just want some information

[AimeeLouiseD]

ok, so, myself and my partner who is transgender (female to male) are talking about having a baby. but we both want the baby to be ours. is there any information anyone could give me please. im pretty new to all of this as well, i do not know much information

[Fredaflintstone]

hfea.gov.uk/treatments/expl...

Here’s a link to legal parenthood pages on the HFEA’s webskte (the HFEA is the regulator in relation to IVF etc). It should tell you the legal position. X

[AimeeLouiseD]

hi, thanks for commenting, we understand legal parenting. however, but do you know if there is any way that the child could biologically be both of ours?

[E8989]

Has your partner been through the transition i.e. Hormone blockers gender reassignment surgery? As if so they do usually offer to freeze your eggs so you can in the future have your own biological child. Sorry if I sound rude - are you female if so you will a sperm donor wishing you all the best in your journey xx

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to E8989]

He not yet starts transitioning. He has not started testosterone hormones.

I am female, and my partner is also female but transitioning to male.

Your not rude at all, I need the help

[E8989 in reply to AimeeLouiseD]

Once he starts treatment I believe the hormones do have effect on female fertility as he will using testosterone but there is always the option for IVF using his eggs and a donor sperm and then ethier of you could the carry child 👶 I would defo do some research there are so many people that have successful stories across the world that are in the same position as you both have you spoken with your GP yet? As they will also be able to offer advice xxx

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to E8989]

Many thanks for all your support. I will be the birth mother. But there's simply no other way around it is there? We are going to have to have a sperm donor arent we? We have talked about getting my partner eggs so that the child will be biologically ours. No we haven't gone to our gp yet because we're still only just talking about it. Thanknyo so much xxx

[E8989 in reply to AimeeLouiseD]

No unfortunately not but like you said the child would still be biologically your partners and you would always be the parent just because not biological yours doesn't mean anything you would be bringing the baby up which makes you a parent! Have a look online also you will lots of information. I am not sure if NHS off taking and freezing eggs prior to hormone treatment as funding is so limited it will most prob all have to funded for yourselves x

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to E8989]

so the child would not be biologically mine aswell? im finding it difficult to come to terms with the child not being able to be both of ours. i want the baby to be biologically both of ours xx

[E8989 in reply to AimeeLouiseD]

That's not possible Hun as you are both biologically female you would have to have a sperm donor x

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to E8989]

right okay, i understand now. thank you so much x

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Hi. I don’t have any expert advice but just a thought...you could use a sperm donor and your partners eggs through IVF and you be the surrogate and carry the baby? If you decide you want more than one child you could use the same sperm donor with your own eggs? Wishing you both the best of luck with this journey, I hope your dreams come true x

[Fredaflintstone]

It won’t be possible for a baby to be genetically related to you both unfortunately.

Epigenetics mean that if you had a baby with donated eggs eg your partners and donor sperm then the babies genes would partially be determined by the womb environment that you create - that will determine which of the donors and your partner’ genes dominate. X

[Jonesjp]

Aw Hun, this must be very frustrating for you both and unfair. Could you look at a long term plan and you have one child using your partners eggs and then I a couple of years you have another child using your eggs. I’m sorry if I’m making this sound simpler than it is but as there is no way of you both being genetically related, if you used the same sperm diner with both babies it may make you feel more of a family unit. Sorry if I’m talking twoddle x x x

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to Jonesjp]

no i completely understand what you're saying. we have to talk things through, as we understand there could be many ways of going about this thank you xx

[Becca21]

I'm not sure if gender reconstruction includes testicles transplantation as well but without that, it will be impossible to have both of your genes into your young ones. Testicles are basically the sperm factory. It must be there either by birth or transplantation and fully functional to deliver mature sperms to be able to impregnate you. However, the option with donor sperms is still there. Though it's entirely up to you to take the call, if you ask me personally - I'd say having a baby is a blessing be it with or without the same genetic material. I'm gonna have to opt for DE+IVF too if I want to have a baby. So, I'd say go for DS if it takes that but you'll have a baby to complete the family.

[AimeeLouiseD in reply to Becca21]

thank you Becca now that its clear to me, with a lot more information than what i had before. its made it easier to think straight