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So it didn't work, I cried, I shouted, I cried some more. My husband was amazing, and now it's time to take a deep breath and have an incredibly large glass of wine. Life is unfair, nothing about this is right, but we will fight on.

Thanks for your support and good luck to you all xxxxxx

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Amanda86

So sorry to be reading this ☹️ It's such a tough journey 😢 Life can be so cruel!

Thinking of you. Take care xxx

So sorry to hear this, bfn's are so cruel. I admire you positive spirit, look after yourselves xxx

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Kelly-03

So so sorry to hear this x your an amazing lady and I so Hope that one day is your day. Take time now and I'm so pleased you have such a supportive husband too xx Take care xx

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lau_har1

So sorry to hear this. I hope that you get your BFP one day soon x

Oh god I'm so sorry to hear this. This situation is completely unfair. Thinking of you and wishing you the best xoxo

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Missy_22

Life is crap.....you will find the strength to keep going. I'm so sorry!! Take care of yourself xx

I'm so sorry to see your news 😢 Thinking of you, take care xxxx

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Louiloo

Geez...I'm so sorry, Aleelilook! Dear, I'm holding your hands and praying for you to cope with that ... God bless your husband! It's painful to know that it didn't work, but I'm so happy to read that you have a person by your side who's supporting you, who's there even when you cry and shout, who's there to pour you some wine. That's so important!!! Just think about that, how blessed you are having such a husband! I'm really happy to know THAT! Hug you, darling. Hope it's getting better or gonna get not so painful soon ... xxx

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Cazo

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's so unfair. I am still feeling lost after getting my BFN on Thursday. I hope you manage to find some well deserved luck at some point xx

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E_05

So sorry to read this, your right life is so cruel! Enjoy your glass of wine and take care of yourself xx

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Honeypie36

I'm so sorry to hear... I know how the 2ww can be torture and getting a BFN is the worst... wishing u much success if you decide to try again....

So sorry to hear this take care of yourselfs x

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Leesara

Sorry you are having such a horrible horrible time. Thinking of you

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Tugsgirl

So sorry xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Sorry hun. Look after yourself and try keep positive. It will happen one day xx

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katya38

Really sorry to hear this it just sucks xx

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Rainbow_86

I'm so gutted to read this..... so so sorry xxx

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CountryCat

So sorry to read this - it is so unjust!!

Thinking of you and greatly admire your brave spirit xxx

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Aleelilook

Thank you so much for all your lovely messages xxxx

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_MrsC

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you a big hug! xxx

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Aleelilook

It's unexplained infertility, first round was due to poor embryo quality, second we had a miscarriage and this one the embryos were really good on day 1, but 6 had stopped progressing by day 5, and we had only one poor quality blastocyst to put back.

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vic77

I am so sorry honey. It is just so shitty. There are no words really. Have the wine, have a cry, a good cuddle and give yourself time to regroup and think what next. Sending hugs xx

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PB265

I am terrified of this happening, I don't know how you process it and keep smiling. I guess it's the same as when you first are told you have to have IVF?

I am sorry it's not your time this time x

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Aleelilook in reply toPB265

It's hard lovely, but like any shitty situation you find a way to cope xxx

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AllyBell88

I'm so sorry take care xx

I'm so sorry aleelilook it's just heart breaking and massively unfair take care of yourself xxx

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NsKaz

I'm so so sorry to hear this. Sending you massive hugs xxxx

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Lou9

I'm really sorry 😔 Xx

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baby2016

Sorry to read this, it's such a crushing thing to see a negative. Look after yourself, keep going and always have hope xx

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Clare_lou

I'm so sorry. Life is really incredibly unfair! You two look after each other xx

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Fredaflintstone

So sorry. It's so hard to deal with and so cruel and unfair. Sending you a big hug. We had a failed transfer in June and have slowly got our heads around it and are looking at trying again soon. It's so hard though and first there is a grieving process. Be kind to yourself and each other. We found we retreated into ourselves a bit even with each other but we soon went back to being affectionate with each other like we usually are. Give yourself time. Thinking of you xxx

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. It's terribly cruel journey at times. Take care of yourselves. Xx

So sorry to hear this lovey, you have had a mix of positives and lows through your treatment.

I hope you clinic are able to offer some advice and feedback xx

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