Hi I'm new here...

[amyw_15]

Hiya everyone!

I've just had my first appointment at my local fertility clinic and they gave me a leaflet for fertility network uk and told me to join and have a look.

Me and my husband have been trying to conceive for around 2 years and we found out late last year that my husband has varicocele which could be causing infertility. He had in April to try and fix it but unfortunately it didn't work.

We've now been referred to the fertility centre local to us to see if they can help us... my head is everywhere at the moment and I feel like all I'm seeing is babies and pregnant ladies! Which I'm finding really hard to deal with - does anyone else feel the same?

We're hoping 2017 is our year and the fertility clinic can work their magic to help us! Would be nice to have people to chat to while we're going through it all so feel free to say hi

I'm sending happy positive thoughts to you all!

Thanks for reading!

Amy xx

[E_05]

Hey, welcome to the forum 😊 everything your describing sounds perfectly 'normal' to me. It's definitely a tough journey and I've learnt to take it day by day. Some days I'm emotionally able to deal with seeing baby clothes and pregnant women and others I have to leave the shopping centre cause I don't feel strong enough. I think everyone develops their own coping strategies but this is a great place to have a vent or a chat.

Have you got your apt yet for the fertility clinic? X

[amyw_15 in reply to E_05]

Hi!

Thanks for you reply I'm glad it's not just me! Some days I'm perfectly fine other days I feel like I'm carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders!

We had an appointment on 5th July - just a chat and I had to have bloods taken. We're going back again on 14th July for my husband to do another sample and then we've got an appointment on 25th July to get the results of my tests and my husbands sample. They said following that appointment we'll be booked in to see a doctor in the Andrology department to see if they can aspirate the sperm xx

[E_05]

I totally get that and unfortunately it doesn't get an easier. I think some how you just get use to the 'fertility life' that it will consist of apts and medication not that it stops you having bad days.

That all sounds really positive and good that your apt's aren't that far apart at the moment. Hopefully on the 25th you'll get a bit more info about treatment and everything to xx

[amyw_15 in reply to E_05]

No I've learnt that! It's been a tough 10 months but I've learnt who cares and you doesn't with hasn't been very nice but I'm learning now to only share with those who care!

Hoping once the 25th is here the appointment to see Andrology won't be too far away as that's going to be the important appointment and getting the help we need so fingers crossed!

How are you getting on with your fertility journey? xx

[E_05 in reply to amyw_15]

That is so true, it's a hard thing realising people you thought would support your journey don't on top of everything else your going through.

Definitely, will keep everything crossed for you both to 🤞

I'm starting my 2nd fresh cycle of IVF on the 20th. I had my first fresh cycle last year and feel pregnant but miscarried. Then had 2 FET cycles which were both unsuccessful so been a particularly tough old year and like you I've lost a lot of people throughout it but trying to stay positive about this cycle. I only found this forum a couple of months ago but it's been such a support wish I'd had it from the beginning of our journey xx

[amyw_15 in reply to E_05]

I'm glad the doctor told us about it, I've been having a look round and looks like a great forum of support!

Thanks for your crossed fingers. Mine are crossed for you too 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xx

[E_05 in reply to amyw_15]

Thank you, yeah you'll definitely get lots of support here x

[ch319]

Hello and welcome and good luck on your journey. I'm sure you will find heaps of advice and support on here xx

[amyw_15 in reply to ch319]

Thank you ☺️ xx

[Hidden]

Hi Amy. You're definitely not alone with your feelings. I had a massive meltdown a week ago (mid 2ww after first cycle of IUI) as I was at a bbq FULL of babies and children. I was asked how many kids I had (er, none), told "by the time you have children..." - I couldn't escape it. Anyway, I found out yesterday that our treatment hadn't worked so it's back to the drawing board. It's a tough journey, as you know, but it's really supportive here. Good luck with your upcoming appointments. X

[amyw_15 in reply to Hidden]

Hiya! Thanks for your reply. Sorry about your news hope you're ok 😘 I'm at that point where all my friends have children or are about to have babies - it's so tough! But we'll all get through it together! Thanks for the luck. Sending it your way too xx

[Jonesjp]

Hi Amy, you'll find this forum really helpful, the ladies are all lovely and really supportive and there's always someone hear to talk too. Good luck on your journey x x x

[amyw_15 in reply to Jonesjp]

Thank you ☺️ xx

[ClarabGlasgow]

Welcome ! You are not alone I feel exactly the same about seeing pregnant bumps everywhere and having just sound out my sister and sister in law are pregnant without much trying I'm finding it even harder. My sister knows my situation but struggles to understand my feelings. I am having a bad few days which only puts me out of the bd mood too. This network is great for finding out what's ahead, sharing the worries and celebrating the bfps of which there seem to be many! Good luck to you both xx

[amyw_15 in reply to ClarabGlasgow]

I know the exact feeling! Hope you're ok and good luck! xx