So after much thought this is me signing off and abandoning IVF as an option.
I've not made it past down regulation and whilst I could retry next month this process has already damaged my health in the here and now and I have a cyst to deal with I didn't have before.
My ambition to have a family is just not all consuming for me, my health here and now is more important to me than what might happen after months of pumping drugs into my system.
So I'm not carrying on with IVF at this stage unless my hubby does a very good job of motivating me and will take some time out from this to get myself back up there as a priority.
Good luck to you all you're all more focused and positive about IVF as treatment than I can be and you deserve great things to happen for you 😘
Hi there. I empathise massively with you. I keep battling with wanting a baby but also wanting a life and my mental health back. It's so so hard. We'll done for doing this bit up to now. It takes massive strength and courage and reserve. Maybe time out will help you clear your mind to how you want to move forwards. Good luck.
Thanks glad I'm not the only one feeling this way. For me it's about known knowns I know what my life is like now and mostly where it could go without a baby, I can't find the motivation I need to get through this and risk my actual real life and health now on something that's unknown I'm very practically minded and I see no point in desperately wanting something I probably can't have and can't make happen and now even trying IVF against all my instincts and it's not even started well and my health is damaged so early on physical and some very real mental stresses then to me chasing a what if is just not a priority.
I would listen to that voice telling you you need to stop and like you're saying take some time out. Ploughing on while you feel like that is never gonna be good for your mind or body. I never ever realised how much of a head f&£k it would be trying to conceive and failing, then starting all the fertility treatment. All along I've hated how much this quest for a baby has played havoc with my self esteem my social life my relationship. Everything. I often have questioned whether the quest for a baby is worth this price. I guess you can only answer that if you have one. You're not alone in how you feel. I found this site/community called Gateway Women for women who don't have children (not through choice). I really wish you well! X
Thanks that's really helpful for me to read your response and I couldn't agree more. I will stand by my decision and its consequences I did feel hard pushed down the IVF route via the NHS and I felt obliged to do it and or like I'd be an ungrateful cow if it didn't at least try but this is not for me!
I think your very brave to make this decision and maybe some time out to focus on your health will help you decide what's best for you and your husband. I agree this treatment is mentally and physically gruelling it really consumes your life - good luck for everything in your future xx
Thanks Alice, for me it's the level of intervention full stop I accept now it will either happen on it's own with my one good ovary and tube or not at all but IVF and all steps beyond are not for me.
Trouble is for me I'm very healthily I doe half marathons I'm at the gym 6 days a week and this process has challenged me mentally and physically and now I because of the drugs I have got a cyst.
Also history of breast cancer in my family and to get a cyst so early on was the final stage of doubt for me in IVF
I'm sorry you're not feeling great. I think you are a very brave lady to come to such a decision at this time. Sometimes I have wondered if I'm mad or stupid to keep going. It is so tough and definitely not right for everyone. Don't forget nothing is final. You can re-evaluate things further down the line. Just look after yourself whatever you decide x
In all honestly today I feel so relieved to have opted out of IVF and I already feel I have some of my life back in my control again and feel free!
. I know that feeling well of wondering whether this is worth putting ourselves through- i had a wobble day yesterday and that is just because it's the first time TTC since the surgery and the thought of failure is terrifying. Its hard to keep picking yourselves up time after time and it can feel relentless.
I think you're right to put your health first - I put our trying on hold when I was having chronic pain( endo,) which has now be resolved. Sometimes you have to become first priority. I hope your cyst gets sorted out soon- my mum had one years ago and she was in much pain with it- it's not nice. By the time surgery date the cyst had gone and the body had resaborbed it!
You must do what is right for you and who knows perhaps less stressed you may just fall naturally.
I want to wish you the best for the future and I hope you find happiness. Think you're brave to do what's right for you. xoxo
Just wanted to agree and say I think you are super brave for sticking to what feels right..... I hope whatever you decide and the path ahead brings you happiness..... and to be content.... take care of yourself xxxx
It's such a personal decision and obviously only one you can make. Good luck for the future xx
Best of luck for the future there are no right or wrong choices in all of this but well done for being true to yourself. I hope you find peace and happyness wherever you journey takes you xxx
I understand your decision and wish you all the best in the future. I don't know all your circumstances and I really hope I don't upset or offend but if your decision was partly based on complications with down regulating, as I understand it, you don't down regulate with the short protocol. Just something to consider if, with time your feelings change. All the very best. It is such a personal journey and you have shown bravery and courage being true to yourself. Xxxx
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