Single and IVF

[Stickycarrot]

Hi

I'm single, 39 years old and may need IVF. Just wondering if there's anyone out there who is going through anything similar as me. Would be good to share/talk about similar experiences

[HD76]

Hi I'm on my own and 40. Just had my first round but it seems to have failed. I was warned of this though. My body gone in to shock I think lol. I'd be happy to chat x

[Stickycarrot in reply to HD76]

Would love to chat, thank you. It's a lonely process when doing it on your own and I don't know what questions to ask or anything. My mind is still processing all of this.

Sorry that your first cycle failed. What's the next step?

[Hidden]

Hello I'm 37 and single. I've had a crappy year with a diagnosis of severe endometriosis, lots do deal with and when I finally made the decision to try and have a baby on my own it felt like forever getting to this point!! So I'm saying good riddance 2016 and a mahoosive HELLO 2017 as I start my meds next week.

I know I'll need more surgery for my endo and have got have a kidney removed as a result but my drs are happy for me to do the baby thing first so I'm hoping beyond hope my body will behave and this time next year I'll have just enjoyed my baby's first Christmas.

Happy to talk and answer any questions you may have. I know talking on here helps as it's a difficult process to go thru on your own.

All the best to you xx

[Stickycarrot in reply to Hidden]

Hi. Thanks for your reply.

That's a major ordeal. Hope you're ok and good luck with the mess next week. Do you have the support of your family/friends?

[Stickycarrot in reply to Stickycarrot]

Meds* not mess

[Hidden in reply to Stickycarrot]

I do have great friends and family. I've only told a handful of people and only told my parents a couple of weeks back coz wasn't sure how they'd be.

I've struggled coming to terms with the challenges my health has presented coz had always considered myself fit and healthy before all this. I'm trying to put the daunting thought of at least two more surgeries to the back of mind and concentrate on my dream of having a baby. I'm trying to stay positive but it's a mixture of emotions tbh. I'm fortunate to have supportive people around me, hope you do to x

[MARTINA1]

Great to know I'm not the only one thinking of having a baby on my own, please keep me posted on your stories ladies xx

[Stickycarrot in reply to MARTINA1]

Hi. Sometimes a woman just has to get in with it, right? I'm 40 this year and drs keep telling me time is short.

What's your story?

[Stickycarrot in reply to Stickycarrot]

*on not in

[MARTINA1]

Yes absolutely. I'm nearly 43 so time is of the essence

[Stickycarrot in reply to MARTINA1]

How come you're choosing the IVF route?

[MARTINA1]

I haven't thought any which way as yet, I have to have a large fibroid removed next week so that's why I'm on here, but I am thinking of possible IVF on my own. Went to a clinic in Harley st in the summer and can consider it after my op and also need to lose a bit of weight

[Stickycarrot in reply to MARTINA1]

I've been going to the Harley street clinic also initially to have an IUI but after tests found that I i need to have a cyst removed and tested (hopefully it hasn't affected the tube) and uterine polyp removed prior to treatment then I can proceed, hopefully won't have to wait long before treatment. I didn't even consider IVF before last Thursday. I thought my goods were in good working condition but they said one of my ovaries appear stagnant and I have a low egg number. I feel as though the pressure is really on but I'm ready for it. Got to try.

[MARTINA1 in reply to Stickycarrot]

Yes, I'm going to give myself this year and possibly a slim chance at 44.... whatever will be, will be and there's always adoption

[Jaky76]

Hi Stickycarrot ...... Loving your user name. Lovely to hear from you...I am single and been on IVF route with Donor sperm for last 2 years....great to see quite a few of us ladies. I have just turned 40, had Gynae problems all my life and had couple of operations, left tube out, Cysts removed and drained and since Divorce 10 years ago have not met the one and with family support Joined a Harley street clinic too...had 3 fresh transfers with 2 Blastocysts and a frozen cycle in November with last one Embryo but sadly BFN...on round 2 and 3 fell pregnant so know I can but lost a single and twin pregnancy. I have to say I have not felt comfortable with my clinic but was tied in, and now I have cut my ties and have started the ball rolling for treatment in Greece. I have been advised I should look at Egg Donors now as this possible why losing my pregnancies and obviously sad my chance over at using own eggs but I am actually ok with it and eager to get started in a new environment.

So you under clinic but have not started treatment yet..is this right? Happy to chat...wishing you all the best Jackie x

[Stickycarrot in reply to Jaky76]

Hi Jackie

Good to hear from you.

I've been hearing a bit about clinics abroad being good. I hear Cyprus clinics are also effective. Are they cheaper?

I don't know how I would do this abroad... think time off work would be problematic.

How did you find Harley Street? I'm in two minds about them so far but willing to give them a try. Will see what my GP recommends also.

I'm still digesting all of this. I've been reading lots about IVF and doing my research. I find that time passing by causes the biggest stress.

[MARTINA1]

That's interesting to hear Jackie, I'm Martina, just looking at options at the moment. So clinic in Greece is better than Harley St?

[Jaky76]

Hi ladies, nice to hear from you...well this is in my experience...I signed up with a certain Harley street clinic for 3 rounds of ivf...it was buy 2 get 3rd free type of scenario...but what was not clear was all the add ons...it has cost a small fortune...all 3 rounds embryos made to blastocyst so another £600, to freeze one embryo £600, medication was through the roof..£1500 plus each time, a blood test gp could not do £70, but it was not the money really, my main thing was care..I got chopped and changed to people who did not read my notes even, reception staff clearly in wrong field and always felt uncomfortable, like a burden..I been going there 2 years and never got better. I feel a weight lifted to be out of there, have all my notes which scanned and sent to new clinic. This I chose as friend of mine has a son and twin girls through same people, she had egg donor, which is what I need. I met them at Olympia fertility show and straight away felt at ease. Things are cheaper and not all the add one, got this clarified at beginning.they say I would need 2 nights in Athens. But I probably needed UK clinic to give me confidence to go abroad as was not brave at start and overseas clinics were not advertised as much. Think this is hard enough, just feel tlc and a friendly face important. My family live in Turkey and so cheap there but as I am divorced and using donor they don't allow single woman, heard Cyprus good too but Turkish side of Cyprus again won't treat unmarried women...

Starting out there is so much to take in and yes the waiting is hard...this forum should really help as most people great and the support between people is fantastic..wishing you both loads of luck Jackie x

[Stickycarrot in reply to Jaky76]

Thanks Jackie.

So when do you go to Athens for your treatment?

I wish you all the best. Stay determined!

[HD76]

It's helped me a lot to know there are other single ladies out there doing this x

[Stickycarrot in reply to HD76]

Me too! I thought I was the only one!

[Cathie-K]

I'm not single but I've loved reading your storie. I wish you & all you ladies the best of luck in world. Xx

[Jaky76]

Proud to be single...I have got so many miserable friends with partners or crappy ex's that they constantly moan... so I thought I am happy to go without a man...well at present...Waiting for Mr Right..

My prescription due anytime and start pill to try to Sync in for End of February so would go then, Possible match found for me so fingers crossed...

What a great link and hope it continues...Lots of Love Jackie x

[Nesfin]

Hi everyone, just to let you know that I'm single and on the wrong side of forty. The idea of IVF was with me for some time before I suddenly woke up one morning feeling anxious and miserable and threw myself at the mercy of a clinic in London (not Harley Street!). They are transparent about the cost, very professional and you get to know the people pretty well. They have an associated clinic in Prague too if anyone wishes to look at an option abroad. The only negative thing I would say is that some of them don't handle setbacks that easily and I felt very isolated a few times. But then again there's nothing anyone can say to make you feel better when things go wrong. You will find more help and support from here than from any clinic (in my opinion). I reckon once you get the ball rolling it becomes like second nature. It is overwhelming and incredibly tough at times but my personal advice to anyone getting older - if you want to give yourself a chance to become a parent, do it sooner rather than later. I wasted too much time pondering whether I was ready and all that. I do freak out at times but have never regretted that I've started this journey. Anyone with similar thoughts is welcome to connect 😊😊 xoxo

[Stickycarrot in reply to Nesfin]

Hi Nesfin

Thank you for your response

How long have you been trying for?

I have to have an op to remove a cyst from my only good ovary first before I can have IVF so it's a waiting game at the mo. Frustrated that I have to wait but hopefully in a few months I can go forward, depending on outcome from the surgery, as the cyst is not actually on my ovary but seems to be where my Fallopian tube is so I don't know what that actually will mean but I'm reading up on it as much as I can as the GPs don't say much.

[Nesfin]

Oh Hun good luck with your surgery!! Hope you get everything sorted and can start treatment.. it's tough waiting for treatment, tough waiting during the treatment and tough waiting after the treatment lol!! I've been TTC for years sort of on and off, and started ivf last year in July. its been a rocky road, hopefully the lil beanie inside of me now will stay there!! Keep in touch xoxo