So we had our first round of IVF last October which didn't work out. We spoke about taking some time off and to try again in April (or around Easter time).
I have had this in mind and have been on an array of pills from consultant to prep myself for then. And now hubby saying let's just hold off on the treatment and doesn't want to do another round yet. I'm quite upset about this as I feel like I'm the one taking all the meds for nothing. I'm not getting any younger. It just sucks.
Could you take to him and explain that you're already prepped for this round? Seems a shame to put that all to waste. Especially if he still wants to do ivf he's not saying stop altogether xx
So I've not started the round yet but been on metformin and other meds to prep for it. Problem is work and taking the time off. He's a medic so it's not easy to write off a month for treatment
Oh bless you, how frustrating 
Definitely worth sitting down and talking to him about it again given that you've been working towards this April timeline and being preparing your body for it.
Has he said why he wants to hold off? If it is because he is feeling worried or anxious about it would he be open to having the counselling that they offer as part of the process? Or if it's more a matter of him not being able to take the time off work, is there any flexibility you can agree on with him in terms of which appointments he comes to (other than the day where his services would def be required of course!!).
I hope he comes round for you and you can both get to the same place in terms of next steps and timing. Lots of luck xxx
Awwww darling thats very sad news. What an awfull situation to be in. That is totally not fair on you. I feel he should have communicated earlier rather than after youve taken all the pills thats so heart breaking. Ur a tough cookie he needs to be strong for you and support u all the way. I pray he comes round. Xxx..thinking of you
I'm just so drained out its not something that we been through overnight it's been our life for years. I can totally see where he's coming from. But it's like the clock is ticking away and I'm sure so are my chances 😢
O honey i can understand you must be exhausted. I understand that this is very important for u than anything else and uve put ur body through all that.ithink work just has to take back seat this time. Sorry if im being a bit to much. I just feel so sad for you honestly im so sorry for this. I deeply pray for u. Lottttssssss of love.xxxx
I'm really sorry to hear this, its hard when you depend on another person to make your dreams come true. It does sound like he's just tired and wary in addition to all the work conmitments. The only thing I personally would do is to gather up my strength, sit him down and explain, and not expect him to come with you to all the appointments. Many of us have done it on our own and it's not half as scary as it sounds. Get more support from family and friends, and of course from here, which takes some strain away from him. It doesn't seem fair but then again if life was fair none of us would be in this forum, right? I hope you two can reach some kind of a compromise. Lots of hugs xoxo
It's not the appointments as I do them all myself (apart from egg collection and transfer). It's more the unpredictability of dates as with IVF everything depends on how well you're responding and you don't get dates in advance. With hubby having patients himself already booked to see him. You can't really cancel your patient last min. It added a lot of pressure last time around with our IVF as so hard to be flexible through the cycle. Sorry a bit confusing.
If it's only two appointments (or actually really only one) where you really need him, I hope you can both work around it! If not, look for a compromise in not so distant future. It's very stressful but all worth it I hope. Fingers crossed and all the best xoxo
I really hope you two are able to talk and continue with your plan of starting treatment in April. It's such a hard situation for the both of you, but like the others have said it's shame he hadn't said this before you started your pre-meds.
Wishing you all the best and sending you big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxx
We spoke yesterday and we've decided to take a break from IVF for a while and just enjoy being with each other. We are so close and love each other deeply. It's an incredibly heartbreaking thing to go through IVF and miscarriages. We need time to heal and after our talk we realised we just need to be us for a while. Thanks for your comments x
Sounds like the right thing to do, IVF puts so much stress on relationship. I wish you all the luck, and look forward to hearing all about your treatment when you start again. Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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