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As I thought- BFN

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Hey ladies

Just wanted to update you. Unfortunately as I had the feeling it was a no for me. I suspected from all the bleeding I have. Oh well it's not meant to be this time, but I will brush myself off and have some timeout to heal and pick myself up and start again. We will definitely try again but not till next year. For now . I am going to poor myself a large G and T as I bloody well deserve it and stuff myself with naughty treats! There's nothing I could or would have done differently, I did everything I could do I'm not going to have a pity party. It's time to look forward!

I wasn't sure what to expect with This journey as it was my first ivf and it's been tough. But I've realised how strong I am and how I'm not the only one suffering alone. I just want to say how commendable, brave strong all you women are who are going through this. If it wasn't for this network I really don't know where I could have turned to. I'm going to close my account for now but I will be back. I wish you all the best you truly do deserve it. Please don't give up hope, you can do this and you will get there,it might be a long tough journey but keep going strong πŸ’ͺ🏽 I salute you all. All the best! Love and light xxx

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Rainbow_86

I've been waiting for your update... I'm so so sorry..... it's so hard..... and so cruel after the build up and hope of the cycle to end like this.

That's good your giving yourself some breathing space before trying again. Enjoy your G & T.

I am thinking of you x

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Veekay80 in reply to Rainbow_86

Thank you Hun, I'll l be ok, I won't let this defeat me! I will be back and hopefully with a better outcome. Thank you for your support and best of luck to you xx

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Rainbow_86 in reply to Veekay80

I really admire your strength...... your attitude is so amazing. Thats good your gunna come back fighting for next cycle :) Thinking of you. Xxx

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Veekay80 in reply to Rainbow_86

🌈 ❀️😘

Aw I'm sorry to hear this! Hope your OK stay strong and enjoy that big G&T big hugs xxx

Pour one 4 me 🍹🍹🍹🍹🍹🍹

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I'll have a double for you 🍹🍹 good luck with your journey! X

So sorry to hear this. Take all the time you need and enjoy that G&T. All the best to you both xx

I am so sorry.....this journey is so hard and cruel. Take care and try and enjoy yourself xxπŸ’

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Amanda86

So sorry to hear this 😒 Take care xxx

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E_05

So sorry to read this, its such a cruel journey. You definitely are a strong lady, look after yourself and enjoy that g&t xx

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Veekay80 in reply to E_05

Thank you Hun, all the best for your journey too xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

So sorry to here this hun it's so cruel. It will happen hun. have a nice GnT pamper yourself and come back when your ready we'll all, be here for you. Big hugs πŸ€—πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜

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Veekay80 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv

Thank yo Hun, best wishes for your journey too x 🍹

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Veekay80

Thanks xx

Its hard to see but good you know you done everything. I was hoping as it wasn't for me this time it was going to be for you!!

Enjoy the g'n't and treats!! I ate my weight in chocolate fudge cake with a glass of fizz xx

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Veekay80 in reply to

Thank Hun, his was my first round of free ivf so whilst I'm greatful im also gutted as 5k is a lot of money not knowing if it will work again or not, this will be my 3rd year if trying, I've also tried 3 IUIs which also failed and naturally as well. We will find out at the consultation what we can try differently and I think I'm gonna go for the end scratch and anything else what might help too. I kinda see this just as a testing point and round 2 we will have a better chance. I hope you try again too, don't give up just yet , it will happen for you xx

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Tugsgirl

Brilliant positive attitude. I'm sorry about your bfn. See you here again some day and in the meantime, take care xx

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Veekay80 in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks chic, I has my few days of crying and sulking and got it out my system and I'll probably have a few more days in the future but it's only natural, I want dwell on it tho. I know it will happen, just a matter of when. I saw you had the endo scratch and it's something I'm thinking of doing for my next round. Did you find it made a massive difference? Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to Veekay80

I honestly don't know, all I can tell you is the first round I didn't and we got a bfn but the next two rounds I did and both were bfps... coincidence? Or something to it? It's supposed to have shown to be beneficial in studies done so far... Good luck xx

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Veekay80 in reply to Tugsgirl

I think I'm going to give it a go, nothing to lose eh! X

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7AVA

πŸ˜“ sorry to hear this Veekay xx

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Veekay80 in reply to 7AVA

Thank you, it's ok, shit happens. I will bounce back and one day I will get a BFP! 😊

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7AVA in reply to Veekay80

Good attitude and I'm sure you will xxx

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C_L_A_I_R_E

Thinking of you veekay! Definitely have time out to do the things you enjoy again. Love and hugs x

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Veekay80 in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E

Thanks Hun x

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Lynnr54

Sorry to hear that. This is such a cruel process! I think you're right to take some time for you and spoil yourself for a bit. x

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_MrsC

I'm so sorry to see this. It is absolutely rubbish but good for you for being positive and looking to the future. Thinking of you. xxx

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Leesalou

Big hugs sorry to read this, wishing you lots and lots of luck when your ready to start your next cycle. Take care xx

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N_M_10

So sorry to hear this. Enjoy your g&t you have an incredible attitude. Wish you well for the future. xx

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Fredaflintstone

So sorry to hear that Veekay. Was hoping you'd have a different result. You are one super strong lady! I felt devastated and heart broken after mine. I'm sure you are more than entitled to a pity party as well as a very large g and t, cakes, sweets and anything else that you've not been able to eat or drink. It's so bloody unfair and so hard to deal with. Be kind to yourself and each other. You did do all you could. If it doesn't work for us this coming time we will take time out til next year too. It's too much to keep going through it. That said I did find it helped me to heal when we had our follow up and a new plan. Sending you very big hugs, love, strength and hope for next time xxxx

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Veekay80 in reply to Fredaflintstone

Thanks Hun, oh I did have a good cry, the first few days I bled I knows it was over and I sulked and allowed myself to cry, I feel a lot better for it . I'm looking forward to my consultation and moving forward with my plan, hopefully round 2 will be a positive. Thank you for your support and good luck on your journey xx

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vic77

I am so so sorry. You sound so strong and that is the right attitude. Come back even stronger..u got this..now enjoy that gin xxx

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beauty1984

Im really sorry veekay such a difficult thing to go through, it's not an easy journey to be apart of, I admire your strength and positive attitude. Take all the time you need to process everything that's happened and come back when you're ready. 😊 all the best xx

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Veekay80 in reply to beauty1984

Thank you, all the best for your journey x x

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Macavela

awww MrsπŸ’” I'm gutted for you and OH, so unfair and truly crap. keep strong and do not lose your positive attitude, you will get your baby, don't give up but take time to let loose (aaaaalllllll the food and drink) thinking if you πŸ˜™πŸ˜™πŸ˜™πŸ˜™

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Veekay80 in reply to Macavela

Thanks Hun, all the best for your journey too! 😘

So sorry to hear this, enjoy you g&t and look after yourself xx

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NsKaz

So sorry to hear this. My first round was a bfn so know how painful it can be. U have an amazing attitude! Stay strong and enjoy the g&ts! Xxx

Oh no, I'm sorry to hear this. Great positive attitude though in what is a crappy situation. Wishing all the best on your next round!!! πŸ’•πŸ€žπŸΌβ€οΈπŸ™πŸΌ xxxx

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Nkoko

Ahhh so sorry for your loss...but your attitude is to die for! You go girl!!! Trust me I was low to many times but positive thinking, dusting off and trying again meant determination and persistence and trust me that is all you need. Only share with people who support your determination. With that attitude you are bound to get a bfp in the near future and a bfp that will be here to stay!!! Good luck and enjoy your break for only a little while. πŸ˜˜πŸ’‹πŸ‘πŸ½

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baby2016

Aww sorry to hear this, but your post is full of positivity and that definitely helps with this whole journey. Enjoy all the naughty treats, life is for living. Hope you keep your positivity in the coming weeks and months and fingers crossed it works for you next time xx

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Hayley5385

So sorry to hear that. First IVF experience really is tough in all respects. Good idea to allow yourself healing time and be kind to yourself. Big hugs xxx

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