thank you xx

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kelsbels88

Oh sweetheart I’m so sorry. I know that’s not what you wanted. Be kind to yourself and take it easy. Xxx 😘💕💐

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E_05 in reply tokelsbels88

Thank you, I will do xx

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N_M_10

Sorry to hear this as know you didn't want the surgery. You have been so strong I know you can do this and come back fighting. xxx

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E_05 in reply toN_M_10

Thank you, I hope so feel quite defeated at the moment xx

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Amanda86

Really sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xxx

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E_05 in reply toAmanda86

Thank you xx

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Cinderella5

Oh Im so sorry sweetheart! Sending hugsxx

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E_05 in reply toCinderella5

Thank you xx

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_MrsC

Oh Honey! This is awful! What a sad outcome after you’ve been so patient. xxx

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E_05 in reply to_MrsC

Thank you, I know feel so disappointed but don’t want to risk infection xx

Thinking of you xx

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you xx

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Lynnr54

So sorry. I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you. I hope the surgery goes ok x

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E_05 in reply toLynnr54

Thank you x

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Poppy16

Thinking about you and praying for you. I had surgery twice for 2 of my losses. Surgery doesn't last very long. You will likely get home the same day. It is just horrible that you have had to wait so long. I really feel for you. Such a difficult time. Take care.xo

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E_05 in reply toPoppy16

Thank you, I never wanted surgery and if I’m honest still don’t that’s why it’s taken so long but I know I don’t have any option now. Sorry for your losses xx

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Poppy16 in reply toE_05

So sorry it isn't working out how you'd wanted but you can't go on any longer like this physically or mentally. This is for the best. You are at risk of an infection. PM if you have any questions about surgery and aftermath etc. I am more than happy to help as I have been in your position before unfortunately.xo

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E_05 in reply toPoppy16

Thank you so much, I guess I should be use to things not working out but your right I can’t continue like this as it’s driving me mad xx

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Hollibob

Bodies are frustrating and difficult to work out!!

Shame the acupuncture didn't do anything :-(

They have to think what is best for you now...x

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E_05 in reply toHollibob

So true, I know I really thought this was going to be it. Definitely I know mentally it’s not doing me any good waiting either x

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kumkums

I'm so sorry dear. You have really tried, I can't imagine the pain you have bee through with those medicines. Let's hope everything goes well with the surgery or maybe baby decides to come out before the surgery.

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E_05 in reply tokumkums

Thank you, I’m still wishfully hoping it happens at home before surgery. Hope your doing okay

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MrsTM13

Sorry to hear this. I know it's not what you wanted but with the surgery it will be done quickly and you'll know everything that needs to come out will. X

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E_05 in reply toMrsTM13

Thank you, yeah and at least then I can start to grieve properly x

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Loopielu

😞 I hope it goes okay lovely. Sorry this has been such an ordeal for you. Sending a gentle hug xx

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E_05 in reply toLoopielu

Thank you, hope your okay xx

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Sunshine09

So sorry hunny you are having some time of it xx💔😘

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E_05 in reply toSunshine09

Thank you xx

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romaluna2015

I am thinking of you lots of love xx

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E_05 in reply toromaluna2015

Thank you xx

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Leesara

It sounds a strange thing to say but your ongoing strength really is an inspiration.... thinking of you and I hope you get a date really soon x

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E_05 in reply toLeesara

Aw thank you, I honestly don’t feel very strong at the moment. I’m hoping it’ll be tomorrow or Tuesday x

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Leesara in reply toE_05

You may not feel strong and that’s understandable but from someone else’s perspective, your resilience and strength is so admirable. I hope to read a future post from you with happy news that you do deserve x

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E_05 in reply toLeesara

That’s really lovely of you, thank you so much. Hope your doing okay x

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Fredaflintstone in reply toLeesara

I agree xx

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E_05 in reply toFredaflintstone

Thank you, hope your resting up xx

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7AVA in reply toE_05

I agree too. Thinking of you xxxx

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E_05 in reply to7AVA

Thank you xx

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Fredaflintstone in reply toE_05

I am. Hope you’re ok. You’ve been through so much 💕 xxxx

Was just logging on to see how you're doing. I'm sorry it's got to this point after everything. Thinking of you xx

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you, hope your doing okay xx

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katya38

Really sorry to hear this take care xx

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E_05 in reply tokatya38

Thank you xx

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Mircle2

Thinking of you hun sending you hugs take it easy & be kind to yourself hun & ❤😗xxx

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E_05 in reply toMircle2

Thank you xx

Hey miss

You hang on in there... it sucks so bad but remember 1 minute at a time x

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you, I definitely am doing that at the moment. Think everything’s beginning to hit me even more now x

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Sending you massive hugs...

I am really sorry you have to go through this...

All the best xxx

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you xx

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lauren3189

thinking of you through these hard times x

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E_05 in reply tolauren3189

Thank you x

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vic77

Oh honey I am so sorry you are going through all of this..sending huge hugs xxxxx💜💜💜💜

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E_05 in reply tovic77

Thank you, hope your doing okay xx

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Lou9

I'm so sorry to hear this. You are a strong lady and I'm sending you a big hug. Take care. Xx

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E_05 in reply toLou9

Thank you, hope your doing okay xx

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PC4U

Three weeks ago I was at this point. Baby’s heartbeat stopped. 2rounds of medication and nothing happened. I did a D&C to evacuate. Oh for the pain. The pain and the pain. Mental pain. Physical pain. I’m only getting through it.

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E_05 in reply toPC4U

Your right it definitely is a lot of metal pain. Was you in pain after the D&C? Sorry for your loss.

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PC4U in reply toE_05

There was no body pain. Just very traumatic for me.

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Penders

Oh hunni I'm sorry it didn't happen with the tablets. I hope that you don't have to wait too much longer. Thinking of you xxx

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E_05 in reply toPenders

Thank you, they’ve agreed to do it tomorrow think waiting any longer would of been to hard xx

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Penders in reply toE_05

Good luck tomorrow ❤️ Xx

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Sherry07

Hi love, I’m so sorry you are going

through such difficult time. Sending prayers and hugs. Stay strong lady xx

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E_05 in reply toSherry07

Thank you xx

Thinking of you. I'm so sorry it didn't happen the way you wanted it too. I hope you don't have to wait too much longer xxx

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E_05 in reply to

Thank you, am having surgery tomorrow xx

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Squeak2

Hope all goes well tomorrow and massive hugs to you xx

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E_05 in reply toSqueak2

Thank you xx

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Poppy16

Thinking about you today as you have surgery. Such a sad and shocking time for you. Rest plenty and take time to recover. Hope you are getting lots of support from e.g. close family. Take care. I am here if you need to talk and so is everyone else on this forum.xo

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kt_11

Thinking of you today. Can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through but keep strong and take care of yourself xx

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Loopielu

Sending love and hugs to you for today sweetheart. I hope it goes ok and you can make your peace xx

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Tara2016

Sorry to hear this. Hoping you get to have the closure you need as it must have been awful going through what you went through. Sending hugs x

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Lou9

Sending lots of love and strength your way today. Xx ❤️🙌🏼

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E_05

Thank you all so much xx

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Amanda86

Hope today goes ok. Will be thinking of you xxx

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E_05 in reply toAmanda86

Thank you xx

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tiger-cub

To b honest at this point nothing is more important than you. And d Drs r going to sort u out and ull have closure to all this agony. Thinking of u xx

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