My introduction

Hello this is my introduction post.

I've never been part of any group like this so thought I'd give it a go.

We've been trying for 18 months. Currently in the process of being investigated. Waiting for my HyCoSy and awaiting repeated blood test results to check that I'm ovulating. Husband has been checked and is fine.

Thought I'd try a group like this to see what everyone else's experiences are and see if I can be of support to others too.

I've found the journey so far mostly very isolating. I'm quite open with everyone and my close friends and family all know that we are struggling but I do find that people are finding it difficult to empathise either because they aren't even thinking about babies yet or have got pregnant super easily. Either the wrong things are said unintentionally or (what I find most difficult) people just ignore the elephant in the room.

Therefore I think being part of something like this group will be a great help for me.

Nice to (virtually) meet everyone.

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  • Welcome! It really helps to have the support of this group, I wish I'd found it before my first ivf cycle.

    No question is too silly, we've all either asked or googled the same things!

    Good luck with all your tests, look after yourself and I look forward to following your journey :) x

  • Thank you so much. That's great to hear thank you!

  • Yes welcome ZigZag! πŸ‘‹It's nice to talk to people at the same stage of the journey but also see the positives that have come out of ivf! Everyone is so supportive! X

  • Thanks you.

    Absolutely and everyone's story is that little bit different so I'm sure we all have different hints and tips!

  • Welcome to the group :) everyone on here is lovely and if you have any questions about this journey you're starting then I'll be happy to help as will everyone else I'm sure 😊 good luck with all your tests xx

  • Thank you so much. Everyone seems so lovely and supportive. Looking forward to making the most of this group!

  • Hi ZigZag 😊

    Glad you've joined the forum, I think you'll find it a great help through your journey. Even if it's just to vent about a bad day.

    I was really open with family and friends for our first cycle, I found it helped me to feel a little more clinical and in control because I could be factual instead of emotional. Not always a good thing but it worked for me. I also made a point of educating people about how to talk to me, that comments like 'oh you'll be fine' (so flippant) or 'are you sure you want kids they're such a pain...' (so inconsiderate) are no-no's and explained that they should do some research so they could feel more comfortable. I don't think people really understand enough...I know I didn't until I joined the 'club'.

    Anyway, I'm rambling now so I'll stop 😁

    I wish you the best of luck πŸ€žπŸ€β€οΈ

  • Thank you!

    Yeah I think you're right. I don't blame anyone for saying the wrong things. I know my friends mean the best for me but it's just a lack of understanding that makes it difficult for them to know what to say. And I totally agree, if I think back to before I started ttc I would not have been able to empathise with people as I can now. I think because I don't know anyone struggling it's easy to forget that Im not alone in this at all.

  • Welcome! I think we've all felt like that at different points and found it really helpful to speak to others on here who totally understand. Good luck with your next steps xx

  • Thanks a lot!

    I think it will be really useful for me to have some understanding. And I hope as I progress through my journey I learn a few things to share with others to help them too :)

  • Welcome to you!all sounds very familiar and will do for most of us am sure. My husband and I have just started the process to and are finally starting our first ivf cycle. This group def is very helpful to hear everyone's different experiences and feelings. Many that one can def relate to. Good luck with your journey 😊

  • Thank you.

    Best of luck with your first cycle. Fingers and toes crossed for you!

  • Hi zigzag, I joined this forum a few months ago. Similar to you I had never joined a group like this before.

    We have been TTC for just under 2 years and I have found this forum really useful for information and advice.

    Good luck and feel free to message me!

  • Thank you. I have had lots of lovely replies from people at all different stages of their journey and it's so reassuring to see all the support that this group can give.

    Best of luck to you too

  • Welcome to the group! I am at a similar stage to you. My husband got tested recently and has some abnormalities and I am next to get tested. I have not been open with friends or family about our difficulties ttc so this group has been a great source of comfort for me.

    Best of luck with your tests!

  • Thank you so much.

    We should all be as open as we feel we should be for ourselves.

    I wear my heart on my sleeve so for me it felt better to be more open with people but there are pros and cons and I have been surprised by the seeming lack of interest by some of my closest friends. But I think a lot of it is lack of understanding.

    I'm glad you've found some comfort in this group though so that you're not doing this completely alone! Good luck with all your tests too!

  • Welcome. There are some amazing ladies here who you will find very helpful. There is nothing like speaking to others who know exactly what its like going through it all. Good luck with everything. xx

  • Thank you.

    That's lovely to hear. I'm so glad this kind of thing exists so we can all help each other through together! I hope I can be of some help to someone as I'm sure you will all be of help to me!

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