I thought I'd see what You lovely ladies thought as I'm sure we've all had to do it! My employers are not the nicest and it's mostly male environment quite tough and toxic. There is no way I would tell them about treatment until I'm pregnant and pat the 3 months as my gen manager would things difficult or maybe even dismiss me (I never know how he'll react to things and he's not treated a couple of the other women hlwho worked here very well really.
I've already said I have a medical appt. just joked that the machinery isn't working as it should and my gen manager was actually supportive last year after my large gynae surgery but I didn't go into specifics with him. They are aware as I have had to take tablets and can't bend down for too long. What do I say about Wednesday without raising suspicion and courting questions? I'm a private person anyway and there's some quite creepy guys so I just keep stuff close to my chest. Any suggestions welcome.
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Could you perhaps say it's a follow up appt from last years surgery to make sure things are as they should be (without then going in to too much detail) like a 12 month check up type thing? the consultant could write you a letter if need be to say your appt is at such and such a time if they want proof without putting anything about the clinic perhaps? Hopefully they won't require a letter confirmation though X
Thankyou 😀Yup Im just worried they'll ask where it is as they are nosey and any hint they'll jump on it. Terrified of losing job. Was v grumpy today and boss noticed! Asked me if anything he can do to make me happier .. we leave me alone perhaps! Ooh that's mean isn't it! Deffo feeling the affects since this morning which is crazy as on day 17 of bus I think now!
I think I'm just going to say it's private if asked about where and continue with medical check up as still not quite right from last years op! That way next appts won't be so weird right! Egg collection I'm using 'holiday' and taking adv of bank hold days over Easter and just said going away. I need a rest I think. Doing this for two people and I'm getting v tired.
Your welcome it can't imagine how hard it is when you have to worry about work, my work have been great and just let me get on with it I'll either say Im coming in or Im not and they accept that (but they do know about the ivf) i work for a major UK bank so they have a great HR policy around ivf whereby no one can say anything to you.
Good luck with your EC Im hoping to be in having mine over the easter weekend xx
Thankyou! Yup it's tricky. Not had the best time there really but it's not a good time to change jobs so I've just had to make best of it. 😀. This whole sit Deffo made me more assertive and stand up for what's right! I miss working for a multinational as they have great policies. Oh well. Hey depending on what happens tommorrow for me we are kind of cycle buddies as hoping to EC around the 18th April depending 😀 Really good luck!
Medical appointment should be enough. If you really feel you need to give further information keep it brief & general, perhaps ongoing investigations, especially as you're going to have regular appointments as part of your fertility treatment. You don't need to tell anyone else if you don't want to. Could you arrange appointments before or after work or take a long lunch? I know this isn't always possible if you're under the NHS. The clinic may be able to provide an official appointment card to "prove" your appointments are genuine and they can keep it general "gynaecological" rather than for fertility appointment.
I'm in a similar position with a heavily male environment so I haven't told work either. Have just told my boss I need to have a few tests. Am planning on mixing that excuse with bogus dentist appointments and booking a couple of Work from home days. Hoping the mix of excuses will throw them off the scent!
Hope you manage to come up with something you're comfortable with, work is just another stress that you could really do without at the moment heh? X
Hi Hersgoesthen77. You could "self certify" for the day for follow-up medical appointment. No need to explain, that's your business. Your GP could sign you off for a day too if necessary. Good luck with whatever you decide, and for Wednesday's scan. Diane
Thanks lovely! I've taken the half day as hols but told them it's for a check up medical and that things aren't working as they should be i.e. The machinery!
They gossip and discuss why people are off anyway so they'll have a field day with that one! But at the end of the day it doesn't matter does it is suppose as long as they let me have the day off. Wouldn't want to go back after appt anyway.
Hey Diane and all you lovely helpful ladies! Thanks for your kind words! In the end asked colleague who does hours if I could self cert and she gave me absence form and just said put Hosp appt and don't use your hols. After op last yr boss carried some sick days over from this year so don't really have any sick days left. She also said you don't take the piss with days off etc so it's fine. Meeting in morning with manager and will say my scan next week is tests. Having to change days round as have training. Pissed off have to change scan days in my treatment because I'm training away but I will work it out. Nothing will stand in the way!
Thanks Diane. I'll mention in passing to my boss today it's guaranteed to gross him out. I've booked as hols anyway so in some ways don't need to explain anything.
Any further appts i.e. After ec I'll do what u suggested. Just try and be nicer to people at work I think! 😉🤗 oooh the raging hormones!
Thanks all for your replies, I hope I answered all of you back. How supportive are you lot brilliant!
I've used Dr's appointment, dentist for emergency filling, and the one for least questions make it about your husband. He's having dental surgery under gas and can't drive home etc.
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