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Hi ladies

So I'm 7dp5dt and AF is well and truly here. Am absolutely gutted and have called in sick as can't keep it together.

This is our second cycle and am starting to wonder whether it will ever happen for us.

I'd like to thank all the wonderful ladies on here. Without this forum, I would feel completely alone. Hope everyone is doing well wherever you are in your journeys xxxxx

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I'm so sorry to hear this. Absolutely gutted for you. Do whatever you need to do to help you get through it. Sending you a hug xx

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sunshineyellow in reply to

Thank you I know I'll feel better when I have a plan. It's just so frustrating after all this waiting.

Good luck for Monday will be thinking of you xx

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry! I had this happen to me in both of my previous cycles and its well and truly crap! Dont bottle it up, let it all out....I ended binging on lots of naughty foods and opening the wine, crying into my glass but it did kind of help! Take some time to grieve and perhaps plan a treat for putting yourself through this torturous process! Sending you a big cuddle!xx

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sunshineyellow in reply toCinderella5

Yes I've said to my husband I want to eat a lot of junk. I feel like we did everything we could this cycle but just not meant to be. Good plan on the treats, looking at some day trips this wkd. Think we just need to get out.

How is your clinic shopping going? Xx

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Cinderella5 in reply tosunshineyellow

Just do whatever makes you feel better and its good that you can look back with no regrets, think that's important for moving forward! Your clinic will no doubt tell you to continue meds an still do a test which all seems futile!

Ive settled on a clinic thanks!. Flights and accommodation booked, we are going away end of September so not long now....getting a wee bit excited for treatment and some lovely sun!xx

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_MrsC

I am so so sorry! It is truly heartbreaking. Well done for calling in sick. It's so important to have time to grieve your loss and just to allow yourself those feelings of anger, frustration and sheer devastation. I was able to do this on my second cycle as it was a Sunday and on reflection, I think this was better in the long run. I've been able to come to terms with the loss more quickly than on the first cycle where I had to go in and meet 30 sets of parents in one day. I'm thinking of you and praying for peace to come as and when you're ready. xxx

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sunshineyellow in reply to_MrsC

Mrs C you're spot on with those feelings. I've never felt such a combination of negative feelings. I hope you're doing ok xxx

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_MrsC in reply tosunshineyellow

It is so draining! Just let yourself feel them. In the long run it will help. I remember just feeling empty and numb by the end of the day. I'm alright thanks. Good days and some bad but I'm trying to look to the future and am enjoying having some time out of the whole ttc thing. xxx

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KellyMB

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you x

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Littleflower82

So sry to read it news this morning, so disheartening for u. Treat urself this weekend to nice foods a few drinks an some quality time with hubby, then sit an work out ur next plan to focus on. U have frozen eggs still yeah?

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sunshineyellow in reply toLittleflower82

Yes I do. But quality is not as good. Just not sure if we're now just wasting our time and money xx

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E_05

So sorry to read this, take all the time you need and just be kind to yourself today x

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Tugsgirl

I'm always sad to read of a bfn. Sorry xx

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sunshineyellow in reply toTugsgirl

Thanks, hope you're doing ok xx

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Tugsgirl in reply tosunshineyellow

I think so thank you xx

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CountryCat

Very sorry to read this! Do what you need to and look after yourself...you are right to take some time out xx

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Ems83

Oh no 😓 I'm so sorry to read this. I hope you're okay 💕💕 sending lots of love to you xx

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sunshineyellow in reply to

Thanks lovely. How is the 2ww going for you? Xx

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Slowly. Thank you for asking 💕 bless you. I'm now at 9dp5dt and my period should be due today. It hasn't arrived yet but it definitely feels like it's about to. I have endometriosis stage 4 and I get so ill with it so I'm just hoping and praying it stays away. But then saying that since starting ivf my period has gone from being like clockwork to being all over the place so even if it doesn't arrive today it still could any day. The way I feel right now I'm not filled with confidence that my little embie has stuck though. Trying to think positive thoughts but it's not easy. Xxx

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Will be thinking of you. Keep positive. 9dp is very good going. Will be watching out for your news xxx

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sunshineyellow

Thanks everyone. Will allow myself to feel sad and angry today and then will try to pick myself up. I will be back!! Xxx

So sorry to read this. Take care of yourself & take a day at a time xx

Big hugs xxx

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Oakey80

Aw so sorry to hear this [big hugs] xxx

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Fredaflintstone

So sorry! It's truly heart breaking. Huge hugs. 😢 Look after yourself xxxxx

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sunshineyellow in reply toFredaflintstone

Thank you for your kind message. Hope you're doing ok xx

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billie88

I'm so sorry to hear this. We have followed each other through these last few days and having egg transfer on the same day. I now am feeling my period coming. I know how hard and crawl this all is but take the time you need. Wait until the time is ready and and do what is best for you and try again if need be. I wish you all the luck in the world. Thinking of you xx

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sunshineyellow in reply tobillie88

Thanks. It's gutting. I hope it all works out for you. Will be watching out for your news xx

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Rainbow_86

So so gutted to read this :( it's so hard when you invest so much in this..... it's such a loss when all your hope is invested in the process.....

I hope you treat yourself and give yourself time to grieve.

I'm always here of you need a chat.

Thinking of you x

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sunshineyellow in reply toRainbow_86

Thank you rainbow. Hope you're doing fine on your 2ww. Will be thinking of you x

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Rainbow_86 in reply tosunshineyellow

Thank you. It is so cruel. I can't say how sorry I am.... Thinking of you. It will happen for yoy one day i hope you never loose the hope... sending huge hugs across the internet xxxx

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sunshineyellow

***update***

Thank you everyone for your kind messages. Today has been so tough but made so much easier by all of your words and thoughts.

We're booked in for another natural cycle next month. I just want to get on with it. Not hopeful though, the embryos we have left are grade C so will not get my hopes up.

Xx

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Think positive thoughts as best you can 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 will be looking out for updates. Wishing you and your little embies alllllll the love and luck in the world for next month!!! 💕💕💕 xxxx

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7AVA in reply tosunshineyellow

Good luck with your natural cycle next month. Have everything crossed for you xxx

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Hormomalmess

Sorry to see this. Big hugs xx

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1987pos

I'm so sorry to hear this. We are all here for you when you are trying again big hugs.

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sunshineyellow in reply to1987pos

Thank you. Hope you're managing to hold out!!! Xx

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1987pos in reply tosunshineyellow

I'm much better than the other day thanks. Was a right mess but I pulled myself together thanks to you an all the other lovely ladies on here. Stay strong Dont give up

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SeniorPhipps

I'm so sorry to hear this, try to be kind to yourself and give yourself some time to grieve❤️

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sunshineyellow in reply toSeniorPhipps

Thank you. Hope all well with you lady xx

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SeniorPhipps in reply tosunshineyellow

Everything is well with me thanks :) I'm currently in the 2ww of our second cycle, OTD is on Tuesday. This cycle produced some better quality embies so I'm trying to stay calmer for a more positive outcome this time xx

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Scarlett13

Thinking of you xxx sorry it didn't work this time and good luck with the next round - third time lucky xxx

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sunshineyellow in reply toScarlett13

Indeed third time lucky. I feel a bit better now I have a plan. Hope your cycle is going well xxx

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Scarlett13 in reply tosunshineyellow

I've not started my first yet - should be in October or November hopefully x

I am really sorry... We all deserve a happy end soon. It is unfair and devastating every time It happens. I wish nobody had to go through this, I can just tell you that you are not alone and that It might be just there around the corner, we trully never know...

Lots of hugs

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lorraineb61

So sorry to see your news, never nice to see bad news on here. Well done on going for next cycle so soon. Xx

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